Yes. There's a min_instances option you can use to maintain a minimum
number of backends.
That said, it shouldn't be "extremely" slow, unless, of course, your
application is extremely slow to load. Admittedly most of the apps
I've been testing on are smallish, under 10 controllers, and typically
start on my server within 2 seconds. Using min_instances, however, the
effect of this is nearly un-noticeable since the permanently running
Mongrel can deal with the initial request while others are loading in
the background to meet other requests :)
Cheers,
Pete