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Before the godly woman begins to seek the godly man, the godly woman
needs to know how a godly man acts, what he is like. To know what the
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But before we go on, let's deal with the sin of "fear of man"
New King James Version Psalm 118:6
The LORD is on my side;I will not fear. What can mankind do to me?
New International Version Prov 29:25
Fear of mankind will prove to be a snare, but whoever trusts in the
LORD is kept safe.
Matthew 10 (Holman Christian Standard Bible)28 Don't fear those who
kill the body but are not able to kill the soul; rather, fear Him who
is able to destroy both soul and body in hell.

Godly women who are seeking a godly husband, who are thinking of
offering themselves to godly men for marriage must call on Jesus to
free them from the fear of the men, from the fear of what they may say
or do.
Once freed from the snare of the fear of people, of mankind, the godly
woman is ready to proceed like Ruth did with Boaz.

Remember how Ruth offered herself as wife to Boaz, after Naomi did the
Titus 2 thing and taught her what to do:
***" 1Then Naomi her mother-in-law said to her, "My daughter, should I
not seek rest for you, that it may be well with you? 2Is not Boaz our
relative, with whose young women you were? See, he is winnowing barley
tonight at the threshing floor. 3 Wash therefore and anoint yourself,
and put on your cloak and go down to the threshing floor, but do not
make yourself known to the man until he has finished eating and
drinking. 4But when he lies down, observe the place where he lies.
Then go and uncover his feet and lie down, and he will tell you what
to do." 5And she replied, "All that you say I will do." 6So she went
down to the threshing floor and did just as her mother-in-law had
commanded her. 7And when Boaz had eaten and drunk, and his heart was
merry, he went to lie down at the end of the heap of grain. Then she
came softly and uncovered his feet and lay down. 8At midnight the man
was startled and turned over, and behold, a woman lay at his feet! 9He
said, "Who are you?" And she answered, "I am Ruth, your servant.
Spread your wings over your servant, for you are a redeemer." 10And he
said, "May you be blessed by the LORD, my daughter. You have made this
last kindness greater than the first in that you have not gone after
young men, whether poor or rich. 11And now, my daughter, do not fear.
I will do for you all that you ask, for all my fellow townsmen know
that you are a worthy woman."ESV Ruth 3

A godly Christian woman will want to marry a godly Christina man. The
godly Christian woman knows she can ask Father for a godly Christian
husband and knows that if it is His will, she will receive him. A
frequent problem, even for the godly Christian woman, is that she
might want him to look like a movie star or model, and want him to be
as physically fit as a competitive athlete. They have yet to call on
Jesus to get them  to the level of Spiritual development where they
"DO NOT FOCUS ON WHAT IS SEEN," don't "TAKE PRIDE IN OUTWARD
APPEARANCE," and don't see people "ACCORDING TO THE FLESH/BODY." They
are not yet ready to accept from the Lord, as the answer to their
prayer for a godly husband, a godly man who happens to be wheel chair
bound, blind, deaf, fat, bald, skinny, unsophisticated,
plain, old, young, under educated, relatively poor, has a funny old
car, lives in an old house, lives in an undesirable neighborhood, has
crazy or demon possessed parents, or is called to be a missionary who
goes out on faith trusting Jesus for his provision, or already had a
wife.

***"4:18 So we do not focus on what is seen, but on what is unseen;
for what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal. . . . .
5:12 We are not commending ourselves to you again, but giving you an
opportunity to be proud of us, so that you may have a reply for those
who take pride in the outward appearance rather than in the
heart.  . . . 16From now on, therefore, we regard no one according to
the flesh/body. Even though we once regarded Christ according to the
flesh/body, we regard Him thus no longer." HCSB+ESV 2 Cor

Some are not yet ready to accept from the Lord, as the answer to their
prayer for a godly husband, a godly man who happens to be wheel chair
bound, blind, deaf, fat, bald, skinny, unsophisticated,
plain, old, young, under educated, relatively poor, has a funny old
car, lives in an old house, lives in an undesirable neighborhood, has
crazy or demon possessed parents, or is called to be a missionary who
goes out on faith trusting Jesus for his provision, or already had
kids by a previous wife.

The godly Christian woman may have already come to the place where
they know that Father hears them, and that they have the right to
expect His answer because they continue to obey Jesus' orders [observe
His suggestions and injunctions, follow His plan for us] and [keep on]
practicing what is pleasing to Jesus; and if they have studied their
Bible well, they know what His will is in many things, and have the
confidence that if they ask for anything that is in agreement with His
Will and Plan, they will then see their prayer answered.

