Another night.
Nick Bensema
out by then. I did a lot of dancing; I don't think I even counted how
many people I danced with. And I learned a LOT.
The thing I'm most glad I learned is a certain aspect of not being
self-centered in my dancing. Granted, as the guy I'm the lead,
so naturally I'm going to have a lot of control over how the dance
goes. So, my strategy has always been to think "OK, a move would be
good.... NOW!" and then I'd do a move and she'd spin around and I'd be
like "OK, I need a different move now. Oh no! I think I've done all
my moves!" Then, between dances tonight, I decided to watch some poeple
dancing and see what other people were doing differently from me, and I
noticed that a lot of guys just took a few measures holding one hand and
letting the follower do some styling. I ran into one of the teacher/DJs
there and asked him about it, and he said it was a good idea because it
makes a woman feel "listened to." I thought I'd give it a try.
The next woman I danced with, I did like one or two turns to just show
her I knew what I was doing, and then I opened up and let her style. Well,
it turns out that was a very good move, since it was one of her favorite
songs and she started singing along. I tried to keep up with her, and
as I got to know the song, it occurred to me that I could time my moves
around the vocals, and that would give me the pacing I need to give her
breathing space. And I did, for the most part, and found that I felt
less pressured to program the dance, now that I was letting the song do
it. It helped, though, that she had taken a college course in dancing,
and danced like a pro. In short, it felt more like a conversation than
a speech. It was wonderful to learn that I could do something so simple,
increase my partner's enjoyment of the dance, and at the same time take
some pressure off myself.
She seemed to enjoy herself, too. Though, immediately afterwards,
she ran off to talk to some friends almost immediately. I tracked down
another teacher and asked her if that was a bad sign, and she said that
it's just that the moment a dance ends, it's often pretty awkward, and
flight instinct kicks in. It was then that I remembered that I've done
the dance-and-ditch a few times myself. I'll have to learn how to deal
with the post-dance situation, but that will come soon enough.
This weekend, there's an event... I'll post about it later.
--
Nick Bensema <ni...@io.com> ICQ#2135445
==== ======= ============== http://www.io.com/~nickb/
Paradigm Fert
> Stayed at the club until 11:30, my latest yet.
> It really started to thin out by then. I did a
> lot of dancing; I don't think I even counted how
> many people I danced with. And I learned a LOT.
> The thing I'm most glad I learned is a certain
> aspect of not being self-centered in my dancing.
> Granted, as the guy I'm the lead, so naturally
> I'm going to have a lot of control over how the dance
> goes.
I don't find it natural at all. But then, I'm barely
competant to dance without crushing my partners feet[1]. It
is a good thing that I wear sneakers instead of steel-capped
boots.
> So, my strategy has always been to think "OK,
> a move would be good.... NOW!" and then I'd do
> a move and she'd spin around and I'd be like
> "OK, I need a different move now. Oh no! I think
> I've done all my moves!"
At least you're smart enough to sort out how to GET TO THE
CLUB! I've finally summoned the courage[3] to ask one of the
gurls from my dance learning class to go to dancing club
with me, and I'm supposed to call her tonight and arrange it
all, but
A) I don't know WHERE the club is
B) I have NOTHING to wear[2]
C) I can't make out the 4th digit of
the phone number she wrote down. It's
either a 2 or a 6 or maybe an &
D) Shit.
> The next woman I danced with, I did like one
> or two turns to just show her I knew what I
> was doing, and then I opened up and let
> her style. Well, it turns out that was a very
> good move, since it was one of her favorite
> songs and she started singing along. I tried
> to keep up with her, and as I got to know the
> song, it occurred to me that I could time my
> moves around the vocals, and that would give
> me the pacing I need to give her breathing
> space. And I did, for the most part, and found
> that I felt less pressured to program the dance,
> now that I was letting the song do it. It helped,
> though, that she had taken a college course
> in dancing, and danced like a pro. In short, it
> felt more like a conversation than a speech. It
> was wonderful to learn that I could do something
> so simple, increase my partner's enjoyment of the
> dance, and at the same time take some pressure
> off myself.
Sorry, you lost me when you got all poetic there.
IDEA: DDR Waltz Edition. ISAGN.
--
Paradigm "SOUNDTRACK: I Have The Touch, Heather Nova" Fert
[1]LIEK BUG!
[2]Too wet to dry laundry this week
[3]If only summoning Courage were as easy as sommoning
Demons!
