In article <3242721196423...@naggum.no>, Erik Naggum <e...@naggum.no> wrote:
> How is context irrelevant in your life?
> I have come to conclude after many years of informal study, there are two > kinds of people¹: Those who think, learn, speak contextually, and those > who think, learn, speak absolutely.
You miss the most fundamental context here consistently. Specifically, that you're involved in a discussion with other human beings. You're not exchanging posts with abstract ideas.
You speak with disdain of those who think "absolutely," but your behavior in this forum often amounts to a call for those who don't meet your absolute standards of technical understanding to commit suicide and recycle "the wasted resources that did not achieve contextual understanding in its lifetime."
The only alternative is that you are being facetious with your calls for those you dislike to commit suicide. But your repeated defense and elaboration of these arguments suggests that you are not joking, and mean what you say.
You seem, therefore, to value the technical ideas of common lisp above not only other people's feelings, but their lives as well. It is this context, which you so blithely ignore, that causes others to think you abusive. Compassionate people think that there is something profoundly wrong with someone who values technical ideas above human life.
* Raffael Cavallaro | You miss the most fundamental context here consistently. Specifically, | that you're involved in a discussion with other human beings. You're not | exchanging posts with abstract ideas.
Would you let us in on your inventions in telepathy?
Just because you believe something does not make it fact. You seem to have a /really/ hard time grasping this extremely simple concept.
| You speak with disdain of those who think "absolutely," but your behavior | in this forum often amounts to a call for those who don't meet your | absolute standards of technical understanding to commit suicide and | recycle "the wasted resources that did not achieve contextual | understanding in its lifetime."
This would be the conclusion from someone who does not understand context. Just as expected, in other words.
| Compassionate people think that there is something profoundly wrong with | someone who values technical ideas above human life.
Are you saying that you consider yourself /compassionate/? *laugh* That /really/ takes the cake. You are an abusive, obsessive nutcase who has such a huge hangup with me that you keep harping on the same string long after it has ceased to be relevant to anyone else. You are a waste of space and a serious annoyance to this forum. The only way you could improve on the condition in this newsgroup were to quit posting your abusive messages directed at me. People need your poisonous bile like they need a punctured gall bladder. Everybody here knows that you have a serious emotional problem with respect to me and that you are unlikely to ever get over it. So who cares? /You/ keep bringing the painful things up again and keep re-living it as if I should care that you inflict pain on yourself. You could stop that any moment, but you don't. Clearly, you are stark raving mad and instead of seeking help to get over your traumatic experiences, seek to inflict pain on others, as well. This is evil. This is why you think others are evil, too. This is why you will never become a human being worth having compassion for.
So go kill yourself, now. OK?
-- Erik Naggum, Oslo, Norway
Act from reason, and failure makes you rethink and study harder. Act from faith, and failure makes you blame someone and push harder.
> > You speak with disdain of those who think "absolutely," but your behavior > > in this forum often amounts to a call for those who don't meet your absolute > > standards of technical understanding to commit suicide and recycle "the > > wasted resources that did not achieve contextual understanding in its > > lifetime." > Erik Naggum
> This would be the conclusion from someone who does not understand > context. Just as expected, in other words. > [snip] > This is why you will > never become a human being worth having compassion for.
> So go kill yourself, now. OK?
Erik, you managed to prove the point I was making, by example, in the very same post.
Despite your elaborate rationalizations, you completely gloss over your own abusive behavior. There's little point in continuing attempts to persuade you that you'd be a much greater asset to the Common Lisp you value so highly if you only treated posters to c.l.l better. Bye.
* Raffael Cavallaro | Erik, you managed to prove the point I was making, by example, in the | very same post.
No, I did not, I ridiculed your idiotic psychological hangup and intended to inflict pain on you in the way you have shown me it works best. But more importantly, I wanted to see if I had to revise my opinion of you, and now, thanks to your retarded response, I can conclude: You cannot possibly have an IQ above 70. It is impossible for someone to be so stupid as you are without an actual deficit of capacity. Therefore, I apologize for making fun of you in a way you were clearly unable to understand. It is not nice to make fun of people with handicaps, so I apologize profusely for doing so.
| Despite your elaborate rationalizations, you completely gloss over your | own abusive behavior.
