E(D) is diagonal, but D itself is not.
I don't know if E(D|D<I) is diagonal.
FWIW, the condition D<I is equivalent to
all the eigenvalues of D being < 1.
Let r_k be the k'th eigenvalue of D, and let
q_ik be the i'th element of the corresponding eigenvector.
If E(q_ik * q_jk | r_k < 1) = 0 for all i,j,k, i <> j,
then you have what you need.