I like your post. And I agree with most of it.
The part I disagree with is pepe imaz. I am quite positive that
pepe imaz has her support and that without her influence and her
crankiness, there would be no pepe imaz.
How come that Becker (he was the one who suggested Novak to fuck
some women prior that FO) or Vajda lost her tacit approval but
pepe still hasn't??
You mentioned a deal they had, he was sort of free to party with
chicks in younger days but she wanted him to stop once they get
married. That's all fine. She has done nothing wrong there and as
you say it, the immediate post marriage period was actually his
best period. It worked well until that affair prior the FO which
Becker asked him to do for stress relief purposes and to boost
his conquistador mentality.
Biological and sociological researches have shown that new fathers
experience drop in testosterone levels and Becker who had kids
during his career and with all the science behind them probably
knew the perils of changing diapers while going after FO. Fresh
pussy > baby shit if you want to increase man's natural
aggression.
It helped Novak to win ncygs but at the same hand, he felt
remorse. She was (rightfully) angry but instead of saying, yo,
relax, I'm yours, he opted to appease her in all sorts of stupid
ways. Unnecessary.
Now that's were it went wrong.
How? Well, problem #1, when you think bad of yourself, it will
reflect on you. I'm quite sure that he genuinely feels that he
has done something wrong, as he was a married father at the time,
which is bothering him and he intended to "improve as a person",
to grow. That's how this pepe nonsense sneaked in.
That's problem #2. While he was always type of a guy who'd search
for all sorts of answers and be open to new ideas, thoughts,
philosophies etc, he was basically a redneck, a based guy, and
nothing really shook his foundations. This nonsense, now has
shook him.
He's effectively lost his mojo.
So what I said in my previous post, he needs to stop thinking that
he betrayed her, or that he owes her anything. That's bad for his
self respect. Even if someone believed in full equality, it would
be logical and it is logical to support the spouse who's actually
doing more important job. And in this case it's him. Not her
running some irrelevant bussines. But he's letting her impose
herself because he feels guilt.
Imposing guilt on someone is the most effective mean of control.
It works for her self esteem and, but it's bad for his and his
career.
The stuff he's been probably hearing from pepe is how to "become a
better, holier than thou person".
Someone needs to tell him that he doesn't need to become a saint,
he can't, and most importantly, shouldn't become a saint, while
being a professional gladiator. If he tries both, he'll be
neither.
If he did that what we talk, it's still perfectly normal what he
did, and while it's not great, it's natural, he was in a specific
position, and anyway, it is she who should be happy if he's
faithful to her from now own, not the other way around, she's in
no position to demand anything.
That ncygs was very special and important and everything that
happened before or there, what he did, should be shrugged off,
not analyzed ad nauseam and serve as Damocles sword above his
head which forces him to go on this path of mental indoctrination
and psyche changing.
That's my view, sort of.
Essentially, he's tamed, while it should be the other way around.
Of course it's ultimately his fault because he conceded power,
not hers for taking it. He's now kinda like Murray almost always
has been.
PS Murray manned up during Lendl period.