Worthwhile goals - how to choose them?
Mike Jackson
I am struggling with the following issue. I can't fully figure out
what I truly want.
I've been into NLP for the last 3 years, and it is a great tool to
achieve something when you know what it is. Yet it does not actually
tell you what to achieve. There are all these great stories about
people achieving this and that, yet how they chose things to achieve
is not discussed.
Is there any good technique to set worthwhile goals? I am not talking
about choosing some arbitrary goals and then achieving them. That
works at first, but gets old soon enough. I achieve them, and feel
that they weren't that worthwhile achieving ... And why achieve
something that you do not care about? I need goals that would truly
satisfy me, and once I achieve them I would still want to think that
they were worthwhile.
I've been looking through my past experiences to find out things I
like to do naturally, and I've got a few pointers. Yet at times even
those best guesses start to seem rather uninspiring.
Am I gonna be left hanging there forever without ever being certain
of what I want and the choices I am making?
Or, perhaps, I should just think of likely scenarios, and choose the
one that I like the most ... Even if I still would not be sure that
that goal was "IT", but it was the best I could think of. The problem
with the latter is that since I still won't be fully convinced, my
motivation might be lackluster at best ...
Any ideas/pointers?
Thanks!
Mike
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Joe Donahue
one that I like the most ... Even if I still would not be sure that
that goal was "IT", but it was the best I could think of.
Start right there! Your goal(s) will become clearer as you proceed. It's
curiosity that will open your possibilities. Do not worry if your
original path will not be the final one. It may or may not be, but the
process is what counts not the destination. The destination will call
you when you are ready. So begin to explore the goal you have chosen,
smell it, taste it, see it and hear it. Research it, talk to others who
do 'it'. Model others who do 'it'. 'It' will open up the opportunities
for other 'its'. What great good fortune you have, beginning this
journey.Have fun!
Joe Donahue
Danielle Boone
That is one of my problems too. So we should pick something and just got for it
as we can try something else later if something else becomes more interesting?
Mike Jackson
> That is one of my problems too. So we should pick something and just got for it
> as we can try something else later if something else becomes more interesting?
So what happened to the certified nlp guys here? No takers? Not your domain?
Mike
eric presley
how do you know what you don't want to do ?
and what (if resources and opportunities are available), would you do
in an ideal world ?
Jim Fishno
Your post reflects what many people feel like. I have a few questions
for you and some ideas you could try or not.
> Is there any good technique to set worthwhile goals? I am not talking
> about choosing some arbitrary goals and then achieving them. That
> works at first, but gets old soon enough. I achieve them, and feel
> that they weren't that worthwhile achieving ... And why achieve
> something that you do not care about? I need goals that would truly
> satisfy me, and once I achieve them I would still want to think that
> they were worthwhile.
What goal-setting questions do you ask yourself? Also, how do you
evaluate that a goal is worthwhile?
> Am I gonna be left hanging there forever without ever being certain
> of what I want and the choices I am making?
The more I live, the more I'm certain that I can't know what I want.
Still, I'm a happy guy! What states do you habitually spend time in?
In the end, any goal you may want to achieve will be tied to a state
or a feeling you desire. What would happen if you went straight for
those states? Do it and notice.
> Any ideas/pointers?
What do you feel like doing? Often times, I simply do what I feel like
doing and that attitude serves me well in most cases -- when it
doesn't, it's usually due to an inadequate perception on my part. Here
are two more questions for you:
How would you change the world if you were the master of the universe?
Pick one change and start acting to make it happen.
What would you do if you knew you would not fail?
Finally, one last thought... If a goal doesn't scare the shit out of
you, don't bother.
> Thanks!
You're welcome. Have fun!
Jim