The Perfect "Happy"

[Dan]

There was a topic about this before, couldn't find it.

The Perfect "Happy"

Knowing that you had a perfect dialogue during the day, either making
jokes or talking serious - knowing that you couldn't have said anything
better.

Going to sleep knowing you didn't waste the day.

[sarie]

I totally agree with " going to sleep and not wasting the day"
You only have so many days, so you have to do as much as you can and do
what you want!

The Perfect happy..to me, is when you can let loose and have fun, and
not have to worry about an assignment/exam...presentation..or worry
about anything in the back of your mind.
Then you can truly have a good time, without the uneasiness/pressure.

[Think_n_See]

Awesome Posts!

The Perfect "Happy" to me is one of two things...
being totally relaxed and doing something like walking outside, or by
the water, or into the mountain, or around the city, no time pressure
or

having something that you worked hard on succeed - like performing a
song in front of an audience, or presenting some information and that
presentation goes great, or completing something to watch it succeed.

...the more relaxed, in-the-moment feeling of the two is the first
one...
just the doing something enjoyable with no time pressure.

[da5zeay]

The perfect happy...that's an interesting concept.

...

I think for me it's a couple of things:

(1) The joy of sharing an experience with someone who is made happy
through that act. Like, giving someone a present that they love, or
being nearby when a breakthrough is made so you can both exult in it.
Maybe this is a parasitic form of happiness :-) I like being around
people who are making positive breakthroughs in whatever they're doing,
and if I can be a catylist for that...that's one of the perfect
happinesses for me. As simple as scratching your cat under their chin,
evoking the purring response. Or finding the perfect gift for someone
and giving it to them when it's not their birthday...just because you
found it, and they needed to have it. Or helping someone work through a
problem that's due to some dark perspective, punching giant holes in it
so they can see an alternative...that's a good feeling. When they get
to where they're going and wave back...I feel pretty darn happy.
Writing a piece of software that saves some people some time. That's a
good feeling too.

(2) As I wrote, I realized that all those happy moments are fairly
fleeting, so I need to experience many of these to feel charged up.
Since the supply is not guaranteed, it's not really a "perfect" happy
from an engineering perspective. The perfect happy would be some kind
of generative happiness that is constant, a kind of perpetual motion
machine that creates more energy than it consumes. If you can do THAT,
then you have plenty of happiness to throw around, because they're
always more! I suspect the right relationship would be like that: a
great creative partnership or business team, the right romantic match,
or a happy coincidence of talent, skill, and marketability.

(3) I feel a sense of satisfaction from doing something by myself, but
I wouldn't describe it as "happiness". You've banked something, created
some IP, or made some kind of progress that can't be taken away from
you...that's a good feeling, but there's so much to do that you know
you'll just have to do it again. Maybe a continual series of these
kinds of accomplishment leads to a different kind of happiness.

(4) Impossible Tasks make me happy. Or rather, witnessing the
completion of them. I guess when I see other people achieve the
impossible, or I experience it myself, everything seems pretty darn
possible after all. Impossibility can be scaled appropriately:
impossible for a single person, impossible for a single company,
impossible to foresee, impossible to create, impossible to succeed,
impossible odds... seeing someone overcome that, perhaps through
redefinition of the rules, makes me incredibly happy. Like when your
cat figures out how to open a door by himself...that's fantastic. Or
you are driving below Boston bay in a tunnel...whoa, reflect on the
magnitude of the task, and be amazed. Or even that we have substances
such as chocolate that have been refined over the ages into a
bewildering array of tastes. Or that someone thought that squid might
be edible, and tried it. Perhaps it is just the celebration of human
ingenuity that I'm into.