On 8/4/12 4:41 PM, in article m2jhtuqibxms$.1gpm06wpifngi$.
d...@40tude.net,
"Foster" <
frankf...@yahoo.com> wrote:
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>>> The Roman Empire comes to mind.
>>
>> What does relationship / marriage equality gave to do with a *lowering* of
>> morals? Do you think the morals of the country were lowered when mixed race
>> relations became accepted?
>
> Because it is against the law in most places and the founding
> fathers when they spoke of the institution of marriage did not mean
> same sex.
And when they said "All men..." they meant all white, land-owning men. No
other races... and nobody who did not own property. Do you really want to
go by what *they* said? Do you really want to go back to not only
disallowing mixed race marriages but also disallowing women and even most
white men from voting? Do you want to go back to slavery? If not I do not
see what the reference to the founding fathers has to do with it.
> It's disgusting.
In your view... and do you mean mixed race marriages and same sex marriages?
You are not clear here (I spoke of both). It really is very much the same
issue - should people have equality in who they marry? I say yes: blacks
and whites and Orientals (of the many groups there are) and Native Americans
and men and women should be able to marry who the choose (assuming
consenting adults, of course). If I thought it was "disgusting" to have
same race-couples, say based on the idea that it leads to greater
in-breeding and lower health of people, would that be a sufficient reason
for you to accept a ban? If not, how is your view that it is "disgusting"
relevant? Again, I do not see how this is even applicable... what you
personally find appealing is not the issue.
I find abortions in all but the most rare of cases to be absolutely
repulsive. I am very much against them. But I would not push my views on
others. I find most greasy or really salty foods to be "disgusting" - it is
hard to find restaurants that I like. Should they be banned based on my
view that their food is "disgusting"? Heck, the argument there seems
stronger - those foods are demonstrably bad for you. People picking their
own marriage partners has not been shown to be unhealthy.
>>> One quick look at a sitcom from the 50's like I Love Lucy vs the
>>> garbage on TV these days is proof enough how low we have sunk.
>>> The population gets conditioned, slowly, to accepting disgusting
>>> behavior and like a drug or porn it gets to the point where it's
>>> normal or the addict needs more because what he is taking isn't
>>> enough, and we degrade even farther into moral decay.
>>
>> I do not see the connection you are trying to make.
>
> The connection is that because the morality of the country has gone
> into the sewer, people are numb to same sex marriages.
You are making the assumption that same sex marriages are immoral, much as
people used to see mixed race marriages as being immoral. What is immoral
about either? I do not see it. Just saying it is "disgusting" to you is
not relevant.
>>> Sorry.
>>> I find the behavior disgusting.
>>
>> Why is it "disgusting" to have equal rights for mixed races and same sex
>> relationships and marriages? I do not understand that.
>
> I have no problem mixing races.
Do you understand that the same arguments in terms of same-sex marriages are
very similar to the arguments that were made against mixed race marriages?
> I don't think it's a good idea, mostly for the children, but I have
> no problem with it myself as long as it isn't same sex.
I know many children of mixed race parents. They face no more problems than
many other minorities in the US. I am sure there are regional differences,
but from those I have talked to about the issue it simply has not been much
of a problem - if any at all. Mixed race adoptions seems to cause more
"confusion" and problems for people... which is not a reason to ban them.
> The law does not provide for equal rights between same sex
> marriages.
Not in most locations. Yes, there is a lot of discrimination in the law...
much as there was in terms of mixed race marriages, women voting,
non-land-owning male whites voting, etc. Over the years the country has
gotten much better in terms of allowing things which have been intuitionally
allowed to be discriminated against. This is the next step. I think this
progress that has been made over the last couple of hundred of years and is
continuing even now is a good thing. At each step, though, people have to
fight for their rights and their are those who are against them having equal
rights. And in each case those against equal rights have lost. If history
is any lesson, the same thing will happen here - gay marriages will cease to
be discriminated against. Gays will gain equal rights. It has taken time
and it will take more time - society has to "mature" to the point where the
discrimination is no longer seen as acceptable... and even then a set of
laws will not change all things overnight. There will still be some who
oppose it... just as their are some who oppose women's right to vote or
mixed race marriages.
I was talking to an older acquaintance a few years ago - she was in her 80s
then I believe (and has since passed away). She found mixed race
relationships to be disgusting. She admitted that every time she saw two
people of mixed race holding hands or otherwise clearly being romantically
involved she internally cringed. But she was smart: she knew this was a
product of her times and *knew* he emotional reaction was irrational and
unfounded... and commended the country and the younger generation for
accepting and legalizing and supporting what her generation had not. She
was wise enough to separate her own personal feelings (that is "disgusting")
as a poor basis for what is right or wrong or, more importantly, what should
be the law of the land. She was happy to see that people had progressed
past what she - personally - was able to do.
> Do I feel gay people deserve equal rights excepting marriage?
> Absolutely.
> No problem at all.
But you still feel their rights should be limited in ways yours and mine are
not. I do not understand this... your only two reasons so far have been to
say you personally do not like it (you feel uncomfortable with the idea...
it is "disgusting" to you) and that it is the law. The counter, of course,
is that the laws have changed over the history of the country to allow
greater equality and that people have learned to accept what they have
previously found unacceptable (non-white-land-owners voting, etc... all the
examples above and more).
> While I don't approve of the lifestyle, I feel they are citizens as
> well and protected under the constitution where legally allowable.
So why not change the law to give them full equality?
>>> And for those that don't see a gay lifestyle take a look at some of
>>> sMarti's posts. He is literally their poster child.
>>>
>>> It's not about people BTW, it's the lifestyle they live.
>>>
>>> One look is enough:
>>>
>>>
http://tinyurl.com/clqd58s
>>>
>>> (It's a Google Image Search on Gay Pride Parade).
>>
>> So those images would make you want to deprive, say, George Takai from
>> marrying the person he has been in a long term relationship with (they are
>> of the same sex *and* of different races)? How about the millions of others
>> who happen to love someone of a different race or of the same sex? I am not
>> seeing the connection you are trying to make here.
>
> See above.
>
> It's against the law.
I do not see the relevance... the argument being made is that the laws that
mandate inequality should be changed. I do not think anyone is denying it
is against the law (except in some areas...). Before 1967 mixed race
marriages were also "against the law". That fact does not mean it was not a
good thing to have the law be changed.
> It's not the same as marrying between races.
In 1966 it was. Both were against the law and both were found "disgusting"
by many people.
> It's very different in fact.
> One defining difference is marrying between heterosexual people of
> different races allows procreation.
Not all marriages are for the purpose of procreation. I know many seniors
who re-marry once their spouses pass away... they have no chance to
procreate. I know of people who have had sterilization procedures done who
have gotten married. For that matter, I know of same-sex couples who are
raising kids and doing a great job.
> George Takai stuffing his dick up another man's ass does not allow
> procreation and is in fact disgusting.
I already know you find homosexuality to be "disgusting". I do not see how
that is relevant to the conversation.
> And before you mention hetero couples doing the same thing, I find
> that disgusting as well. And apparently so did our founding fathers
> as sodomy laws were drafted.
See the comments about about the founding fathers... to go back to the
discrimination they allowed at the time would be horrendous: slavery of
people with dark skin, voting only for land-owning white men, etc. Now
*that* would be "disgusting"!