Jeremy Impson
> The thing I'm most glad I learned is a certain aspect of not being
> self-centered in my dancing. Granted, as the guy I'm the lead,
> so naturally I'm going to have a lot of control over how the dance
> goes. So, my strategy has always been to think "OK, a move would be
> good.... NOW!" and then I'd do a move and she'd spin around and I'd be
> like "OK, I need a different move now. Oh no! I think I've done all
> my moves!" Then, between dances tonight, I decided to watch some poeple
> dancing and see what other people were doing differently from me, and I
> noticed that a lot of guys just took a few measures holding one hand and
> letting the follower do some styling. I ran into one of the teacher/DJs
> there and asked him about it, and he said it was a good idea because it
> makes a woman feel "listened to." I thought I'd give it a try.
There is so much Kotext-away bait in this post. Good thing I'm too shy to
apply it.
> And I did, for the most part, and found that I felt less pressured to
> program the dance, now that I was letting the song do it. It helped,
> though, that she had taken a college course in dancing, and danced
> like a pro. In short, it felt more like a conversation than a speech.
> It was wonderful to learn that I could do something so simple,
> increase my partner's enjoyment of the dance, and at the same time
> take some pressure off myself.
You've hit upon the thing I hate about dancing, which is being aware of
the other person's moves. I'd rather it happen as you describem which
"was letting the song do it", but that doesn't happen often to me.
> She seemed to enjoy herself, too. Though, immediately afterwards,
> she ran off to talk to some friends almost immediately. I tracked down
> another teacher and asked her if that was a bad sign, and she said that
> it's just that the moment a dance ends, it's often pretty awkward, and
> flight instinct kicks in. It was then that I remembered that I've done
> the dance-and-ditch a few times myself. I'll have to learn how to deal
> with the post-dance situation, but that will come soon enough.
In that case, proabably the only thing you can do is, sometime later, ask
her to dance again, which lets her know that you weren't insulted or
anything. I for one am GLAD when she runs off afterwards, because I don't
know what to do when she stays.
> This weekend, there's an event... I'll post about it later.
We should have a DDR/Dance Club ARKPLE.
--Jeremy
------------------------------------------------------------------------------
Jeremy Impson
http://nwc.syr.edu/~jdimpson
Jeremy Impson
> ni...@bermuda.io.com (Nick Bensema) wroted:
[...]
> > The thing I'm most glad I learned is a certain
> > aspect of not being self-centered in my dancing.
> > Granted, as the guy I'm the lead, so naturally
> > I'm going to have a lot of control over how the dance
> > goes.
>
> I don't find it natural at all. But then, I'm barely
> competant to dance without crushing my partners feet[1].
I find the music naturally moves me, but the whole "leading thing" is not
natural at all. If I am dancing with a girl, and I feel comfortable
enough about asking, I ask her to lead. I'm a submissive, what can I say?
> It is a good thing that I wear sneakers instead of steel-capped boots.
My shoes don't look anything like this:
http://www.hottopic.com/store/Assets/product_images/hott_large/271179.jpg
but this shoe seems to have replaced the ones I bought at this very
establishment last year. The flames on mine are much cooler.
> > So, my strategy has always been to think "OK,
> > a move would be good.... NOW!" and then I'd do
> > a move and she'd spin around and I'd be like
> > "OK, I need a different move now. Oh no! I think
> > I've done all my moves!"
>
> At least you're smart enough to sort out how to GET TO THE
> CLUB! I've finally summoned the courage[3] to ask one of the
> gurls from my dance learning class to go to dancing club
> with me, and I'm supposed to call her tonight and arrange it
> all, but
>
> A) I don't know WHERE the club is
"THE CLUB", as in, the one club in town? Or any club? Either way, GET A
MA-er, GET THE PHONEBOOK. Look up dance clubs. Get on the Webernet and
check out local listings.
> B) I have NOTHING to wear[2]
Uhm, I'm guessing their's enough time to dry out something between now and
tomorrow night. Tshirts are cool, with some kind of non-jeans pants.
Jeans are OK, too, but every guy wears them, go for pants if you want to
stand out a little. And go for PLEATHER
(http://nwc.syr.edu/~jdimpson/winter2001/valentine/SDSC00175.jpg) to
really stand out. (How many times do I have to post this link before
someone remarks on it? Sheesh.)
> C) I can't make out the 4th digit of
> the phone number she wrote down. It's
> either a 2 or a 6 or maybe an &
There are only 10 possibilities. DIAL THEM ALL.
> D) Shit.
I think you're looking for excuses not to go. Like I did last weekend.
But then, I had no one to call and go with.
[...]
> IDEA: DDR Waltz Edition. ISAGN.
ISAGN for a Dancing Dancing ARKPLE.
Kyle Flood
<jdim...@tasslehoff.nwc.syr.edu> wrote:
>On Thu, 11 Oct 2001, Nick Bensema wrote:
<ZAP>
>> She seemed to enjoy herself, too. Though, immediately afterwards,
>> she ran off to talk to some friends almost immediately. I tracked down
>> another teacher and asked her if that was a bad sign, and she said that
>> it's just that the moment a dance ends, it's often pretty awkward, and
>> flight instinct kicks in. It was then that I remembered that I've done
>> the dance-and-ditch a few times myself. I'll have to learn how to deal
>> with the post-dance situation, but that will come soon enough.
