Be Interested in Other People & Avoiding Arguments
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Author: Pat Saunders
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I am going to give you some things that you can do to actually win your boss over to YOUR way of thinking. These methods are tried and proven as they are derived from the Dale Carnegie school of thought.
In a series of seven articles we are going to cover the following topics:
1. Be Interested In Other People
2. Avoiding Arguments
3. Getting Your Boss To Agree
4. Throw Down The Challenge
5. Admit Mistakes
6. Be A Good Listener
7. Putting It All Together
We'll cover number 1 & 2 in this article
Look, we all know that, for the most part, you're at your job to get a pay check and nothing else. Maybe, if you're lucky, there are a couple of people there who you work with who you like, but your boss is probably not one of them.
This is where you're going to really have to work hard...especially if you'd rather see your boss boiled in oil. If you haven't done so already, show some interest in your boss. Ask about his family. Ask about his hobbies. Ask him what he likes about working for the company.
If you can show genuine interest in your bosses life, you very well may just win him over and get him off your back.
It's certainly worth a try.
Of course, if that fails, along with all my other suggestions (some bosses are hard nuts) you're going to need to know your legal rights.
Avoiding Arguments
Do you know why arguments never lead to any good? Because neither side wants to give in. Given a topic where there are two differing opinions, each person is going to fight to the death to defend THEIR position.
If you think I'm wrong, watch a few arguments and see how they turn out.
Okay, so how do you go about avoiding arguments?
There are 3 ways.
1. Listen - I know this sounds odd, but hear me out. There is no way to even know what the argument is going to be about if you're not listening. Provided that you're not the one instigating the argument (usually the boss does this) you are going to need to hear what he is saying to know HOW to respond. This way, you'll have all the information you'll need to give a rational response.
2. Don't Throw Fuel On The Fire - One of the worst things you can do is respond with something like, "That's one of the stupidest ideas I have ever heard". That is only going to get your boss more worked up. I'm not saying you have to agree with him. Just don't be confrontational. It won't lead to anything good.
3. Flip The Script - This takes some skill, but it's very effective. If your boss is totally out of control, flip the script. In other words, stop him in his tracks by getting his attention. Usually this can be done by saying his name, however you address him...Mr Smith, whatever. Then, after you've gotten his attention, ask him to clarify what he's just said because you're having trouble following him. This will get him to slow down and speak in a more rational manner. But stay calm during the whole process.
By avoiding the argument, you can usually keep your boss calm enough to be tolerable.
About The Author: http://www.troubleatwork.blogspot.com See you next time with "Getting Your Boss To Agree" To YOUR Job Success, Pat Saunders
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Article Title: Be Interested in Other People & Avoiding Arguments
Author: Pat Saunders
Word Count: 594
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I am going to give you some things that you can do to actually win your boss over to YOUR way of thinking. These methods are tried and proven as they are derived from the Dale Carnegie school of thought.
In a series of seven articles we are going to cover the following topics:
1. Be Interested In Other People
2. Avoiding Arguments
3. Getting Your Boss To Agree
4. Throw Down The Challenge
5. Admit Mistakes
6. Be A Good Listener
7. Putting It All Together
We'll cover number 1 & 2 in this article
Look, we all know that, for the most part, you're at your job to get a pay check and nothing else. Maybe, if you're lucky, there are a couple of people there who you work with who you like, but your boss is probably not one of them.
This is where you're going to really have to work hard...especially if you'd rather see your boss boiled in oil. If you haven't done so already, show some interest in your boss. Ask about his family. Ask about his hobbies. Ask him what he likes about working for the company.
If you can show genuine interest in your bosses life, you very well may just win him over and get him off your back.
It's certainly worth a try.
Of course, if that fails, along with all my other suggestions (some bosses are hard nuts) you're going to need to know your legal rights.
Avoiding Arguments
Do you know why arguments never lead to any good? Because neither side wants to give in. Given a topic where there are two differing opinions, each person is going to fight to the death to defend THEIR position.
If you think I'm wrong, watch a few arguments and see how they turn out.
Okay, so how do you go about avoiding arguments?
There are 3 ways.
1. Listen - I know this sounds odd, but hear me out. There is no way to even know what the argument is going to be about if you're not listening. Provided that you're not the one instigating the argument (usually the boss does this) you are going to need to hear what he is saying to know HOW to respond. This way, you'll have all the information you'll need to give a rational response.
2. Don't Throw Fuel On The Fire - One of the worst things you can do is respond with something like, "That's one of the stupidest ideas I have ever heard". That is only going to get your boss more worked up. I'm not saying you have to agree with him. Just don't be confrontational. It won't lead to anything good.
3. Flip The Script - This takes some skill, but it's very effective. If your boss is totally out of control, flip the script. In other words, stop him in his tracks by getting his attention. Usually this can be done by saying his name, however you address him...Mr Smith, whatever. Then, after you've gotten his attention, ask him to clarify what he's just said because you're having trouble following him. This will get him to slow down and speak in a more rational manner. But stay calm during the whole process.
By avoiding the argument, you can usually keep your boss calm enough to be tolerable.
About The Author: http://www.troubleatwork.blogspot.com See you next time with "Getting Your Boss To Agree" To YOUR Job Success, Pat Saunders
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