Published Thursday, 13-Dec-2007 in issue 1042
“I have a few choice words for the criminals who committed this vicious
attack and for any others who are contemplating perpetrating such a crime:
You are cowards. Make no mistake about it; if you commit such a crime, we
will do everything within our power to catch you.”
Mayor Jerry Sanders in a press conference addressing the city following
the hate crimes that took place Gay Pride weekend in Balboa Park, 2006
“I have close family members and friends who are members of the gay and
lesbian community. These folks include my daughter Lisa and her partner,
as well as members of my personal staff. I want for them the same thing
that we want for all our loved ones – for each of them to find a mate whom
they love deeply and who loves them back; someone with whom they can grow
old together and share life’s wondrous adventures. And I want their
relationships to be protected equally under the law. In the end, I could
not look any of them in the face and tell them that their relationships –
their very lives – were any less meaningful than the marriage I share with
my wife Rana.”
Mayor Jerry Sanders in a press conference addressing his support of the
friend-of-the-court brief in an appeal of a same-sex marriage ban to the
California Supreme Court, 2007 Jerry Sanders is no fair-weather friend. He
is a man of conviction. From CNN to YouTube, the video of Mayor Sanders’
emotional announcement that he would sign an amicus brief in favor of
same-sex marriage circulated to millions. The mayor’s emotional press
conference came on the heels of a previous announcement that he would veto
the amicus brief, a friend-of-the-court brief in an appeal of a same-sex
marriage license ban to the California Supreme Court.
The about-face stunned his conservative Republican base, as well as
members of San Diego’s GLBT community. It is the mayor’s stand for
marriage equality, for his daughter, and for all families that has earned
Jerry Sanders the Gay & Lesbian Times’ recognition as Person of the Year.
Sanders, the only person to be awarded Person of the Year consecutively,
was recognized in 2006 for his work uniting the community after the
attacks on six gay men at the Pride festival. For the second year in a
row, Sanders has stood with the GLBT community – though, this year, his
stand was unexpected. “During my campaign two years ago, I announced that
I did not support gay marriage,” the mayor said, in the afternoon press
conference.
“Instead I supported civil unions and domestic partnerships. I have
personally wrestled with that position ever since.” The mayor took a long
pause and a sip of water before he continued. “My opinions on this issue
have evolved significantly. “The arrival of the resolution to sign or veto
in my office late last night forced me to reflect and search my soul for
the right thing to do.” He paused again.
“I have decided to lead with my heart … to do what I think is right, to
take a stand on the side of equality and social justice … the right thing
to do is sign this resolution.” The tearful mayor continued, explaining he
could no longer support “separate but equal” rights, and, for the first
time in a public forum, he acknowledged his daughter Lisa’s sexuality.
Months later, the video and Sanders’ change of heart, still has widespread
impact. The Republican mayor faced significant backlash from constituents,
but garnered the praise of the local GLBT community and media outlets,
including the Los Angeles Times.
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An error does not become truth by reason of multiplied propagation, nor
does the truth become error because nobody will see it.
-Mohandas K. Gandhi (1869-1948)
"Pink Freud©®" <drive-in-...@trepanation.calm> wrote in message
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<snip uncontrolled jealous senile whining/babbling so as not to embarrass
you again!>
No need to, Billieboi, I don't mind at all.
If I did, I wouldn't have written or quoted it in the first place.
Oh, BTW:
You lose.
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"Dr.Neuraxis®" <D...@CentralPain.org> wrote in message
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> You make a fool of yourself with every post!!
> Which god is it this week??
>
> On Thu, 27 Dec 2007 19:10:09 -0800, "L.W.\(ßill\)Hughes III"
> <BillH...@billhughes.com> wrote:
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>
>> God, I love making a fool out of you, in front of your groups!!!!! I
>>wonder what the next award I get from Giganews will look like for making a
>>fool out of you over, and over again:
>>http://www.billhughes.com/temp/giganews.jpg
>> Bless America, Bill O|||||||O
>> mailto:BillH...@billhughes.com
>> http://www.billhughes.com/jeep_bookmark.htm
>
> Don't think you're making a fool of me, but you do more damage to
> yourself then anyone I've ever known!
>
> Your award, they must have lined up a bunch of idiots like you and
> passed out a few hundred, it does say "Customers", that tells me your
> not the only Cooyon with giganews! No doubt you requested it just like
> you requested your Govt. Bullshit!
Not even that -- ALL their customers got one; it's just an advert for a
section of the Giganews site on news, views and other meaningless crap.
Including some Revisionist History of the internet.
