Wives Drive Their Husbands to Adultery When

[Ron Tyler]

Wives Drive Their Husbands to Adultery When

By R Tyler Copyright 08/09/09 P.O.Bx 620763, San Diego, CA 92162-0763
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The Scriptures below indicate that Jesus' Way of dealing with and of avoiding sex sin, sexual immorality including adultery, is marital sexual intimacy.

The wife is under God's command to obey the following passages even if her husband doesn't. If the wife Loves Jesus she will obey Him (John 14:15-21; 1 John 2:3-5).

***Eccles 9:9 Enjoy life with your wife, whom you love, all the days of this meaningless life that God has given you under the sun— all your meaningless days. For this is your lot in life and in your toilsome labor under the sun.

***1 Cor 7: 1* ¶ But concerning the things of which ye have written to me: It is good for a man not to continue -keep on - touching a woman; 2 but BECAUSE OF SEXUAL IMMORALITY  each man should be [sexually] having his own woman, and each woman should be [sexually] having her own man. . . .4. The woman doesn't have [sexual] authority over her own body, but the husband [does]; in like manner also the man doe sn't have [sexual] authority over his own body, but the woman [does]. 5 Do not be denying each other [sexually], unless, it may be, by consent for a time, that you may devote yourselves to prayer, and again BE CONJUGALLY COHABITING [SEXUALLY REUNITING], SO THAT SATAN TEMPT YOU NOT BECAUSE OF YOUR LACK OF RESTRAINT, lack of control.

***Prov. 5:18 Your fountain/genital should be blessed; and rejoice and be glad with the wife of your youth. 19 . . . her breasts should satisfy/intoxicate/saturate you at all times; you should be intoxicated continually with her [sexual] loving 20  Why should you be exhilarated and intoxicated, my son, with a  woman estranged [from God] and embrace the breast of an ungodly and immoral woman?
21 For a man’s ways are before the eyes of the LORD,
   and He ponders all his paths.
22The iniquities of the wicked ensnare him,
   and he is held fast in the cords of his sin.
23 He dies for lack of discipline,
   and because of his great folly he is led astray.

Wives cause their husbands to sex sinners, fornicators and/or adulterers when they disobey the Word of God, given below, by
<1> not enabling and allowing her own man to be enjoying their sexual life with and by her
<2>not allowing, enabling and encouraging her own man to keep on sexually and intimately having her
 <3>her failing to keep on sexually and intimately having her own man
<4> failing to acknowledge, consent to and cooperate with her husband's sexual authority over her own body
<5> failing to keep on exercising her own sexual authority over his body
<6> denying him access to and freedom of sexual action on her body without his willing consent
<7> failing to keep on having mutual and intimate breast and genital contact
<8>not allowing, enabling and encouraging her own man to get "high" and extremely sexually aroused and excited with her breasts
<9> not allowing, enabling and encouraging her own man to get "high" and extremely sexually aroused and excited continually, on an ongoing basis, with her intimate and sexual loving

Solomon and the Shulamite of the Bible's Song of Solomon (Canticles) model for us delightful marital intimacy:

Song 1:2 [Wife] He should kiss me with the kisses of his mouth!
    For your loving is better than wine; . . .
    13 My lover is to me a sachet of myrrh
       resting between my breasts.

2:6 [Wife]His left hand is under my head,
   and his right hand embraces me!
    17 Until the day breathes
   and the shadows flee,
    turn, my beloved, be like a gazelle
   or a young stag on cleft mountains [her breasts].

3:4[WIFE] Scarcely had I passed them
       when I found him whom my soul loves.
    I held him, and would not let him go . . . .

4:  [HUSBAND] 1Behold, you are beautiful, my love,
   behold, you are beautiful [to me]! . . .
    5 Your two breasts are like two fawns,
       like twin fawns of a gazelle
       that browse among the lilies.
    6 Until the day breaks
       and the shadows flee,
       I will go to the mountain of myrrh [one of her breasts]
       and to the hill of incense [her other breast ].
    7 You are altogether beautiful [to me], my love; . . .
    9 You have captivated my heart, my sister, my bride;
       you have captivated my heart with one glance of your eyes,
    10How beautiful is your loving, my sister, my bride!
       How much better is your loving than wine,
       and the fragrance of your oils than any spice!
    11Your lips drip nectar, my bride;
        honey and milk are under your tongue;
       the fragrance of your garments is like the fragrance of Lebanon.
    12 My sister, my bride, [you are] a locked garden—
        a locked garden and a sealed spring.
    13 Your branches [arms and legs]  are a paradise  of pomegranates
       with choicest fruits,
        henna with nard—
   14 nard and saffron, calamus and cinnamon,
        with all the trees of frankincense,
        myrrh and aloes,
        with all the best spices [available at most supermarkets].
    15 [You are] a garden spring,
        a well of flowing water
        streaming from Lebanon.