>
>In that case, proabably the only thing you can do is, sometime later, ask
>her to dance again, which lets her know that you weren't insulted or
>anything. I for one am GLAD when she runs off afterwards, because I don't
>know what to do when she stays.
>
Make her a nice breakfast when she wakes up.
Kyle
.
Joseph Michael Bay
>my moves!" Then, between dances tonight, I decided to watch some poeple
>dancing and see what other people were doing differently from me, and I
>noticed that a lot of guys just took a few measures holding one hand and
>letting the follower do some styling. I ran into one of the teacher/DJs
>there and asked him about it, and he said it was a good idea because it
>makes a woman feel "listened to." I thought I'd give it a try.
DANGER! Next thing you know they'll want to vote and go
outside by themselves.
--
Chimes peal joy. Bah. Joseph Michael Bay
Icy colon barge Cancer Biology
Frosty divine Saturn Stanford University
When encryption is outlawed, fO$t ^@3sVe) %4iG Vx@| /jNGe5x6@^.
Kevin S. Wilson
<jdim...@tasslehoff.nwc.syr.edu> wrote:
> And go for PLEATHER
>(http://nwc.syr.edu/~jdimpson/winter2001/valentine/SDSC00175.jpg) to
>really stand out. (How many times do I have to post this link before
>someone remarks on it? Sheesh.)
Four more times.
But as long as you're here, what the hell is going on in that picture?
What purpose is served by the mattresses strapped to the dudes' back?
Speak slowly, please. It's been a few decades since I attended a party
at a frat house.
Kevin S. Wilson
Tech Writer
Instructional Technology Center--Boise State University
But only a kook would think I speak for my employer.
Rose Marie Holt
<rsholme...@mailbox.syr.edu> claimed
> Jeremy Impson <jdim...@tasslehoff.nwc.syr.edu> writes:
>
>> There is so much Kotext-away bait in this post.
>
> I'm struggling for a good, funny, and not too tasteless response to
> this, and I'm not finding it.
Oh, go for 2 out of 3. Or 1.
Glenn Knickerbocker
> <rsholme...@mailbox.syr.edu> claimed
> > Jeremy Impson <jdim...@tasslehoff.nwc.syr.edu> writes:
> >> There is so much Kotext-away bait in this post.
> > I'm struggling for a good, funny, and not too tasteless response to
> > this, and I'm not finding it.
> Oh, go for 2 out of 3. Or 1.
I think YHBT. Funny, I would have thought that bait was for sharks and
lawyers.
ŹR
Jeremy Impson
I don't think she was trolled. She knew the response I was baiting for
(and almost made in the original, but then I thought that would be too
unsophisticated) and then Rich made the sophisticated response, then Marie
sophisticatedly told us that she Got The Joke.
We're all mastersophisticates.
Nick Bensema
Jeremy Impson <jdim...@tasslehoff.nwc.syr.edu> wrote:
>On Thu, 11 Oct 2001, Paradigm Fert wrote:
>
>> ni...@bermuda.io.com (Nick Bensema) wroted:
>[...]
>> > The thing I'm most glad I learned is a certain
>> > aspect of not being self-centered in my dancing.
>> > Granted, as the guy I'm the lead, so naturally
>> > I'm going to have a lot of control over how the dance
>> > goes.
>>
>> I don't find it natural at all. But then, I'm barely
>> competant to dance without crushing my partners feet[1].
>
>I find the music naturally moves me, but the whole "leading thing" is not
>natural at all. If I am dancing with a girl, and I feel comfortable
>enough about asking, I ask her to lead. I'm a submissive, what can I say?
I used to think I was a submissive, but I'm not so sure because I'm
not very comfortable following at all. Possibly because I've only had
to follow in two cases: one, when a teacher was trying to demonstrate
how I was screwing up a move, and the other time, when I was dancing
with this chyk who, I had thought earlier, had a maybe 5% chance of
being a guy in very convincing drag, and she asked if she could lead.
(NOT FOR KONTEXT-AWAY! I ended up dancing with her after I had asked
someone else and she said "Not right now, but my friend wants to dance!")
>> A) [...]
>> B) [...]
>> C) [...]
>> D) Shit.
>
>I think you're looking for excuses not to go. Like I did last weekend.
>But then, I had no one to call and go with.
I go alone. I go to the club to meet people, usually. And it helps
to choose a genre like swing dancing where offers to dance are readily
accepted, since anyone who has taken the time to learn has already
proven his worthiness in some way.