No, I do not. Before I listen to criticism, I want abusive bastards who keep going after me to show me that you can stop doing what you do. If you cannot stop, then you have no reason whatsoever to harangue me for your own failures, and you show me that you consider your responses appropriate to the stimuli you receive. So do I for mine. For some reason that is probably sufficiently explained by low IQ, you do not see the pattern involved here and think that the substance of what you do not like makes such a huge difference that any similarities are to be ignored.
You make the same same mistake that any other retard does: They think the world is no more complex than they can grasp. You have to have an IQ above a certain level to understand that the world is vastly more complex than any one person can grasp at any one time. Some have set that at 85, other at 75 (1 sigma = 15). You fall /way/ below either threshold. I repeat from my previous message: Just because you believe it, does not make it fact. You simply do not grasp this, do you? That which Raffael Cavallaro believes, that also exists. Therefore, whether you make claims about your beliefs or about facts makes no difference to you at all, because it is all the same to you. This is why you actually /believe/ all the horrible accusations you pass my way, too, and I can only look at the deranged retard who screams at me from a street corner in Berkeley with metabolized sympathy -- that residual effect of having felt sympathy, except for the feeling of sympathy part.
| There's little point in continuing attempts to persuade you that you'd be | a much greater asset to the Common Lisp you value so highly if you only | treated posters to c.l.l better.
I realize that your low intelligence makes it hard for you to understand, but you have to work hard at this particular question: Why should anyone do what you think is better? What gives you the right to demand anything of anybody other than yourself? When you clearly do not demand anything of yourself, least of all civil behavior, what you demand of others is less than worthless -- you are a parasite. This is the crucial point that you have never been able to understand that has been questioned all along.
Here's the recipe for actually communicating that civility is valued. It is one of the most difficult things in the world, if we are to watch the people who demand it from others, who think that it is not rude to call others rude. Be prepared because this will come as a shock. The one recipe for actually communicating that civility is the desired form of human communication is this one simple imperative. OK? All well prepared for the tremendous force of this recipe? Here we go, then:
Be civil.
I know, whoa!, heavy. But let it sink. Let it affect you slowly if you cannot take it in all at once. Then actually follow it. Then save this for later, because it will take time to figure out how they are related: The one recipe for getting uncivil behavior from other people. You need to know this because you need to know when you have be civil and have to resist the urge to say what you think. Here is the recipe to get uncivil behavior from other people. Now, remember, this is what you should /not/ do if you want to be /really/ civil to other people. This can be a heavy blow even though you have to save it for later when you have managed to internalize the previous heavy rule. So, again, the recipe for getting uncivil behavior from other people, which you should /not/ do, is:
Annoy them.
Please do not post about civility or rudeness or any such thing if you do not understand these recipes. Thank you.
-- Erik Naggum, Oslo, Norway
Act from reason, and failure makes you rethink and study harder. Act from faith, and failure makes you blame someone and push harder.
Erik Naggum <e...@naggum.no> writes: > * Raffael Cavallaro > | You miss the most fundamental context here consistently. Specifically, > | that you're involved in a discussion with other human beings. You're not > | exchanging posts with abstract ideas.
> Would you let us in on your inventions in telepathy?
> Just because you believe something does not make it fact. You seem to > have a /really/ hard time grasping this extremely simple concept.
Whereas your utterances are factual? What a moronic debating tactic.
*Everyones's* utterances are opinions in that there is no absolute knowledge, truth etc. Dismissing what others say on this basis is a) stupid and b) applies equally well to your assertions.
You keep using this technique to dismiss anyone's criticisms about you. Apparently you think it effective.
> | Compassionate people think that there is something profoundly wrong with > | someone who values technical ideas above human life.
> Are you saying that you consider yourself /compassionate/? *laugh* That > /really/ takes the cake. You are an abusive, obsessive nutcase who has > such a huge hangup with me that you keep harping on the same string long > after it has ceased to be relevant to anyone else. You are a waste of > space and a serious annoyance to this forum. [...] People need your > poisonous bile like they need a punctured gall bladder. Clearly, you are > stark raving mad and instead of seeking help to get over your traumatic > experiences, seek to inflict pain on others, as well. This is evil. This > is why you think others are evil, too. This is why you will never become > a human being worth having compassion for.
> So go kill yourself, now. OK?
The abusive nutcase is you. Raffael's posts are hardly poisonous bile. What is amazing is that you have absolutely no sense of how you appear to others. That you are stark raving mad is in the end all that I can conclude about you.
-- Cheers, The Rhythm is around me, The Rhythm has control. Ray Blaak The Rhythm is inside me, bl...@telus.net The Rhythm has my soul.