    [WIFE]4:16 Awaken,  north wind—
    come, south wind.
    Blow on my garden [her body],
    and spread the fragrance of its spices.
    My love should come to his garden [HER]
    and eat its choicest fruits. 

5:[HUSBAND] 1 I have come to my garden—my sister, my bride.
    I gather my myrrh with my spices.
    I eat my honeycomb with my honey.
    I drink my wine with my milk. . . .
    5 I rose to open for my love.
    My hands dripped with myrrh,
    my fingers with flowing myrrh . . .

   [WIFE]16 His mouth is sweetness.
    He is absolutely desirable. . . .

7: [HUSBAND]1 How beautiful are your sandaled feet, princess!
    The curves of your thighs are like jewelry,
    the handiwork of a master. . . .
3 Your breasts are like two fawns,
       twins of a gazelle.
6 How beautiful you are and how pleasing,
       O love, with your delights!
7 Your stature is like that of the palm,
       and your breasts like clusters of fruit.
 8 I said, "I will climb the palm tree;
       I will take hold of its fruit [her breasts]."
       May your breasts be like the clusters of the vine,
       the fragrance of your breath like apples,
   
[WIFE] 7:10 I belong to my love,
    and his desire  is for me.
  11 Come, my love,
    let's go to the field;
    let's spend the night among the henna blossoms.

8:[WIFE] 3 His left hand is under my head,
    and his right hand embraces me. . . .
    14 Come away, my lover,
       and be like a gazelle
       or like a young stag
       on the spice-laden mountains [her breasts]. [From NIV, ESV, HCSB]

Queen Esther preapred herself in a very similar manner for her honeymoon night.
Esther 2:"¹²Now when the turn of each maiden came to go in to King Ahasuerus, after the regulations for the women had been carried out for twelve months--since this was the regular period for their beauty treatments, six months with oil of myrrh and six months with sweet spices and perfumes and the things for the purifying of the women--   ¹³Then in this way the maiden came to the king: whatever she desired was given her to take with her from the harem into the king's palace."

The application to marriage could be as follows:
Now when the time came for the wife to go in to her husband, after the regulations for the wife had been carried out for twelve months--since this was the regular period for their beauty treatments, six months with oil of myrrh and six months with sweet spices and perfumes and the things for the purifying of the wife--   ¹³Then in this way the wife came to her husband: whatever she desired was given her to take with her into her huaband's honeymoon suite.'

33 However, let each man of you [without exception] love his wife as [being in a sense] his very own self; and let the wife see that she respects and reverences<5399> her husband that she notices him, regards him, honors him, prefers him, venerates, and esteems him; and that she defers to him, praises him, and loves him exceedingly]. [I Pet. 3:1-6.] AB
<Strong's 5399> be in awe of, i.e. revere [Dictionary: feel deep respect or admiration; respect, admire, honor, think highly of, esteem, hold in high esteem, hold in high regard, look up to, put on a pedestal, lionize, reverence]: fear (exceedingly), reverence [Dictionary: high esteem, high regard, great respect, acclaim, admiration, appreciation, estimation, favor.].

PLEASE NOTE THAT THE COMMAND IS NOT "the wife must respect<5399> her husband" WHEN AND IF HE DESERVES IT, OR HAS EARNED IT.  JESUS' COMMAND IS "the wife must respect<5399> her husband" WHETHER OR NOT HE DESERVES IT . SHE KEEPS ON REVERING AND RESPECTING HIM BECAUSE SHE LOVES JESUS ENOUGH TO OBEY HIM IN THIS MATTER.

