Female Ejaculation - MTV's Loveline
Todd Hawley
On Tue, 01 Apr 1997 21:53:28 -0700, "Ross R. Lasley"
<ro...@plainbrown.com> wrote:
>I'm posting this information in response to a large number of e-mails I
>received today. As always, I will return all questions but I'm currently
>a bit behind, hence the post.
>
>This is about Female Ejaculation, a subject that was raised on the MTV
After reading this post, I decided to post the following G-spot FAQ I
downloaded quite awhile ago. Yeah, it's old, but there's some good
info here as well:
From str...@u.washington.edu Thu Aug 4 11:08:51 PDT 1994
Newsgroups: alt.sex
Subject: Female Ejaculation (G-Spot) FAQ Repost
Date: 3 Aug 1994 07:14:18 GMT
Organization: University of Washington
Not done by me, but I edited out the header a long time ago :) Enjoy-
and maybe post a male prostate faq too :)
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Ejaculation in Females
Contents:
HISTORY
FLUID CHARACTERISTICS
MAJOR PROBLEMS WITH WOMEN EJACULATING
REASON FOR FEMALE EJACULATION
PREPARATION
TECHNIQUE
HISTORY
If you were to refer to literature over the last 50 years you would
be lead to believe that females have only been able to ejaculate
since about 1980. Of course this is absurd, and just shows how "the
experts" can be wrong for decades on just about anything. Many
knew the experts were wrong, but had little success in convincing
anyone. Needless to say this lead to many problems, needless
surgery (to fix the poor women who would ejaculate), expensive
counseling (got to find out what happened when they were children
to cause this "problem"), and in some cases divorce. "The G Spot"
by Alice Kahn Ladas, Beverly Whipple, and John D. Perry, has dozens
of letters from women who went though various personal tragedies
because they would ejaculate during lovemaking. Doctors,
gynocologists, and psychiatrists invariably told them they were
peeing and needed either surgery or psychotherapy.
Newsweek published an article entitled "Just How the Sexes Differ"
in May of 1981. One of the major difference was listed was that
men ejaculate, but women do not. However, Aristotal wrote about
female ejaculation, and Galen knew about it in the second century.
The female prostrate, which generates the fluid which is
ejaculated, was described in some detail by De Graaf in his "New
Treatise Concerning the Generative Organs of Women". (1) "...
during the sexual act it discharges to lubricate the tract so
copiously that it even flows outside the pudenda. This is the
matter which may have been taken to be actual female semen." He
describes the fluid as "rushing out" with "impetus" and "in one
gush." (2)
The medical community was finally awakened in 1980 when Perry and
Whipple showed a film of a female ejaculating to the SSSS (Society
for the Scientific Study of Sex). Martin Weisberg, M.D., a
gynecologist at Thomas Jefferson University Hospital in
Philadelphia responded, "Bull ... I spend half my waking hours
examining, cutting apart, putting together, removing, or
rearranging female reproductive organs. There is no female
prostrate, and women don't ejaculate." (3)
Yet after seeing the film and witnessing the event in person he
changed his tune: "The vulva and vagina were normal with no
abnormal masses or spots. The urethra was normal. Everything was
normal. She then had her partner stimulate her by inserting two
fingers into the vagina and stroking along the urethra lengthwise.
To our amazement, the area began to swell. It eventually became a
firm one by two cm oval area distinctly different from the rest of
the vagina. In a few moments the subject seemed to perform a
Valsalva maneuver (bearing down as if starting to defecate) and
seconds later several cc's of milky fluid shot out the urethra.
The material analysis described in the paper (Perry & Whipple's)
is correct, its composition was closest to prostatic fluid". (4)
FLUID CHARACTERISTICS
The ejaculate is very much like prostrate fluid. It is usually
clear, or milky and as thin as water. It does not have the look,
smell or taste of urine. It is almost odorless. The taste varies,
depending on the time of the month and diet, and possibly other
factors, such as amount of stimulation received prior to
ejaculating or time since the last ejaculation. It can vary from
an almost honey sweet, sour, bitter, or a combination of these
tastes.