It's what /we/ call 'junk mail'; to Billie, it's something he can claim as
an 'award' for people who didn't catch what you did -- the adressees:
CUSTOMERS. If it were an award, it would imply that ol' Gig was
/promoting/ Billieboi's type of crap, and even promoting anti-Tos/AUP
behaviour. Yeah, Gig wants to commit internet suicide, riiiiiiiight!
Nah, Billie has learned the effectiveness of the old Fascist dictum about
the repeated lie.
There's not much Cornholio won't attempt. The only stuff he won't try
(outside of honesty, decency and the like) is stuff he hasn't heard about
yet.
Pathetic old bugger.
Death, where art thou? The time has come for you take Your child to his
appointed reward....
>>
>>
>>"Dr.Neuraxis®" <D...@CentralPain.org> wrote in message
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>>> You make a fool of yourself with every post!! Which god is it this
>>> week??
>>>
>>
>>
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> For all we know Lumpy made his own award, and he wouldn't be beyond
> that type of hornswoggle, look at the safety pin stripes, and some of his
> fake documents! There in NO truth in him!
>
> Doc
>
>
>
>
> I have failed again in my feeble attempt to make myself admirable unto the
World!
>
> L.W. "Cooyon Billy" Goatman-Hughes III
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SPAM.
You lose.
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> "Dr.Neuraxis®" <D...@CentralPain.org> wrote in message
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>> Don't think you're making a fool of me, but you do more damage to
>> yourself then anyone I've ever known!
>>
>> Your award, they must have lined up a bunch of idiots like you and
>> passed out a few hundred, it does say "Customers", that tells me your
>> not the only Cooyon with giganews! No doubt you requested it just like
>> you requested your Govt. Bullshit!
>>
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SPAM.
You lose.
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> "Pink Freud©®" <drive-in-...@trepanation.calm> wrote in message
> news:pan.2007.12.28....@trepanation.calm...
>>
>> Not even that -- ALL their customers got one; it's just an advert for a
>> section of the Giganews site on news, views and other meaningless crap.
>> Including some Revisionist History of the internet.
>>
>> It's what /we/ call 'junk mail'; to Billie, it's something he can claim as
>> an 'award' for people who didn't catch what you did -- the adressees:
>> CUSTOMERS. If it were an award, it would imply that ol' Gig was
>> /promoting/ Billieboi's type of crap, and even promoting anti-Tos/AUP
>> behaviour. Yeah, Gig wants to commit internet suicide, riiiiiiiight!
>>
>> Nah, Billie has learned the effectiveness of the old Fascist dictum about
>> the repeated lie.
>>
>> There's not much Cornholio won't attempt. The only stuff he won't try
>> (outside of honesty, decency and the like) is stuff he hasn't heard about
>> yet.
>>
>> Pathetic old bugger.
>>
>> Death, where art thou? The time has come for you take Your child to his
>> appointed reward....
>>
>>
>>
>>
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SPAM.
You lose.
>
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> "Dr.Neuraxis®" <D...@CentralPain.org> wrote in message
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>> For all we know Lumpy made his own award, and he wouldn't be beyond
>> that type of hornswoggle, look at the safety pin stripes, and some of his
>> fake documents! There in NO truth in him!
>>
>> Doc
>>
>>
>>
>>
>> I have failed again in my feeble attempt to make myself admirable unto the
> World!
>>
>> L.W. "Cooyon Billy" Goatman-Hughes III
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> You have the best award you will ever get, you're still breathing.
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> It reminds me of a real faggots name, don't ya think?
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> You can't even correct your girlie errors.
> Same old Spam, loser.
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> This from the biggest spammer of all time!
> Your major weakness is between your ears!
> Wrong again, Quizzee the loser!
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> Your statement makes no sense as usual.
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> Same old Spam, loser.
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"Dr.Neuraxis®" <D...@CentralPain.org> wrote in message
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> When a patient has a personality disorder and an eating disorder, the
therapist
> should concentrate on the eating disorder. Personality disorders are
intricate
> and intractable. They are rarely curable (though certain aspects, like
OCD, or
> depression can be ameliorated with medication). Their treatment calls for
the
> enormous, persistent and continuous investment of resources of every kind
by
> everyone involved. From the patient's point of view, the treatment of her
> personality disorder is not an efficient allocation of scarce mental
resources.
> Also personality disorders are not the real threat. If a patient with a
> personality disorder is cured of it but her eating disorders are
aggravated, she
> might die (though mentally healthy).
>
>
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>
> Another characteristic of the narcissistic personality is the use that it
makes
> of "emotional delegation". The narcissist - despite appearances - is human
and
> is possessed of emotions and of emotional content. But, in an effort to
defend
> himself against a repetition of past hurts, he "delegates" his emotions to
a
> fictitious self, the False Self. It is the False Self that interacts with
the
> world. It is the False Self that suffers and enjoys, gets attached and
detached,
> joins and separates, develops likes and dislikes, preferences and
prejudices,
> loves and hates. Whatever happens to the narcissist, his experiences, the
> setbacks that he (inevitably) suffers, the humiliations, the adoration,
the
> fears and the hopes - all these happen to one self removed, to the False
Self.
