A Tale [or Life] of Half Truths
0 views
Skip to first unread message
Mary Kay Buttery
Apr 21, 2013, 9:50:04 PM4/21/13
to publish-the...@googlegroups.com
*****************************************************************
Message delivered directly to members of the group:
publish-the...@googlegroups.com
*****************************************************************
Please consider this free-reprint article written by:
Mary Kay Buttery
*****************************
IMPORTANT - Publication/Reprint Terms
- You have permission to publish this article electronically in free-only publications such as a website or an ezine as long as the bylines are included.
- You are not allowed to use this article for commercial purposes. The article should only be reprinted in a publicly accessible website and not in a members-only commercial site.
- You are not allowed to post/reprint this article in any sites/publications that contains or supports hate, violence, porn and warez or any indecent and illegal sites/publications.
- You are not allowed to use this article in UCE (Unsolicited Commercial Email) or SPAM. This article MUST be distributed in an opt-in email list only.
- If you distribute this article in an ezine or newsletter, we ask that you send a copy of the newsletter or ezine that contains the article to http://www.isnare.com/eta.php?aid=1635556
- If you post this article in a website/forum/blog, ALL links MUST be set to hyperlinks and we ask that you send a copy of the URL where the article is posted to http://www.isnare.com/eta.php?aid=1635556
- We request that you ask permission from the author if you want to publish this article in print.
The role of iSnare.com is only to distribute this article as part of its Article Distribution feature ( http://www.isnare.com/distribution.php ). iSnare.com does NOT own this article, please respect the author's copyright and this publication/reprint terms. If you do not agree to any of these terms, please do not reprint or publish this article.
*****************************
Article Title: A Tale [or Life] of Half Truths
Author: Mary Kay Buttery
Word Count: 552
Article URL: http://www.isnare.com/?aid=1635556&ca=Self+Help
Format: 64cpl
Contact The Author: http://www.isnare.com/eta.php?aid=1635556
Easy Publish Tool: http://www.isnare.com/html.php?aid=1635556
*********************** ARTICLE START ***********************
Most of us have had the experience of being in possession of a tid bit of what I call a "truth" that we might have been hesitant or afraid to share because we knew it would not be well received. Perhaps we employed non-disclosure or remained silent about someone or something. At the time I seriously doubt many appreciated the fact that silence might be interpreted as consent.
How about instances in which we may have been unable to handle a truth confronting us? This could be a pint sized actuality, such as not wanting to notice that our car was in need of repair/s because we didn't want to pay for them, or a jumbo sized actuality, such as not fully accepting that a cherished relationship was shifting or perhaps ending.
Sometimes we can be in a "weather permitting' mode. This is somewhere between uninterested in knowing and afraid of knowing. The reality is that the truth is usually evident, and we can see it if we choose, but we each have our own elaborate ways of hiding the truth from ourselves, no matter how apparent it is.
Slowly breathe in, then out, and take a private minute to reflect on your ability or inability to communicate or perceive "what is". Notice how frequently you voice minutia that is safe or politically correct and don't relate particulars that are factual for you but are not necessarily as Machiavellian. Don't do anything about any of it; just notice how frequently or infrequently this occurs.
Many of us get ourselves in dilemmas because we are not willing to impart or glimpse at an actuality. We'd rather not hurt somebody's feelings, or feel the initial discomfort of being in touch with what's really going on around us. Perhaps we'd rather not do or say anything of what we know to be true because it's not as comfortable or familiar. For the most part, we avoid the truth because it scares us, makes us angry, or makes us feel like we don't know what to do.
It is vital to have consistency/ integrity between what we relate we're going to do and what we actually do. When this is lacking there will be a build up to a 'situation' where assumptions will be made and misunderstanding will occur. PS: by the way we need to realize this also involves things we tell ourselves!
A can of worms will be inevitably introduced if/when one deems it necessary to turn on alternate personas for different situations. And, this approach to doing things can be exhausting, and confusing!
Energy delegated to fortifying complicated and often completely useless entanglements of lies and pretences can be channeled into something we really desire to do. So in the long run, being honest with oneself and others, actual simplifies and enhances ones life considerably!
A wonderful upside to ones transformation is that relationships which amplify our authenticity will present themselves if they are fostered and nurtured by being honest with our self, and others.
Life continually assists us to grow and learn, experience and explore, discover and discern what's perfect for us at any particular moment- and what is not. Happy Trails!
About The Author: Mary Kay's desire is that people discover, and then live a life they truly love. Ignite your presence, and you will find a whole new world filled with simplicity, ease, and enjoyment. Mary Kay has put her knack for "disentangling" to use in various ways. Mary Kay is available for private consultations, speaking engagements, etc.. Be sure to visit her website http://www.sfgtd.com/. While browsing one can sign up for her *FREE* Monthly Newsletter, which is filled with inspirational, motivational and helpful information. Ignite your presence, and live in a whole new world of simplicity, ease and enjoyment. And be sure to check out her blog at https://www.facebook.com/pages/Life-Made-Simple-LLC/141216256065.
