I totally resonate with Hilary Tuttle's analysis of video gaming, but also
with your alarm at how your son is spending his time. I, too, went through
the same "OMG, why am I paying thousands of dollars a year for you to play
video games when you can do this at home for free (and where I can control
which games you play)?"
My son started at a Sudbury model school (The Beach School) when he was 11
and stayed until it sadly closed its doors when he was 15. During that
time, he was probably the most avid gamer, although he had plenty of
company, mostly boys. And yes, Halo was BIG TIME. He repeatedly assured me
that he knew the difference between fantasy and reality, and NEVER did I see
problems at home caused by his playing of this game. Any problems around
gaming at school were mostly about mess -- eating, leaving food wrappers,
not tidying up at the end of the day, that sort of thing. Could happen
around any activity, not just gaming.
Moreover, I'm rather proud of the fact that he, along with a couple of the
older boys, convinced SM to release money to buy an XBOX. They researched
prices, packages, brought it up at SM, worked on the media policy (games,
movies, computer content), and were at every meeting that "gaming" came up.
When one of the younger students tried to get Halo3 banned, he was in there
like a dirty shirt, arguing why it shouldn't be banned. The motion was
defeated and Halo 3 reigned (Rats!). But so did Guitar Hero (which started
him on to playing guitar; he'll be in a recital playing his own composition
with his super-guitar-teacher soon) and Super Smash Brothers (if that's not
violent, I don't know what is). And I was very pleasantly surprised at how
social gaming is. He learned about teamwork and holding up one's
commitments. He gets quite annoyed when he feels he's the only one pulling
his weight, not just around gaming, but around any activity. Therefore, he
always makes sure that he's pulling his weight. Not a bad thing to learn.
One of the slightly younger boys (I think he was around 10 or 11 at the
time) hadn't been allowed to play Halo, but made several motions over time
that he should be allowed. The SM finally allowed him on probation to play,
with the proviso that if his behaviour deteriorated, he would be in JC and
probably banned from playing. They never had a problem with him around this
issue.
The SM eventually came up with a media policy that I thought was brilliant,
this after many many versions and discussions. So I love your son's
response: "well, maybe I should bring it up at school meeting, because I
want to keep on going there, and I'd rather have no video games then not be
able to go." This shows that he GETS Sudbury. He'll be fine.
Tane Akamatsu
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