IT IS THE DIVINE ORDER
***1 Cor 11:³But I want you to know and realize that Christ is the Head of every man, the head of a woman is her husband, and the Head of Christ is God.
***Eph 5:²¹ Be subject to one another out of reverence for Christ (the Messiah, the Anointed One).    ²² Wives, be subject (be submissive and adapt yourselves) to your own husbands as [a service] to the Lord. ²³For the husband is head of the wife as Christ is the Head of the church, Himself the Savior of [His] body.   ²⁴As the church is subject to Christ, so wives also should be subject in everything to their husbands. ²⁵ Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for her, . . . 33 However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect<5399> her husband AB & NIV
***Romans 13 ¹EVERY person should be loyally subject to the governing authorities. For there is no authority except from God [by His permission, His sanction], and those that exist do so by God's appointment.  ²Therefore he who resists and sets himself up against the authorities resists what God has appointed and arranged [in divine order]. And those who resist will bring down judgment upon themselves [receiving the penalty due them].
APPLICATION:¹EVERY wife should be loyally subject to the governing authorities, including her husband. For there is no authority except from God [by His permission, His sanction], and those that exist do so by God's appointment.  ²Therefore she who resists and sets herself up against the authorities resists what God has appointed and arranged [in divine order]. And those wives who resist will bring down judgment upon themselves [receiving the penalty due them].

WHAT ABOUT THE WIFE WHO FEELS "USED" BY HER HUSBAND???????

***Rom1:²⁶ . . . For their women exchanged their natural<5446> function<5540> for an unnatural and abnormal one,    ²⁷And the men also turned from natural<5446> relations<5540> with women . . . .
<Strong's 5446 = instinctive: — natural.>   
<Strong's 5540 = employment, i.e. (special) sexual intercourse (as an occupation of the body): — use.
YIELDING: For their women exchanged their instinctive and natural intercourse use for an unnatural and abnormal one,    ²⁷And the men also turned from natural intercourse use with women . . . .

God made Eve to complete Adam, to fulfill their mission to be fruitful and multiply, children by sexual intercourse, the natural and instinctive sexual use of their bodies. The vagina was made to receive the penis, its natural function/use. The penis was made to enter the vagina, its natural function/use.  Sexual intercourse is a natural USE/FUNCTION of the penis and the vagina.
A natural use of the female body is to receive the penis and its sperm to reproduce. A natural use of the famale body is to allow the male to empty his prostate by having an orgasm, and so avoid prostate congestion and inflamation that can result in serious difficulty in male urination, inadequate emptying of the bladder, prostate inflammation, bladder infection, and cancer of the males' bladder and prostate.  Jesus created Adam and knew that Adam needed a HELPER FIT AND SUITABLE FOR HIM to have godly children, the result of sexual intercourse, genital union.
***Gen 2: ¹⁸Then the LORD God said, "It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him."  [ESV] . . . . I will make him a helpersuitable for him."  [NASB & NIV]
***Mala 2:¹⁵And did not God make [you and your wife] one [flesh]? Did not One make you and preserve your spirit alive? And why [did God make you two] one? Because He sought a godly offspring [from your union]. . . . .

CHRIST MODELED THE SUBMISSION TO WHICH HE HAS CALLED US:
***1 Peter 2: ¹³Be submissive to every human institution and authority [including husbands] for the sake of the Lord, whether it be to the emperor as supreme,

    ¹⁴Or to governors as sent by him to bring vengeance (punishment, justice) to those who do wrong and to encourage those who do good service.

    ¹⁵For it is God's will and intention that by doing right [your good and honest lives] should silence (muzzle, gag) the ignorant charges and ill-informed criticisms of foolish persons.

    ¹⁶[Live] as free people, [yet] without employing your freedom as a pretext for wickedness; but [live at all times] as servants of God.

    ¹⁷Show respect for all men [husbnads, treat them honorably]. Love the brotherhood (the Christian fraternity of which Christ is the Head). Reverence God. Honor the emperor.

    ¹⁸[You who are] household servants, be submissive to your masters with all [proper] respect, not only to those who are kind and considerate and reasonable, but also to those who are surly (overbearing, unjust, and crooked).

    ¹⁹For one is regarded favorably (is approved, acceptable, and thankworthy) if, as in the sight of God, he endures the pain of unjust suffering.