Even though it is ejaculated from the urethra, it is most
definitely not urine. It is absolutely impossible to pee during
a orgasm unless there is a weak pubococcygeus muscle. This is very
important, and it is important for the female and her partner to
both understand this. The pubococcygeus muscle contracts when
terminating a stream of urine, and is the muscle which contracts
during orgasm. This contraction helps prevent retrograde
ejaculation (ejaculation back into the bladder), and of course
prevents the bladder from draining during orgasm.
MAJOR PROBLEMS WOMEN HAVE EJACULATING
I think there are two major problems women face that prevents them
from the immensely enjoyable experience of ejaculation.
They are the female's mental attitude, and their partners inability
or unwillingness to spend the time and effort during lovemaking and
to learn the necessary techniques.
We will address both of these problems and the solutions here.
REASON FOR FEMALE EJACULATION
The ejaculation is done through the urethra. This is the same tube
that is used for urination. It is located outside the vagina,
between it and the clitoris. The fluid is water like, and non-
lubricating. In no way does ejaculation improve the chances of
conceiving, it offers no lubrication, and is dumped outside of the
vagina. The only conceivable purpose of female ejaculation is for
pleasure. And the pleasure is intense, in many cases far
surpassing the best orgasm's. Often ejaculation takes place during
both a clitoral and a vaginal orgasm (yes there are two type of
orgasms, clitoral and vaginal, but often orgasm is a combination of
the two), giving the female extreme pleasure, sort of a triple whammy.
Sometimes after ejaculation the female will virtually pass out from
the intense feelings.
It can be argued that since the only reason that females can and
do ejaculate is for pleasure, then there should be no reason for
them to not do so, and as often as they please. It is one of the
safer sex acts, since in most cases it can be triggered with
fingers alone. Ejaculating from intercourse is more difficult,
especially when performed from the missionary position, but still
possible.
PREPARATION
The following preparation is recommend for the female's partner:
Wash hands well. Trim fingernails. Make sure that the thumb, and
first two finger nails do not extend past the fingertips. Trimming
them as far back as possible would be best. Make sure that there
is no dirt or crud under the fingernails.
Place a towel on the bed. A surprising amount of fluid can be
released during female ejaculation. Compared to a male it can be
like a water cannon instead of a water pistol.
Have some K&Y Jelly handy. At some point additional lubrication
may be necessary, even if she is having heavy orgasms and climaxes.
Set aside enough time. The first successful ejaculation may take
from 10 minutes to over an hour.
It may be wise to exercise your hands, fingers, and arm for several
days prior to this exercise. The motions necessary can become
quite tiring after a while if you are not in good physical shape.
Before beginning the first time, discuss it. Let her know that you
are striving to give her an ejaculation. That female ejaculation
is perfectly normal, and a wonderful experience for both of you.
Convince her that there is nothing to be embarrassed about or
ashamed of. Explain that just prior to ejaculation, she most likely
will feel like she is about to pee. This is a difficult point for
many women, as they will immediately draw back. Convince her that
it is normally impossible to pee during an orgasm, and that the
feeling is simply the first sign she is about to ejaculate. Since
the movement of the fluid through the urethra will initially feel
exactly like when she starts to pee, this is very important. The
reflex to stop peeing will immediately abort the ejaculation, so
she needs to be told to relax, and allow the fluid to pass. In
other words when she feels like she is about to pee, she should go
ahead and pee. Only it really won't be pee, it will be an
ejaculation, and within a couple of seconds it will be very obvious
to her that this is something quite different. Once she knows the
feeling, she will be able to push it out once it starts, with
astounding results. It is best for the partner to be sitting
between her legs at this time, else she may overshoot the towel or
even wet the far wall.