***"3:22And we receive from Him whatever we ask, because we
[watchfully] obey His orders [observe His suggestions and injunctions,
follow His plan for us] and [keep on] practicing what is pleasing to
Him.   23And this is His order (His command, His injunction): that we
should believe in (put our faith and trust in and adhere to and rely
on) the Name of His Son Jesus Christ (the Messiah), and that we should
love one another [unselfishly, patiently and kindly; without envy or
boasting; without being arrogant or rude; without insisting on your
own way; without being irritable or resentful; without rejoicing at
wrongdoing, but rejoicing with the Truth], just as He has commanded
us. . . . 5:14And this is the confidence (the assurance, the privilege
of boldness) which we have in Him: [we are sure] that if we ask
anything (make any request) according to His will (in agreement with
His own plan), He listens to and hears us. 15And if (since) we
[positively] know that He listens to us in whatever we ask, we also
know [with settled and absolute knowledge] that we have [granted us as
our present possessions] the requests made of Him." AmpB 1 John

So the godly Christian woman who strongly feels led to serve Jesus as
a man's wife and the mother of children to be raised to His glory, or
the godly woman who has come under command to marry because she fails
to keep on abstaining from sex sin in thought or deed - - - -
***" 2 but because of and to avoid sexual immorality each man should
be [sexually] having his own woman, and each woman should be
[sexually] having her own man. . . .  8To the unmarried and the widows
I say that it is good for them to remain single as I am. 9 But if they
do not continue to have self-restraint [keep on abstaining from sex
sin],  they should marry, for it is better to marry  than to burn with
desire." 1 Cor 7
 - - - - - - - knows that she has a legitimate need for marriage,
knows that if she is under God's command to marry she REALLY NEEDS a
godlyhusband. Knowing her need she prays for and looks for the godly
man who can meet her need of marriage.
***"16By this we come to know (progressively to recognize, to
perceive, to understand) the [God's] Love: that He laid down His [own]
life for us; and we ought to lay [our] lives down for [those who are
our] brethren [in Him]. 17But if anyone has this world's goods
(resources for sustaining life) and sees his brother and fellow
believer in need, yet closes his heart of compassion against him, how
can the Love of God live and remain in him? 18Little children, let us
not Love [merely] in theory or in speech but in deed and in truth (in
practice and in sincerity)." 1 John 3 from AmpB

So if the godly woman in need sees a godly man who has the ability to
meet her need,
without focusing "ON WHAT IS SEEN," not taking "PRIDE IN OUTWARD
APPEARANCE," and not seeing him "ACCORDING TO THE FLESH/BODY," then
she has the right to let him know her need, and ask him if he would be
the one to meet her need. I believe she should follow Ruth's example,
if possible, and seek the advice and guidance of an older godly woman
(Titus 2). I believe she should follow Ruth's example and personally
approach him in a quiet moment when they are alone, to ask him to meet
her need of marriage and offer herself to serve him in his need of
marital intimacy (1Cor7:1-5; Prov 5:18,19), to help him "avoid sexual
immorality", to help him raise "godly offspring."
***"15 But did He not make them one,
      Having a remnant of the Spirit?
      And why one?
      He seeks godly offspring.  . . . Mala 2 NKJV

Romans 14:22 Your personal convictions [on sexual matters not
specifically dealt with in the Bible]--exercise [them] as in God's
presence, keeping them to yourself [striving only to know the truth
and obey His will]. Blessed (happy, to be envied) is he who has no
reason to judge himself for what he approves [who does not convict
himself by what he chooses to do].
    23 But the man who has doubts (misgivings, an uneasy conscience)
about eating [or doing sexual acts not specifically dealt with in the
Bible], and then eats [or does one of those sexual acts], stands
condemned [before God], because he is not true to his convictions and
he does not act from faith. For whatever does not originate and
proceed from faith is sin [whatever is done without a conviction of
its approval by God is sinful].
15:1 Now we who are strong have an obligation to bear the weaknesses
of those without strength, and not to please ourselves. 2 Each one of
us must please his neighbor for his good, in order to build him up. 3
For even the Messiah did not please Himself. On the contrary, as it is
written, The insults of those who insult You have fallen on Me. 4 For
whatever was written before was written for our instruction, so that
through our endurance and through the encouragement of the Scriptures
we may have hope. 5 Now may the God of endurance and encouragement
grant you agreement with one another, according to Christ Jesus, 6 so
that you may glorify the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ with
a united mind and voice.

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