> The narcissist is shielded by this construction. He lives in a padded cell
of
> his own creation, an eternal observer, unharmed, embryo-like in the womb
of his
> True Self.
>
>
"Dr.Neuraxis®" <D...@CentralPain.org> wrote in message
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> Patients suffering from eating disorders binge on food and sometimes are
both
> anorectic and bulimic. This is an impulsive behaviour as defined by the
DSM
> (particularly in the case of BPD and to a lesser extent of Cluster B
disorders
> in general). Some patients develop these disorders as a way to
self-mutilate. It
> is a convergence of two pathological behaviours: self-mutilation and an
> impulsive (rather, compulsive or ritualistic) behaviour.
>
> The key to improving the mental state of patients with dual diagnosis (a
> personality disorder plus an eating disorder) lies in concentrating upon
their
> eating and sleeping disorders.
>
>
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>
> No wonder that this duality, so entrenched, so fundamental to the
narcissistic
> personality - is also so evident, so discernible. This delegation of
emotions is
> what disturbs those who interact with a narcissist. The feeling that his
True
> Self is absent, that it is a false emanation, which does all the emoting.
>
> The narcissist himself experiences this dichotomy, this break between a
False
> Self which is his interface with the true world - and a True Self which is
> forever dormant in a no-man's land. The narcissist lives in a warped
reality,
> divorced from his own emotions, constantly feeling that he is an actor in
a film
> featuring his life.
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>
> By controlling their eating disorders, patients assert control over their
lives.
> This is bound to reduce their depression (even eliminate it altogether as
a
> constant feature of their mental life). This is likely to ameliorate other
> facets of their personality disorders. Here is the chain: controlling
one's
> eating disorders à controlling one's life à enhanced sense of self-worth,
> self-confidence, self-esteem à a challenge, an interest, an enemy to
subjugate à
> a feeling of strength à socialising à feeling better.
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> You can't even correct your girlie errors.
> Same old Spam, loser.
>
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> REJECTION
>
> The child may react to the narcissism of the Primary Object with a
peculiar type
> of rejection. He develops his own narcissistic personality, replete with
> grandiosity and lack of empathy - BUT his personality is antithetical to
the
> personality of the narcissistic parent. If the parent were a somatic
narcissist
> - he is likely to be a cerebral one, if his father prided himself being
virtuous
> - he is sinful, if his mother bragged about her frugality, he is bound to
flaunt
> his wealth.
>
> An Attempted DSM Style List of Criteria
>
> We came up with a DSM-IV-TR "style" inventory for an inverted narcissist,
using
> the narcissists' characteristics as a template, because they are, in many
ways
> two sides of the same coin, or "the mould and the moulded" hence "mirror
> narcissist" or "inverted narcissist".
>
>
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>
> The narcissist tries to merge with an idealised but badly internalised
object.
> He does so by "digesting" the meaningful others in his life and
transforming
> them into extensions of his self. He employs various techniques to achieve
this.
> To the "digested" this is the crux of the harrowing experience called
"living
> with a narcissist".
>
> The "inverted narcissist" (IN), on the other hand, does not attempt,
except in
> fantasy or in dangerous, masochistic sexual practice, to merge with an
idealised
> external object. This is because he so successfully internalised the
> narcissistic Primary Object to the exclusion of all else. The IN feels ill
at
> ease in a relationship with a non-narcissist because it is unconsciously
> perceived by him to be "betrayal", "cheating", an abrogation of the
exclusivity
> clause he had with the narcissistic Primary Object.
>
>
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> The child, in a way, becomes the "trash bin" of the parents' inhibitions,
fears,
> self-loathing, self-contempt, perceived lack of self-worth, sense of
inadequacy,
> rejected traits, repressed emotions, failures and emotional reticence.
Coupled
> with the parent's treatment of the child as the parent's extension, it
serves to
> totally inhibit the psychological growth and emotional maturation of the
child.
> The child becomes a reflection of the parent - a vessel through which the
parent
> experiences and realises himself for better (hopes, aspirations, ambition,
life
> goals) and for worse (weaknesses, "undesirable" emotions, "negative"
traits). A
> host of other, simpler, defence mechanisms employed by the parent are
likely to
> obscure the predominant use of projective identification: projection,
> displacement, intellectualisation, depersonalisation. Relationships
between such
> parents and their progeny easily deteriorate to sexual or other modes of
abuse
> because there are no functioning boundaries between them.