Once she has ejaculated, rejoice with her. Don't make fun, or a
joke. If you do it may be the last time she will be able to
ejaculate, at least in your presence. Unlike a man, this is not
the end. You can continue, and she may well have multiple orgasms
and ejaculations with further stimulation.
TECHNIQUE
Start slow. Use typical foreplay. You may want to start with her
on her back. Stimulate the clitoris. This can be done with a
moist finger, or with your tongue. Performing cunnilingus while
rubbing her breasts with your hands can be quite stimulating for
her. At any rate, continue clitoral stimulation until she is
lubricated. At this point slide two fingers into her vagina.
Allow them to move along the front wall of the vagina. You should
encounter an area about 2 inches in, which should be somewhat
enlarged. This is the G spot. It lies directly along the urethra,
and is located almost directly behind the clitoris. Slowly stroke
this area. It should start becoming more enlarged.
Ejaculation is almost always triggered by stimulating the G spot.
Clitoral stimulation can often assist in helping her reach an
ejaculation, and also can make it more intense. But stimulating
the G spot is usually necessary at least initially. Once she
starts ejaculating easily, she may find that clitoral stimulation
alone is sufficient.
Stroking can be done a number of ways. The two fingers can rub the
area as a unit, or they can take opposite strides, similar to
walking. A third method involved sliding the two finders out a
fraction of an inch, and pushing them back in, similar to the in-
out motion of intercourse, but with smaller strokes. Initially
pace the stimulation somewhat slow. Alternate with clitoral
stimulation either with the thumb, other hand, or mouth/tongue.
Also try simultaneous stimulation of the clitoris and G spot.
Watch her reactions. Simultaneous may be too intense for some but
necessary for ejaculation for others. Take your cues from her.
When she starts bearing down, and you feel the vagina contract,
begin pumping rapidly. When she is in the middle of an orgasm,
stimulate the clitoris at the same time, and pump the G spot
gently, but very rapidly. Talk to her. Say, "your getting it, go
for it, don't worry, relax and let it come" or other similar words.
She may need reassurance that if she drenches you, you will not be
upset. Tell her how erotic you find it for her to ejaculate. Make
her comfortable with both you, and the idea of ejaculation.
This actually is not the best position. If she does not succeed
after a short time, have her roll over on her stomach, and get up
on her knees. You will find stimulating the G spot much easier in
this position, and she will most likely respond much better. With
the two fingers turned down, slide your two fingers back into her
vagina. Find the G spot and continue stimulating the G spot. You
may use the other hand to stimulate the clitoris. If after a
couple of orgasms, using rapid pumping on the G spot during orgasm,
she still has not ejaculated, then turn the hand around, putting
the thumb into the vagina. The thumb will likely not reach the G
spot, but don't worry, it should come up to meet the thumb during
orgasm. Take the two fingers and lay them down on the clit. Allow
the entire curve between the thumb and forefinger to lie along her
from the vagina to her clitoris, and begin pumping with the thumb,
and rubbing the clit at the same time. When she starts an orgasm,
start pumping the entire hand rapidly. At this point she will most
likely ejaculate. The trick is to massage the area where the urethra
comes out, while stimulating the clitoris and G spot. This will
help to override the feeling she is about to pee, and allow her to
let it pass.
Be aware that the female is not only capable of multiple orgasms,
but also multiple ejaculations. It is not unusual for her to have
from 3 to 5 ejaculations before depleting her supply of cum. Once
she has ejaculated one or more times, you can continue with
intercourse. Entering from behind will stimulate the G-spot more
easily than missionary style, and often additional ejaculations will
occur during intercourse. Even if they don't, she will be highly
excited, and very sensitive. The final result will most likely be
the most intense and pleasurable sex she has ever had.
I highly recommend "The G Spot" for further reading.
1) Regnier de Graal, "New Treatise Concerning the Generative Organs
of Women" p. 107
2) Alice Kahn Ladas, Beverly Whipple and John D. Perry, "The G
Spot" page 59. Dell Publishing 1982.
3) Ibid. page 22.
4) Ibid. page 22-23.