Ray Blaak wrote: > The abusive nutcase is you. Raffael's posts are hardly poisonous bile. What is > amazing is that you have absolutely no sense of how you appear to others. That > you are stark raving mad is in the end all that I can conclude about you.
Point of information: apparently not, or you would have discarded the article without sending it, since it makes no sense to correspond with a stark raving madman. More likely you (and others here on c.l.l.) just enjoy trading insults.
I think it might be a public service to make the following point. I may be presumptuous here, but I will attempt to clarify Erik Naggum's behavior in the hope that people will stop embroiling themselves in useless flame fests.
The `secret' to understanding Erik Naggum is to realize that he cares about other things more than he does civility. He does not consider civility a goal in and of itself, or at least, he does not consider it a high priority goal.
Many people are civil because they want to be liked and accepted. Erik doesn't care if he's liked and accepted. He would like to be respected, but even then he doesn't care if he's not respected by people he doesn't respect.
You can call this arrogance, ego or whatever you want. But that won't change it. If you don't come to grips with the above, you will waste time in futile efforts to convince Erik that his behavior is uncivil, because he doesn't care if it is or not when other things he values more are at stake.
If, on the other hand, you were to convince Erik that something he said were technically incorrect, that would make a difference. I've seen it before: he admits his error.
In other words, Erik's values are not yours. I personally would prefer that he had different values; I regret very much his chronic feuds with Erann Gat, for example. But I don't expect to change him by yelling at him. (Or change Erann, for that matter.)
One more thing. Erik claims that his detractors don't care about civility either. That's because they themselves are willing to sacrifice civility when they are offended. This is a good point. You know how much you value civility by finding out when you are willing to abandon it. It's like the joke about the man who asked a woman if she'd marry him for a million dollars. She said, "Sure." Then he asked her if she'd sleep with him for fifty dollars. She was greatly offended. "What kind of a woman do you think I am?" she replied. He said, "We've already established that. We're just haggling over the price."
-- Fred Gilham gil...@csl.sri.com "In the 20th century, more citizens were killed by their own governments than by foreign enemies....totalitarianism first of all regards its own people as the enemy." --- Arnold Beichman
Paolo Amoroso <amor...@mclink.it> writes: > On Thu, 26 Sep 2002 16:38:35 GMT, Jeff Sandys <sand...@juno.com> wrote:
> > Norvig is converting _A.I.: A Modern Approch_ to Python because it > > is easier to read. (Although I am disappointed that Norvig chose
> I seem to remember a different rationale, i.e. the wider availabilty > of Python libraries, especially for GUI.
I can't find the page now that I got this list from, but the rationale he gave is at <http://lemonodor.com/archives/000015.html>. I would include the list of reasons here, but I think it would just invite pointless flaming.
> *Everyones's* utterances are opinions in that there is no absolute knowledge, > truth etc.
Recently I read the book "Zeno and the Tortoise: How to think like a philosopher" by Nicholas Fearn. It is a fun little book that covers many philosophy "tricks" and classic arguments. Chapter 2 covers the "no absolute knowledge or truth" philosophy.
The most damning criticism of this type of philosophy is that it is inherently paradoxical. Suppose it is correct. Some people believe it, others don't. But this means that people that believe in absolute truth are WRONG and people that don't are RIGHT. In other words, the philosophy itself is absolutely true!
Nowadays there is also the philosophy of "tolerance", which basically says that every culture should tolerate other cultures. But this philosophy is also paradoxical. What if another culture is intolerant? Do you tolerate that? Suppose you do tolerate intolerance. Your own culture has tolerant and intolerant people; since you have decided to tolerate intolerance you should tolerate the intolerant people in your own culture. But then the philosophy of tolerance is vacuous, since it is no different than no philosophy. On the other hand, if you decide to not tolerate intolerance then you are imposing your own cultural values (tolerance) onto other cultures, which violates the idea of tolerance.
* Fred Gilham | I think it might be a public service to make the following point.
However tasteless it is to use names in the Subject, this was a pretty good summary, actually. That is probably a first in and of itself.
| He does not consider civility a goal in and of itself [...]
Quite right. I actually cannot stand people who are polite and civil but have nothing whatsoever to communicate or accomplish with it. Civility is a protocol to get something done in a situation where people need to feel good about themselves. It is vitally important when you want to get those things done that require it. However, your "feeling good" is not something you can require other people to cater to without having a clear purpose to the exchange in the first place.
| Erik doesn't care if he's liked and accepted.
