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Strong passwords, where strong is longer, NOT finger gymnastic
complicated.
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If you are worried about having file sharing/screen sharing ports
open, then do everything over ssh tunnels using "Remote Login"
(port 22) as your only open port. ssh connections are encrypted
so all traffic is protected.
You can do all kinds of tricks with ssh, including configuring it
so that it will not accept password logins, ONLY ssh-keygen key
pairs which would only exist on your wife's and your Macs.
ssh tunnels can tunnel just about any TCP connection, including
Screen Sharing and Apple File Sharing, to name 2 more common Mac
sharing services.
There are even Mac OS X ssh GUIs you can use to handle some of the
messy ssh setup work, although some tricks may still need some
Terminal work.
Another approach is to use Hamachi to create your own VPN between
your wife's and your Macs (free for personal use).
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http://www.macupdate.com/app/mac/36286/logmein-hamachi>
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All your file sharing and screen sharing can passed over Hamachi
so they are encrypted and not visible to the neighbors.
But above all, address the secure passwords first, and everything
else will be gravy.
> I went to my hard drive in Finder and didn't have the ability to
> change its world access, probably because I am not logged on as
> administrator.
Do not worry about on-disk protections, as first the people have
to get into your Mac.
If they have physical access, they can do anything, and on-disk
permissions do not count. If truly worried about physical access
then consider whole disk encryption (File Vault 2 will do this,
but note, if you forget the password, you are toast; also make
sure backups are also encrypted).
If not worried about physical access, then you just have to
protect the network access, and again, we are back to strong
passwords.