Please use the HTML version of this article at:
http://www.isnare.com/html.php?aid=1635556
*********************** ARTICLE END ***********************
- To distribute your articles go to http://www.isnare.com/distribution.php
- For more free-reprint articles go to http://www.isnare.com
Message delivered directly to members of the group:
publish-the...@googlegroups.com
*****************************************************************
Please consider this free-reprint article written by:
Mary Kay Buttery
*****************************
IMPORTANT - Publication/Reprint Terms
- You have permission to publish this article electronically in free-only publications such as a website or an ezine as long as the bylines are included.
- You are not allowed to use this article for commercial purposes. The article should only be reprinted in a publicly accessible website and not in a members-only commercial site.
- You are not allowed to post/reprint this article in any sites/publications that contains or supports hate, violence, porn and warez or any indecent and illegal sites/publications.
- You are not allowed to use this article in UCE (Unsolicited Commercial Email) or SPAM. This article MUST be distributed in an opt-in email list only.
- If you distribute this article in an ezine or newsletter, we ask that you send a copy of the newsletter or ezine that contains the article to http://www.isnare.com/eta.php?aid=1635556
- If you post this article in a website/forum/blog, ALL links MUST be set to hyperlinks and we ask that you send a copy of the URL where the article is posted to http://www.isnare.com/eta.php?aid=1635556
- We request that you ask permission from the author if you want to publish this article in print.
The role of iSnare.com is only to distribute this article as part of its Article Distribution feature ( http://www.isnare.com/distribution.php ). iSnare.com does NOT own this article, please respect the author's copyright and this publication/reprint terms. If you do not agree to any of these terms, please do not reprint or publish this article.
*****************************
Article Title: A Tale [or Life] of Half Truths
Author: Mary Kay Buttery
Word Count: 552
Article URL: http://www.isnare.com/?aid=1635556&ca=Self+Help
Format: 64cpl
Contact The Author: http://www.isnare.com/eta.php?aid=1635556
Easy Publish Tool: http://www.isnare.com/html.php?aid=1635556
*********************** ARTICLE START ***********************
Most of us have had the experience of being in possession of a tid bit of what I call a "truth" that we might have been hesitant or afraid to share because we knew it would not be well received. Perhaps we employed non-disclosure or remained silent about someone or something. At the time I seriously doubt many appreciated the fact that silence might be interpreted as consent.
How about instances in which we may have been unable to handle a truth confronting us? This could be a pint sized actuality, such as not wanting to notice that our car was in need of repair/s because we didn't want to pay for them, or a jumbo sized actuality, such as not fully accepting that a cherished relationship was shifting or perhaps ending.
Sometimes we can be in a "weather permitting' mode. This is somewhere between uninterested in knowing and afraid of knowing. The reality is that the truth is usually evident, and we can see it if we choose, but we each have our own elaborate ways of hiding the truth from ourselves, no matter how apparent it is.
Slowly breathe in, then out, and take a private minute to reflect on your ability or inability to communicate or perceive "what is". Notice how frequently you voice minutia that is safe or politically correct and don't relate particulars that are factual for you but are not necessarily as Machiavellian. Don't do anything about any of it; just notice how frequently or infrequently this occurs.
Many of us get ourselves in dilemmas because we are not willing to impart or glimpse at an actuality. We'd rather not hurt somebody's feelings, or feel the initial discomfort of being in touch with what's really going on around us. Perhaps we'd rather not do or say anything of what we know to be true because it's not as comfortable or familiar. For the most part, we avoid the truth because it scares us, makes us angry, or makes us feel like we don't know what to do.
It is vital to have consistency/ integrity between what we relate we're going to do and what we actually do. When this is lacking there will be a build up to a 'situation' where assumptions will be made and misunderstanding will occur. PS: by the way we need to realize this also involves things we tell ourselves!
A can of worms will be inevitably introduced if/when one deems it necessary to turn on alternate personas for different situations. And, this approach to doing things can be exhausting, and confusing!
Energy delegated to fortifying complicated and often completely useless entanglements of lies and pretences can be channeled into something we really desire to do. So in the long run, being honest with oneself and others, actual simplifies and enhances ones life considerably!
A wonderful upside to ones transformation is that relationships which amplify our authenticity will present themselves if they are fostered and nurtured by being honest with our self, and others.
Life continually assists us to grow and learn, experience and explore, discover and discern what's perfect for us at any particular moment- and what is not. Happy Trails!
About The Author: Mary Kay's desire is that people discover, and then live a life they truly love. Ignite your presence, and you will find a whole new world filled with simplicity, ease, and enjoyment. Mary Kay has put her knack for "disentangling" to use in various ways. Mary Kay is available for private consultations, speaking engagements, etc.. Be sure to visit her website http://www.sfgtd.com/. While browsing one can sign up for her *FREE* Monthly Newsletter, which is filled with inspirational, motivational and helpful information. Ignite your presence, and live in a whole new world of simplicity, ease and enjoyment. And be sure to check out her blog at https://www.facebook.com/pages/Life-Made-Simple-LLC/141216256065.
Please use the HTML version of this article at:
http://www.isnare.com/html.php?aid=1635556
*********************** ARTICLE END ***********************
- To distribute your articles go to http://www.isnare.com/distribution.php
- For more free-reprint articles go to http://www.isnare.com
Reply all
Reply to author
Forward
0 new messages