Ladies, Women, Females and Parents Beware!
Females of all ages are in grave peril in the USA today. Pornography
addiction has reduced females to sex objects to be used, abused and
discarded when no longer sexually useful. Our culture deceives women
into thinking and acting on the basis of their "rights" rather than on
the basis of what is safe and wise.
Women believe they have the right to walk by themselves into a parking
structure to get their car, to go by themselves at night to a party of
event, to walk/run/job by themselves in places where they are alone,
or to walk by themselves at night in the dark to where they have
parked their car or to where they expect to meet their friends. Surely
they have the right to do all of these things, but for them it is
neither safe nor wise today in our godless, ammoral and secular
society. Pride comes before fall and a woman proud of her rights, her
power, her influence, her beauty and popularity who thinks that she
can do whatever she wants whenever she wants is a "sitting duck" for
predators, easy prey for the heartless and godless who would use,
abuse and destroy her.
A young American mother, Ms. Martinez, went to a large festive concert
and party in Tijuana and corrupt police kidnapped her and gave her to
the gangs as a sex slave gift. Her American parents are still grieving
her loss. In Escondido a teenager was walking home alone in broad
daylight and she was kidnapped right off the sidewalk and has not been
seen since. There are frequent news reports of runaways hitch hiking
or riding the bus who are picked up by people who pose as "friendlies"
only to be made sex slaves for profit or personal abuse. Every week
there is a news article about some female being abducted or
disappearing, and if they are found they are usually found abused and
dead.
My teenage daughter, young, strong and fit told me she could defend
herself against any
predator. I asked her if she would let me prove her wrong and she
agreed. I told her I could have her helpless and vulnerable in less
than 3 minutes and she challenged me.
Within two minutes or less she was on the floor underneath me unable
to move her legs or arms to get loose. It opened her eyes.
I know this little 110 pound widow lady who has a big hammer, hatchet
and iron pipe under her bed to fight off intruders. I showed her how
useless those objects were and how unable she would be to defend
herself against a large male intruder. Stubbornly she still doesn't
believe it and often sleeps with only a screen door between her and
predators. Women don't realize that a testosterone and adrenalin
crazed male attacker is oblivious to pain and has overwhelming
strength. A 120 lb woman who knows karate, judo and kung fu finds
herself unable to defend herself when taken by surprise from behind,
when the male has her in a bear hug or when he uses a potentially
deadly object like a bat, chair, tire iron etc. Such female victims
don't have a chance, which is why in many societies women are
protected and sheltered by their families until they are married or
ready to be independent adults. Most American women have no such
protection.
Since they don't have such protection, the wise female needs to
protect herself and think defensively. The wise female goes to social
events with friends, goes in a group to socialize, jogs with friends,
gets a store employee to walk her to her car, waits to go with others
into the parking structure, parks in well lit public places, locks her
car and house doors when in them, secures her windows before she goes
to sleep, etc etc etc. A friend of mine told me how he went to a
party alone and someone put a mind altering drug in his soda/drink
and he landed up in a psychiatric ward for six months. A young and
innocently trusting girl at the party whose drink was drugged without
her knowledge landed up in psychiatric wards for years, and was still
there last I heard. Literally it is not good to be alone, Adam found
out in the Garden. It is neither wise nor safe to be alone where and
when you are vulnerable and have no back up, no one "guarding your
back", no one to pick you up out of the ditch when you fall into it.
According to the Federal government and the UN there are at least
200,000 sex slaves (mostly females and boys) in the USA today, with at
least 17,500 added to that number annually. According to the UN there
are 27 million sex slaves, mostly females and boys, in the world
today. There is very little being done for them, for their freedom, or
for their well being. Few care enough to do anything about it. When
these sex slaves get STDs that are visible, or that have visible
symptoms like those of advanced cases of AIDS, HIV or HCV, they are
either killed or kicked out in the streets to die painfully and alone,
Hell on earth. No parents want that for their children. Groups like
"Not For Sale", "Polaris Project", the International JusticeIJL
I got a preview of quality dating that was safe for the female when I
was in high school. I had given my life to Jesus and trusted Him to
save me when I was 12, so I was looking for a Christian girl friend.
There was a beautiful young lady who worked at her parents bakery
around the corner from where I lived. Her parents' rule was that all
dates with her had to take place in their living room or back yard
until she and they were comfortable with me and approved of me.
