"Raven Woman" <Hrafn...@hotmail.com> wrote:That might be a nice idea for different-sex friendships also. Of
>Matthew, you've hit on a great problem. In the B5 timeframe,
>presumably, some social mores have changed (think about the
>difference between 20th century and 18th century people!). Along
>with the change in customs, the ways of "signaling"
>behavior/intent/etc have probably also changed. But to "show"
>the story, the author has to use "signals" that people here-and-now
>will recognize. A real challenge for the storyteller.
>Assume, hypothetically, that in B5 time, it's common for
course, in either the same-sex or different-sex case, it would only
apply to situations where both persons were comfortable with it. So,
there'd be some friendships where it didn't apply; it'd probably only
apply to fairly close friendships, for a start. I guess that it would
be a good middle ground in between platonic friendship and sexual
involvement, which does seem like somewhat of a false dichotomy.
>So unless we got background explanations (which we didn't) II agree entirely. However, I wasn't actually talking about this, and I
>guess we should assume that sex relations and courtship rituals
>are about the same in B5 time and now.
think you've misinterpreted what I was saying. I apologise for my part
in the misunderstanding if the way I structured my post was ambiguous.
I wasn't even talking about Talia and Ivanova, or B5, for most of my
last post; other than the first two sentences, nothing I said in my
last post had anything at all to do with B5. Rather, I was talking
about dating issues IRL. The reason I made the "This probably just
reflects how society is at the moment, at least largely" comment was
that I was saying that it could be changed.
My point is that, with the way society is at the moment, often it's
Also, IME it's a little easier for a man to say "no" in a dating
IME it's somewhat easier in a same-sex dating context, where
Am I making sense here?
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