my parakeet doesn't trust me

[Lea Gray]

I got Bowie about 3 Summers ago. I had this great idea that because I
was working three jobs, my only pet bird at the time :Sammie, needed a
friend while I was away. The pet store recommended getting another
boy, so that I don't end up with babies.

Bowie would bully Sammie everyday. And he wouldn't even trust me as
Sammie did for years. In fact, Sammie stopped trusting me.

One day, Sammie was holding his wings up like he was trying to fight
or intimidate. I went up to the cage and put my finger in, and he just
flew out of the room and out the front door that was left open by my
roomate.

I was upset with Bowie for a long time, because he bullied Sammie
everyday, Sammie flew away.

But it was really my fault for trying to get him a friend while I was
a way. I was going through a really hard time trying t make ends meet,
and I wanted my friend to stay happy while I was away.

But now, forgiving myself and Bowie, I want to make the best of our
friendship so as not to regret anything later as I do now.

Bowie sometimes lets me grab his feeding bin. He scurries onto the
highest branch. But most of the time he'll fly around the room as I am
approaching his cage. He bites me really hard if I try to hold him and
acts frieghtened sometimes when I talk to him.

After Sammie flew away, I was mad at Bowie. My roomates talked me into
thinking he was a bad bird for bullying Sammie everyday. I didn't even
want him after Sammie left. But I still took care of him everyday. I
just didn't be careful when I was reaching into the cage or care if we
had a bond because I resented him so much.

I just want to make sure my bird is appreciated regardless of the
past. He is in my home and I take care of him. If I had a bond with
him, it would make me happier.
Please help me to bring trust into Bowie and I's relationship. I don't
want to lose him as well.

[ChuMaiFat]

Lea Gray wrote:

> I just want to make sure my bird is appreciated regardless of the
> past. He is in my home and I take care of him. If I had a bond with
> him, it would make me happier.
> Please help me to bring trust into Bowie and I's relationship. I don't
> want to lose him as well.

Lea

Hopefully your parakeet read this post (let's face it, he would only
need the literacy skills of a 5 year old child) and you'll both live
happily ever after.

With kind regards

Chu

[Magical Merlin]

You said: The pet store recommended getting another boy, so that I

don't end up with babies.

Two male birds together are not a good idea. A female and a male are a
good pair. They will never make babies is if you do not put a nesting
box in there. If you do, they will know what it is for to have babies.

I have a pair a female and a male keets for 10 years til they died of
old age and I just got a new pair last Feb and this month with no
problem.