    ²⁰[After all] what kind of glory [is there in it] if, when you do wrong and are punished for it, you take it patiently? But if you bear patiently with suffering [which results] when you do right and that is undeserved, it is acceptable and pleasing to God.

    ²¹For even to this were you called [it is inseparable from your vocation]. For Christ also suffered for you, leaving you [His personal] example, so that you should follow in His footsteps.

    ²²He was guilty of no sin, neither was deceit (guile) ever found on His lips.

    ²³When He was reviled and insulted, He did not revile or offer insult in return; [when] He was abused and suffered, He made no threats [of vengeance]; but he trusted [Himself and everything] to Him Who judges fairly.  [AB]

***1 Peter 3: ¹IN LIKE manner, you married women, be submissive to your own husbands [subordinate yourselves as being secondary to and dependent on them, and adapt yourselves to them], so that even if any do not obey the Word [of God], they may be won over not by discussion but by the [godly] lives of their wives,

    ²When they observe the pure and modest way in which you conduct yourselves, together with your reverence [for your husband; you are to feel for him all that reverence includes: to respect, defer to, revere him--to honor, esteem, appreciate, prize, and, in the human sense, to adore him, that is, to admire, praise, be devoted to, deeply love, and enjoy your husband].

    ³Let not yours be the [merely] external adorning with [elaborate]  interweaving and knotting of the hair, the wearing of jewelry, or changes of clothes;

    ⁴But let it be the inward adorning and beauty of the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible and unfading charm of a gentle and peaceful spirit, which [is not anxious or wrought up, but] is very precious in the sight of God.

    ⁵For it was thus that the pious women of old who hoped in God were [accustomed] to beautify themselves and were submissive to their husbands [adapting themselves to them as themselves secondary and dependent upon them].

    ⁶It was thus that Sarah obeyed Abraham [following his guidance and acknowledging his headship over her by] calling him lord (master, leader, authority). And you are now her true daughters if you do right and let nothing terrify you [not giving way to hysterical fears or letting anxieties unnerve you].

    ⁷In the same way you married men should live considerately with [your wives], with an intelligent recognition [of the marriage relation], honoring the woman as [physically] the weaker, but [realizing that you] are joint heirs of the grace (God's unmerited favor) of life, in order that your prayers may not be hindered and cut off. [Otherwise you cannot pray effectively.]

    ⁸Finally, all [of you] should be of one and the same mind (united in spirit), sympathizing [with one another], loving [each other] as brethren [of one household], compassionate and courteous (tenderhearted and humble).

    ⁹Never return evil for evil or insult for insult (scolding, tongue-lashing, berating), but on the contrary blessing [praying for their welfare, happiness, and protection, and truly pitying and loving them]. For know that to this you have been called, that you may yourselves inherit a blessing [from God--that you may obtain a blessing as heirs, bringing welfare and happiness and protection].

    ¹⁰For let him who wants to enjoy life and see good days [good--whether apparent or not] keep his tongue free from evil and his lips from guile (treachery, deceit).

    ¹¹Let him turn away from wickedness and shun it, and let him do right. Let him search for peace (harmony; undisturbedness from fears, agitating passions, and moral conflicts) and seek it eagerly. [Do not merely desire peaceful relations with God, with your fellowmen, and with yourself, but pursue, go after them!]

    ¹²For the eyes of the Lord are upon the righteous (those who are upright and in right standing with God), and His ears are attentive to their prayer. But the face of the Lord is against those who practice evil [to oppose them, to frustrate, and defeat them].

    ¹³Now who is there to hurt you if you are zealous followers of that which is good?

    ¹⁴But even in case you should suffer for the sake of righteousness, [you are] blessed (happy, to be envied). Do not dread or be afraid of their threats, nor be disturbed [by their opposition].

    ¹⁵But in your hearts set Christ apart as holy [and acknowledge Him] as Lord. Always be ready to give a logical defense to anyone who asks you to account for the hope that is in you, but do it courteously and respectfully.

    ¹⁶[And see to it that] your conscience is entirely clear (unimpaired), so that, when you are falsely accused as evildoers, those who threaten you abusively and revile your right behavior in Christ may come to be ashamed [of slandering your good lives].

    ¹⁷For [it is] better to suffer [unjustly] for doing right, if that should be God's will, than to suffer [justly] for doing wrong. [AB]

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