Who taught you
You never learn what you have never been taught. You may have been taught to hate yourself by a system, school or someone. You make progress when you start uncovering those flawed learning experiences that taught you to hate yourself and what is yours. When you hate yourself and what is yours you become an open market with no perimeter wall. Start on a new path by going down history's path and knock down those experiences that made you feel you are inferior. You have to start unlearning before you learn. No one can continue to terrorize you and teach you to be inferior without your permission. Shine the light on
When you sit in darkness you cannot see much. You start confusing shadows with reality. To see better, shine the light on. One of the biggest lights you can shine is exposure and new references. When you increase your exposure you see the world better and what you thought was universal ceases to be. You realize that it is our differences that make us attractive to others. Exposure gives perspective and begins to challenge some of the ways you have looked at the world. Sometimes you have to go far in order to appreciate what you have at home and in you. Travel if you can, if you cannot listen to others from other environments and learn from them. The underexposed tend to hate themselves and what is theirs more. Go Gratitude
When you hate yourself, you stop being grateful for your blessings. Your perspective is warped and you think other people have a better handle on life. Start improving your gratitude arithmetic. Count your blessings, name them one by one. Lift up the things you have through persistent gratitude. Everyday when you wake up draw up a gratitude list. Name at least ten to twenty things that you are grateful for. It is impossible to hate that which you are grateful for. Change Your Dialogue
What you say to others is important, but what you say to yourself and about yourself is supreme. Change your dialogue. Clean out all the self depreciating talk. You do not aid anyone by talking in terms of place you have not been to as being better. You aid no one by exalting places you just visited for a few days and never got to understand the whole menu. Start talking positively and be grateful for what you have. You are special, there is no one like you. What you are is special and you may not know it but you are a global wonder and living specimen. What you take for granted is a marvel to someone in another part of the world. You do not have to wait for someone to tell you of the beauty around you and the marvel that you are. Broadcast Goodness
Broadcast all the good you know, you do not need extra genius to complain. Any where you see good, talk about it. Anytime you are grateful, share your gratitude. No one wants to listen your endless gripes, groans and moans. Yes, you may have a big nose, like me, but thank God someone would die for such a nose. It just makes your face unique and special. Perhaps someone is losing sleep for someone with a nose like yours. There is so much goodness in you and in the human spirit. Broadcast all the good you know. If you cannot see anything good, keep looking. When you start seeing good things you will see them everywhere. Life is full if goodness, wonder and marvel. You are a walking warehouse of goodness. Share what you have. How do you share it when you hate yourself? Celebrate you. You are one of a kind
There is no one who lived, is alive or will ever live you is exactly like you. You are one of a kind. No one has your eyes. No one sees what you see. No one has your finger prints. No one can paint your painting and express what you can express. Your voice is unique and special. No one can speak exactly like you. Your words matter. No one can produce your child. You are special and unique. Start loving you. When you love yourself you are freed to love others. When you are grateful for what you have you start appreciating others. Take Action
Take action and start loving you. Love the things that are yours. Give them value and they will fetch a good price. Write out your gratitude list and keep adding to it daily. Do not wait to be grateful on grand events, every moment is a grand moment if you choose it to be so. Do not self depreciate yourself. You are special and you matter. Start telling yourself a different story. Sell yourself on yourself. Is this pride? No, unless you start thinking that the whole world revolves around you and you are the 8th wonder of the world worth worship and veneration. I will be grateful to connect with you on Twitter. My twitter handle is: @MiltonKamwendo. Committed to your greatness. Milton Kamwendo | 
The worst form of hatred is not ethnic, political or otherwise but it is self hatred. It is a subtle form of hatred but highly corrosive in nature. It eats into your confidence and bleaches yourself respect. If there is any streak of rebellion left in you, direct it on self hatred. Start changing your perspective and love yourself. Each of us has something we think is not perfect, but that is never enough reason to hate yourself. 