I was too immature and insecure to handle that so I bailed out. It
happened again with the beautiful and lovely Beth Quillan, but again I
was too immature and insecure to handle that kind of dating. Carolyn
Mack's parents let me date her, mostly church activities, but when her
parents saw that my
thoughtlessness and lack of consideration was
hurting her feelings, they wouldn't let me see her anymore. Their
parents saved them from a lot of grief because my dating and first
marriage was a series of heartbreaks for all concerned. I was a mess
and I wasn't walking close enough to Jesus to spare me and those
involved with me from the consequences of my carnality, self-will and
crippled personality.
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TITLE: MATCHMAKER ISSUES, QUESTIONS & QUESTIONNAIRE
COPYRIGHT (c)
JANUARY 14, 1996 All rights reserved.
This file, in its entirety, may
be posted on or copied off of
computer networks like Internet or WWW
by anyone so
inclined as long as it is not changed.
Edited, compiled
and written by R. Tyler,
>>>THE SINGLES' QUESTIONNAIRE
I have
prepared this screening questionnaire to be used to screen contacts or
to use as a get acquainted tool before the first date to be discussed
and compared on the first date. No one should date a complete stranger
without using some well prepared screening device. These aren't the
good old days. If you have any questions or comments about my
screening questionnaire, please contact me at: L. Tyler, P.O.Box
620763, San Diego, CA 92162-0763
Tyler, P.O.Box 734, El Centro, CA
92244-0734
oldse...@gmail.com ---
Jabez...@aol.com
DEAR SINGLE
FRIEND,
There is no need to be alone! If you do not want to be
alone
and you believe God does not want you to be alone,
then you can do
something about it besides sitting and
waiting. If you have a phone,
a pen, some spare coins and
the desire to meet others, then all you
have to do is be a
Ruth and present yourself to the Boazes that are
out there
looking for you, or be an Issac and let these resources be
your servants to bring you together with your Rebeckah.
Jesus said
the sparrows are provided for, but even the
sparrows have to get out
of their nests and get out into the
world to find the food God has
provided for them. Even so,
you too will probably have to get out of
your nest or rut and
get out into the world to find, or be found by,
the mate God
has for you. The seekers are promised to find, so if you
want
to find you had better be seeking.
Sexual harassment laws
today make it almost impossible to
initiate relationships at work,
and even at some educational
institutions. Sexual harrasment laws
today almost require that
the woman at least state her interest and
openness to a date or
relationship before the man initiates anything.
The resources below
are specifically designed
for professionals and
adults who want to meet like minded
people. The helps below are
offered to help you get out of
your nest and find your provision from
God.
Please start at
www.eharmony.com. Please get and read N.
Clark
Warren's books, " Finding the Love of Your Life", and
"How to Know if
Someone's Worth Pursuing in 2 Dates".
Test/Examine/Scrutinize
Everything! That includes the people you meet and become involved
with. Hold Fast/Tightly That Which is Good! After you have found that
the person has God and His goodness filling that person's life, HANG
ON TO THAT PERSON! 1 Thess. 5:21He who finds a godly mate, finds a
good thing! It is good to be zealous about good things.Whatever you
find to do, do with all your might as unto the Lord. Seek and you
shall find.
SO DO IT! BUT DO IT BEFORE YOUR HEART IS HOOKED ON A
FEELING! DO IT BEFORE YOU START SEEING EACH OTHER REGULARLY OR MAKING
COMMITMENTS. AT LEAST MAKE SURE BOTH OF YOU HAVE DONE THE FOLLOWING
COMPATIBILITY QUESTIONNAIRE PART ONE (ALONE BY YOURSELVES). HAVING
COMPLETED THE PART ONE QUESTIONNAIRES BY YOURSELVES, BY E-MAIL (NOT BY
PHONE) AGREE ON AN EXACT MINUTE WHEN YOU WILL BOTH E-MAIL YOUR
COMPLETED PART ONE QUESTIONNAIRES TO EACH OTHER. THIS PREVENTS THAT
ONE WILL USE THE OTHER'S INFORMATION TO DETERMINE HOW TO COMPLETE HIS/
HER PART ONE QUESTIONNAIRE.
IF HE DOESN'T E-MAIL HIS COMPLETED PART
ONE QUESTIONNAIRE WITHIN TWO MINUTES OF THE AGREED UPON TIME, DROP HIM
FOR HE CAN'T BE TRUSTED.