>> IDEA: DDR Waltz Edition. ISAGN.
>
>ISAGN for a Dancing Dancing ARKPLE.
I donut know teh waltz. Is he the klingot played by John Laroquette in
Star Track III: Jason's Revenge?
Paula
[snip]
> This weekend, there's an event... I'll post about it later.
WHAT?! Are you going to the dinner/swing band/fundraiser on Saturday
night, too? Great! You can show me some moves. It's been a lot of
years since I swing danced. It will be nice to meet you in person.
Paula
Jeremy Impson
> On Thu, 11 Oct 2001 08:05:09 -0400, Jeremy Impson
> <jdim...@tasslehoff.nwc.syr.edu> wrote:
>
> > And go for PLEATHER
> >(http://nwc.syr.edu/~jdimpson/winter2001/valentine/SDSC00175.jpg) to
> >really stand out. (How many times do I have to post this link before
> >someone remarks on it? Sheesh.)
>
> Four more times.
Damn.
> But as long as you're here, what the hell is going on in that picture?
> What purpose is served by the mattresses strapped to the dudes' back?
>
> Speak slowly, please. It's been a few decades since I attended a party
> at a frat house.
Non-frat house.
Not strapped to dudes' backs, either. Rather, duct-taped to glass front
doors of house, to protect said glass from drunken dancers and to make
feeble attempt to protect the world at large from the incredible
vibrations eminating from non-frat house known as ROCK N ROLL!
Also, when the rockin' and dancin' is all over, and the band, who is from
NYC, and the groupies, who are from other places, need a place to sleep
(because not one of them hooked up, as usual), the mattresses come down,
an attempt is made to find the least beer-soaked side of them, and they
are used for sleeping on. Very convient.
Zixia
> WHAT?! Are you going to the dinner/swing band/fundraiser on Saturday
> night, too? Great! You can show me some moves. It's been a lot of
> years since I swing danced. It will be nice to meet you in person.
IWPTA "It will be nice to meet you in prison" and wondered what sort of
activites will occur at this event.
--
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All would live long, ^ ^ ^ ^ ^ ^ ^ ^
But none would be old. o o o o o o o o o o o o o o o o
zi...@btinternet.com /\ /\ /\ /\ /\ /\ /\ /\ /\ /\ /\ /\ /\ /\ /\ /\
Ben Wolfson
<rsholme...@mailbox.syr.edu> wrote:
> YM"convent", and I don't think rock'n'roll nuns sleep on beer-soaked
> mattresses.
punk Nuns did.
--
Barnabas T. Rumjuggler
All obscurity will buy you is time enough to contract venereal diseases.
-- Tim Peters
Otto Bahn
>
> Paula devised a cunning plan:
>
> > WHAT?! Are you going to the dinner/swing band/fundraiser on Saturday
> > night, too? Great! You can show me some moves. It's been a lot of
> > years since I swing danced. It will be nice to meet you in person.
>
> IWPTA "It will be nice to meet you in prison" and wondered what sort of
> activites will occur at this event.
...and after it.
--oTTo--
Chris Franks
"Zixia" <zi...@btinternet.com> wrote in >
> IWPTA "It will be nice to meet you in prison" and wondered what sort of
> activites will occur at this event.
Maybe they will talk on their cell phones.
Nick Bensema
Paula <mmmtob...@earthlink.net> wrote:
>Nick Bensema <ni...@bermuda.io.com> wrote:
>> This weekend, there's an event... I'll post about it later.
>
>WHAT?! Are you going to the dinner/swing band/fundraiser on Saturday
>night, too? Great! You can show me some moves. It's been a lot of
>years since I swing danced. It will be nice to meet you in person.
No, this is happening in Phoenix and it's more of a seminar/class sort
of thing but it's special because it's the whole weekend and it's
world-famous teachers! And when I'm done I'll be SUPER-l33t at
lindy hop and balboa!
To get an idea of how famous they are... you know that movie the 13th
Floor where our hero switches realities and finds himself in the middle
of a lindy hop contest? They're both in that scene. And they were in
that one episode of Everybody Loves Raymond, too.
Andrew J. Zimolzak
hath perced to the roote, thanne longen folk to goon on
alt.religion.kibology.
> http://www.hottopic.com/store/Assets/product_images/hott_large/271179.jpg
IWPTA '/Asses/'. I think 'asses' was primed by 'hottopic' and somehow
reverse-meta-primed by 'hott_large'. Fnarr.
> Either way, GET A MA-er, GET THE PHONEBOOK.
D00d, u don't n33d a MF-er unl3ss th3 club is l0ng d1s+anc3 and you
want to make a phr33...
Oh, pardon me. I think IWPT also.
--
Andy Z.
"Bert, do you know me?"