>
> It seems that the child's reaction to a narcissistic parent can be either
> accommodation and assimilation or rejection.
>
>
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> We must not neglect the abusive aspect of such a relationship. The
narcissistic
> parent always alternates between idealisation of his progeny and its
> devaluation. The child is likely to internalise the devaluing, abusive,
> demeaning, berating, diminishing, minimising, upbraiding, chastising
voices. The
> parent (or caregiver) goes on to survive inside the adult (as part of a
sadistic
> and ideal Superego and an unrealistic Ego Ideal, to resort to
psychoanalytic
> parlance). These are the voices that inhibit the development of reactive
> narcissism, the child's defence mechanism.
>
>
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> Criterion ONE
> The IN possesses a rigid sense of lack of self-worth.
>
> The narcissist has a badly regulated sense of self-worth. However this is
not
> conscious. He goes through cycles of self-devaluation (and experiences
them as
> dysphorias). The IN's sense of self-worth does NOT fluctuate. It is rather
> stable - but it is very low. Whereas the narcissist devalues others - the
IN
> devalues himself as an offering, a sacrifice to the narcissist. The IN
pre-empts
> the narcissist by devaluing himself, by actively devaluing his own
achievements,
> or talents. The IN is exceedingly distressed when singled out because of
actual
> achievements or demonstration of superior skills.
>
> The inverted narcissist is compelled to filter all of his narcissistic
needs
> through the primary narcissist in their lives. No independence is
permitted. The
> IN feels amplified by the narcissist's commentary (because nothing can be
> accomplished by the invert without the approval of a primary narcissist in
their
> lives).
>
>
>
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> The child turned adult maintains these traits. He keeps looking for
narcissists
> in order to feel whole, alive and wanted. He wishes to be treated by a
> narcissist narcissistically (what others would call abuse is, to him or
her,
> familiar and constitutes Narcissistic Supply). To him, the narcissist is a
> Source of Supply (primary or secondary) and the narcissistic behaviours
> constitute Narcissistic Supply. He feels dissatisfied, empty and unloved
if not
> loved by a narcissist.
>
>
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>
> Criterion TWO
> Pre-occupied with fantasies of unlimited success, power, brilliance and
beauty
> or of an ideal of love.
>
> This is the same as the DSM-IV-TR criterion for Narcissistic Personality
> Disorder but, with the IN, it manifests absolutely differently, i.e. the
> cognitive dissonance is sharper here because the IN is so absolutely and
> completely convinced of their worthlessness that these fantasies of
grandeur are
> extremely painful "dissonances".
>
> With the narcissist, the dissonance exists on two levels:
>
> Between the UNCONSCIOUS feeling of lack of stable self-worth and the
grandiose
> fantasies AND between the grandiose fantasies and reality (the Grandiosity
Gap).
>
> In comparison, the inverted narcissist can only vacillate between lack of
> self-worth and reality. No grandiosity is permitted, except in dangerous,
> forbidden fantasy. This shows that the invert is psychologically incapable
of
> fully realising their inherent potentials without a primary narcissist to
filter
> the praise, adulation or accomplishments through. They MUST have someone
to whom
> praise can be redirected. The dissonance between the IN's certainty of
> self-worthlessness and genuine praise that cannot be deflected is likely
to
> emotionally derail the inverted narcissist every time.
>
>
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>
> The roles of Primary Source of Narcissistic Supply (PSNS) and Secondary
Source
> of Narcissistic Supply (SSNS) are reversed. To the inverted narcissist, a
spouse
> is a Source of PRIMARY Supply.
>
> The other reaction to the narcissistic parent is:
>
>
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>
> This is the big difference between narcissists and their inverted version.
The
> former REJECTED the Primary Object in particular (and object relations in
> general) in favour of a handy substitute: themselves.
>
> The IN accepted the (narcissist) Primary Object and internalised it - to
the
> exclusion of all others (unless they are perceived by him to be faithful
> renditions, replicas of the narcissistic Primary Object).
>
>
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> ACCOMMODATION and ASSIMILATION
>
> The child accommodates, idealises and internalises the Primary Object
> successfully. This means that the child's "internal voice" is narcissistic
and
> that the child tries to comply with its directives and with its explicit
and
> perceived wishes. The child becomes a masterful provider of Narcissistic
Supply,
> a perfect match to the parent's personality, an ideal source, an
accommodating,
> understanding and caring caterer to all the needs, whims, mood swings and
cycles
> of the narcissist, an endurer of devaluation and idealisation with
equanimity, a
> superb adapter to the narcissist's world view, in short: the ultimate
extension.
> This is what we call an "inverted narcissist".
>
>
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