A few things worth noting:
(1) As others have said, though your 3S bid was perhaps a poorly
calculated risk, at least it *was* a calculated risk. In other words,
it doesn't work often enough to be profitable in the long run, to
raise to 3S with this hand, but it certainly *can* work well. On the
other hand, an uninvited reraise by the preempter is a complete no-no
because it just gives the opponents extra space. If opener wanted to
be in 4S opposite a single raise, she should have opened 3S. It's
pointless to change horses in mid-stream *after* you've given the
opponents a whole extra level of bidding. That's what I call "Heads
we lose; tails we tie" bridge.
(2) The traditional rules about how aggressively to preempt are a bit
outdated. The new way of thinking depends on position at the table
and form of scoring. At any form of scoring, and at any
vulnerability, preempts in second seat (RHO dealt and passed) should
be pure and descriptive...a good suit with not much outside; that's
because this is the case when the deal most likely belongs to your
side, so you want to describe your hand in case it does. Conversely,
in third seat (partner dealt and passed), one tends to preempt on a
much wider range of hands since partner is weak so you don't much care
to be descriptive, but you do need to worry about vulnerability, since
you are very likely to be set. When you are dealer, it's in between
those extremes (vulnerability still matters). In terms of
vulnerability, at IMPs, where potential to sacrifice matters more, you
worry about favorable, equal, or unfavorable. At matchpoints, where
jamming the bidding takes priority over sacrificing (i.e. partner
should elect to defend at matchpoints in many situations where he
would sacrifice at IMPs) and where -200 is usually a terrible score,
you basically worry about whether *you* are vulnerable, and not so
much about the opponents. In situations where your preempts are very
descriptive, down 2 opposite a yarborough is the usual rule. In
situations where preempts can be wide-ranging, especially not
vulnerable in an odd-numbered seat at matchpoints, you basically don't
worry much about counting tricks too precisely--being descriptive
isn't the point; you hope you will be on defense with the opponents in
the wrong contract.
(3) Since you are looking for something other than SAYC but not very
gadgety, I'd recommend whatever Mike Lawrence's latest book(s) on 2/1
is/are. (He also has a website
http://www.michaelslawrence.com/ and
lots of tutorial software.) I read earlier editions of his books when
I was learning, and they really focused on understanding the
fundamentals of 2/1, with well-written explanations, whereas other
books I have read on 2/1 (Hardy, Robinson, Goldman) focus much more on
gadgets, and in some cases on gadgets that are no longer (or never
were) popular (or, in a few cases, are completely insensible).
Lawrence's stuff is all mainstream, and if he makes a suggestion that
isn't mainstream, then, unlike other authors, he will point out that
that's what he's doing. Reading Lawrence would also make it much
easier to follow discussions in, say, the ACBL Bulletin. The other
book I'd recommend, if you are interested in learning more about
preempts, is Robson and Segal's _Partnership Bidding at Bridge_. It
does have some gadgets, but you can skip them; the underlying
philosophy of what your goals should be in various kinds of auctions
is the point. After reading the first chapter, you can probably skip
to the chapter on preempts if that's what interests you at the moment.
Christopher Monsour