mind reading
Chuqui Q. Koala
No
>I am reasonably good at picking up non-verbal cues from people
>and getting a "gut feeling" for how a person is feeling and how to
>respond to them. This often works out nicely, allowing me to mold
>myself to the needs of the other person. However, there is also the
>cloud around the silver lining; when I miss, the consequences are much
>worse.
Yes, you are not alone. Beware of two problems: One is the Zelig syndrome--
by being more sensitive to others, you are better able to meld with them,
but you are also more likely to lose track of yourself as you go. There is
nothing quite like waking up one morning, looking in the mirror, and
realizing that you don't know who that person is-- it is very possible to
hide your own self so deeply in the layers of the chameleon that you forget
where you put it.
The other problem is when, as you say, you blow it. When it is good, it can
be VERY good, but when you DO misread things it can blow up in your face.
About all you can do is go out, lick your wounds, and accept the fact that
it is going to happen once in a while. Crawling in a corner permanently
gets rid of the problems, but it also gets rid of the joy, too. If I had a
choice between pain and nothing, I'd choose pain every time, simply because
I can work at ending pain, but with nothing you don't even know that you
really exist.
chuq
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