Roger,
Since Citadel is at fault here, there is no much you can do. What I
would do is to patch Alpine so that the "D" key does the "go back one
message after deletion". I have a patch that can help you with that it
is called "Define your own rules and make Alpine flexible!". The link
below takes you to the patch, it can be configured so that this
redefinition work in any specific folder. I can not think of a way to
do this without patching.
Link to the patch
http://patches.freeiz.com/alpine/info/rules.html
--
Eduardo
http://patches.freeiz.com/alpine/