The Top Ten Things You Should Never Say to a Person With Generalized Anxiety
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There are some things that you just need to hold back from saying when it comes to communicating effectively with someone with an anxiety disorder. Although anxious people hear these kinds of comments and questions quite often, they don�t get any easier to hear as time goes by. If you are part of a support network listen up, because here are the top 10 things you shouldn�t say to someone who suffers from anxiety:
1) �You look worried.� Anxiety sufferers will be thinking, �If I don�t worry, how will I keep everything under control?� They feel like if they don�t worry, then mentally, emotionally, and physically they will be stuck in the unknown, a world that is very uncomfortable. Worrying is a coping mechanism that anxiety sufferers rely on, one that will diminish as they become more in control of their physical and emotional sensations. Bringing attention to the worrying, however, only makes it worse so it is best to leave it alone if you notice it in someone.
2) �How come you�re so quiet?� This is the one I feared the most when I was struggling with social anxiety. Deep down I knew who I really was and that was a social, upbeat kind of guy . . . but on the surface I was quiet and unapproachable. Realize that the person you are speaking to is being calm and collected because that is their choice � they do not have to live up to your expectations of how they should behave. Let them come to you when they feel comfortable.
3) �I think you need a drink.� Ummmm hello . . . do you know what alcohol does to my nerves in the morning? If someone looks uptight or stressed, try not to make it worse by offering something they might find potentially harmful.
4) �Don�t worry, stress is normal.� Really? Is it normal to be stressed and anxious about going for a walk in the hope that my heart won�t explode? Stress and anxiety is normal, but the amount that anxiety sufferers go through on a regular basis is nothing to be underestimated. Sometimes making light of something that is a big deal to someone else can be very insulting and difficult to hear.
5) �Have you gotten it checked yet?� I don�t know about you, but as a hypochondriac I would be focused on a mole on my body or the lump in my throat and I was constantly at the doctor having these things checked. This question just fuels a person�s anxiety because it reminds them of the many unsuccessful attempts they have gone through trying to get someone from the medical profession to take them seriously. It feels like opening an old wound in a way.
6) �I had a panic attack once.� � please.
7) �Why do you go to the bathroom so much?� Frequent urination is quite common with anxiety. I remember being extremely nervous the moments before being taken to our seats in a restaurant because I had to take care of business every fifteen minutes during times of extreme stress. If we didn�t get seated close to a bathroom, well I might as well have worn a diaper. Embarrassing right? So why bring it up?
8) �Dude, your hands are shaking.� � Have you ever avoided reaching for your glass of water on the table due to the fear of people seeing your hands shake? Well, whenever I got caught with shaky hands and was told what was happening by someone else, all I wanted to do was crawl into a hole and die. It�s another embarrassing symptom that I really didn�t want anyone to bring attention to.
9) �Think positive thoughts and you�ll get through it.� I�m all about positive thinking and spreading happiness everywhere I go. The problem is that positive thinking rarely gets you through a cycle of fear-adrenaline-fear once it has kicked into high gear. So thanks for the idea, but it doesn�t really help fix a panic attack.
10) �Man up!� Seriously?? SMACK!!
About The Author: Professional athlete as well as mental health mentor for sufferers my goal is to inspire and lead anyone suffering from the many mental health disorders. 6 years of emergency visits to doctors, and uncontrollable nervousness fueled by multiple physical symptoms has taught me how precious life really is, I wasted a lot of time worrying about fears that never came true as a professional athlete, and now I want to show you how I turned it all around naturally. http://www.anxietyend.com
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There are some things that you just need to hold back from saying when it comes to communicating effectively with someone with an anxiety disorder. Although anxious people hear these kinds of comments and questions quite often, they don�t get any easier to hear as time goes by. If you are part of a support network listen up, because here are the top 10 things you shouldn�t say to someone who suffers from anxiety:
1) �You look worried.� Anxiety sufferers will be thinking, �If I don�t worry, how will I keep everything under control?� They feel like if they don�t worry, then mentally, emotionally, and physically they will be stuck in the unknown, a world that is very uncomfortable. Worrying is a coping mechanism that anxiety sufferers rely on, one that will diminish as they become more in control of their physical and emotional sensations. Bringing attention to the worrying, however, only makes it worse so it is best to leave it alone if you notice it in someone.
2) �How come you�re so quiet?� This is the one I feared the most when I was struggling with social anxiety. Deep down I knew who I really was and that was a social, upbeat kind of guy . . . but on the surface I was quiet and unapproachable. Realize that the person you are speaking to is being calm and collected because that is their choice � they do not have to live up to your expectations of how they should behave. Let them come to you when they feel comfortable.
3) �I think you need a drink.� Ummmm hello . . . do you know what alcohol does to my nerves in the morning? If someone looks uptight or stressed, try not to make it worse by offering something they might find potentially harmful.
4) �Don�t worry, stress is normal.� Really? Is it normal to be stressed and anxious about going for a walk in the hope that my heart won�t explode? Stress and anxiety is normal, but the amount that anxiety sufferers go through on a regular basis is nothing to be underestimated. Sometimes making light of something that is a big deal to someone else can be very insulting and difficult to hear.
5) �Have you gotten it checked yet?� I don�t know about you, but as a hypochondriac I would be focused on a mole on my body or the lump in my throat and I was constantly at the doctor having these things checked. This question just fuels a person�s anxiety because it reminds them of the many unsuccessful attempts they have gone through trying to get someone from the medical profession to take them seriously. It feels like opening an old wound in a way.
6) �I had a panic attack once.� � please.
7) �Why do you go to the bathroom so much?� Frequent urination is quite common with anxiety. I remember being extremely nervous the moments before being taken to our seats in a restaurant because I had to take care of business every fifteen minutes during times of extreme stress. If we didn�t get seated close to a bathroom, well I might as well have worn a diaper. Embarrassing right? So why bring it up?
8) �Dude, your hands are shaking.� � Have you ever avoided reaching for your glass of water on the table due to the fear of people seeing your hands shake? Well, whenever I got caught with shaky hands and was told what was happening by someone else, all I wanted to do was crawl into a hole and die. It�s another embarrassing symptom that I really didn�t want anyone to bring attention to.
9) �Think positive thoughts and you�ll get through it.� I�m all about positive thinking and spreading happiness everywhere I go. The problem is that positive thinking rarely gets you through a cycle of fear-adrenaline-fear once it has kicked into high gear. So thanks for the idea, but it doesn�t really help fix a panic attack.
10) �Man up!� Seriously?? SMACK!!
About The Author: Professional athlete as well as mental health mentor for sufferers my goal is to inspire and lead anyone suffering from the many mental health disorders. 6 years of emergency visits to doctors, and uncontrollable nervousness fueled by multiple physical symptoms has taught me how precious life really is, I wasted a lot of time worrying about fears that never came true as a professional athlete, and now I want to show you how I turned it all around naturally. http://www.anxietyend.com
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