AFTER THE PART ONE QUESTIONNAIRES HAVE BEEN
COMPLETED AND EXCHANGED, BY E-MAIL, BEGIN TO DISCUSS BY E-MAIL (NOT BY
PHONE) WHAT YOU HAVE LEARNED ABOUT EACH OTHER. IF ALL GOES WELL AND
ACCEPTABLY IN THE E-MAIL EXCHANGES, THE FIRST THREE DATES SHOULD BE
THAT HE ATTEND HER CHURCH WITH HER, MEETING HER AT HER CHURCH,
ARRIVING SEPARATELY IN THEIR OWN CARS. SHE SHOULD MAKE SURE SHE
INTRODUCES HIM TO AS MANY OF HER CHURCH FRIENDS AS POSSIBLE. BEFORE
EVERYONE LEAVES AND THE CHURCH CLOSES, THEY SHOULD LEAVE SEPARATELY IN
THEIR OWN CARS, WITH HIM LEAVING FIRST, AND HER GOING ANY PUBLIC PLACE
BUT HOME AFTER LEAVING THE CHURCH (SO HE CAN'T FOLLOW HER AND FIND OUT
WHERE SHE LIVES).
AFTER THE THIRD CHURCH DATE, I HOPE THEY WOULD GO
SEPARATELY OUT TO A VERY PUBLIC RESTAURANT FOR LUNCH/DINNER. I HOPE
THEY WOULD LEAVE SEPARATELY IN THEIR OWN CARS, WITH HIM LEAVING FIRST,
AND HER GOING ANY PUBLIC PLACE BUT HOME AFTER LEAVING THE RESTAURANT
(SO HE CAN'T FOLLOW HER AND FIND OUT WHERE SHE LIVES).
THE WOMAN PROVIDES THIS INFORMATION ONLY AFTER SHE HAS VERIFIED HIS
INFORMATION. IF THE LORD LEADS YOU, PLEASE COMPLETE THE NEXT STEP,
"ARE WE READY FOR MARRIAGE", BEFORE YOU BECOME ENGAGED OR MAKE YOUR
MARITAL COMMITMENT OR BECOME MARITALLY INTIMATE. IF YOU WANT THE NEXT
STEP, PLEASE CONTACT R. TYLER AT PO. BOX 620763, SAN DIEGO, CA
92162-0763
PLEASE DON'T SEND/GIVE THE "ARE WE READY FOR MARRIAGE" TO
A POTENTIAL/ PROSPECTIVE DATE. THE QUESTIONNAIRE LETS YOU REALLY GET
TO KNOW EACH OTHER IN A VERY SHORT TIME AND ALLOWS YOU TO DO DEAL WITH
POTENTIAL PROBLEMS/CONFLICTS VERY EARLY IN A SERIOUS RELATIONSHIP.
REMEMBER YOU SHOULD BE PREPARED TO ACCEPT THE PERSON THE WAY HE/SHE IS
WHEN YOU MEET WITH THE HOPE THAT A REASONABLE PERSON WOULD MAKE MINOR/
MODEST COMPROMISES. ANY PLAN ON YOUR OR HIS/HER PART TO MAKE OR EXPECT
MAJOR CHANGES IN THE OTHER PERSON IS NOT REALISTIC AND PAVES THE WAY
FOR HEARTBREAK LATER. REMEMBER THE ROMANS 14 DOUBT PRINCIPLE: WHEN IN
DOUBT, DON'T!!!!!! SAVE YOUR HEART!
WHEN THE DOUBTS ARE COMPLETELY
GONE AND YOU HAVE PEACE OF MIND AND HEART ABOUT WHAT YOU WANT TO DO,
YOU'VE PRAYED ASKING AND TRUSTING HIM FOR HIS SHEPHERDING/ GUIDANCE,
YOU MEET THE BIBLE'S REQUIREMENTS FOR ANSWERED PRAYER41 , AND YOU ARE
AWARE OF NOTHING IN THE BIBLE THAT SAYS YOU SHOULDN'T DO IT, DO IT!!!
THE MATCHMAKER QUESTIONNAIRE can be found in the Files/Documents
section of this group or the following:
http://groups.google.com/group/InterRacialEthnicDatinMarriageInJesus
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/InterDatingMarryingInJesus2
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/AmorYLaMexicanaYMorenita
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/JesusVsRacismAndEthnocentrism2 - - - - -
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http://groups.msn.com/ChristianInterracialethicDatingMarriage =====
http://groups.google.com/group/PGChristianLivingIssues =====- - - -
http://interracialrelations.multiply.com/
or upon request at
oldse...@gmail.com