Yes, I do, but I do not seek a professional, technical forum about (Common) Lisp to be liked and accepted. If I do not find myself liked and accepted, I, too, feel unhappy, and I am actually quite hurt by the numerous evil people who do nothing on this newsgroup but attack me. What the fuck do they think this forum is for? Take them away, and there is /very/ little hostile traffic in this newsgroup. And I do /not/ start whatever remains. Just look at the recent number of assholes who had to opine about me. So, yes, I care very much when these assholes fill the newsgroup with hate rhetoric.
However, it is more correct that I do not think being liked and accepted should take predence to technical matters /in a technical forum/. It would be inconceivable for me to say "I like you as a person, but you post misinformation about Common Lisp in comp.lang.lisp". I think that would be about as likely as a stock broker saying "I like you as a person, but you give your customers really bad stock advice", or a priest saying to another "I really like you as a person, but could you please cut down on murdering abortion doctors?"
| He would like to be respected, but even then he doesn't care if he's not | respected by people he doesn't respect.
It is because I fundamentally respect people that I think they should listen. However, I find that the disrespect that people resort to when they do not "feel good" is quite alarming.
| You can call this arrogance, ego or whatever you want.
I do not care much what people call it, but I fail to see how ranking being liked and accepted and resepcted lower than technical merits can be called ego, though. In other words, I expect to be liked, accepted and respected for on technical merit /in a technical forum/.
| If, on the other hand, you were to convince Erik that something he said | were technically incorrect, that would make a difference. I've seen it | before: he admits his error.
I appreciate that at least someone sees this.
| In other words, Erik's values are not yours.
This sounds a little too general. I have found a lot more people who share my values that do not. Very few people actually stand up and say they prefer a forum of civil and polite idiots to a forum of sometimes quarreling experts, and for the newbie who wants to learn and seeks help, fora that are rife with polite idiots who give bad advice is really not something you know how much you will hate until you experience it.
| I personally would prefer that he had different values; I regret very | much his chronic feuds with Erann Gat, for example.
I havea no idea why Erann thinks this forum is a suitable place to spew accusations against me and post so much poisonous bile. What does that fucking moron expect to /achieve/? That shithead is purely destructive.
| You know how much you value civility by finding out when you are willing | to abandon it.
Glad to see someone else make this point. I have argued strongly that if your ethical standards are abandoned when you deal with people you do feel "enough" sympathy or empathy with, they are worthless. The great invention of "due process" is precisely that which treats people with a fundamental /respect/ regardless of what they have /done/. I really try to do this myself, but I find that even knowledge of the legal system and appreciation of the concept of due process is /missing/ in people who waste no opportunity to attack me, unfairly, unjustly, and most of all for things they /invent/ and which I have never done. False accusations is the ultimate disrespect.
But I can't quite get over seeing such an inflammatory Subject line above such accurate contents.
-- Erik Naggum, Oslo, Norway
Act from reason, and failure makes you rethink and study harder. Act from faith, and failure makes you blame someone and push harder.
In article <3242720537442...@naggum.no>, Erik Naggum <e...@naggum.no> wrote: > * Erann Gat > | Yes, of course it is. I never said any different.
> Yes, you do. All the time. You correct me when I post my observations.
Even if that were true (and it isn't -- disagreement is not the same as correction) that would still not mean that I claim my corrections to be objective fact. However, most of our recent disagreements have been over what I do and do not think, an area in which I happen to believe I am somewhat better positioned to judge than you.
(Of course, I cannot completely rule out the possibility that I am, as you have claimed in the past, mentally ill, and that you have some extraordinary power to accurately diagnose my mental illnesses through our usenet exchanges. I have actually considered this possibility more seriously than you know. (The number of people who support you in this newsgroup has given me serious pause.) But I have reached the tentative conclusion that I am sufficiently sane to judge my own motives and beliefs better than you can. So on matters of my beliefs, yes, I will be correcting you when you get it wrong. Everything else is just my opinion.)
> You override me when I want to show you my point of view. I have reason > to believe that you do not understand that you do this. I wonder what it > will take to make you understand.
You keep accusing me of doing things I cannot possibly be doing because the mechanics of usenet forbid it. I can't "override" you. I can only disagree with you. I have reason to believe that you do not understand this. I wonder what it will take to make you understand.
(BTW, I am repeating your own words to you not to mock you but because I believe that much of what you say is very sound advice. My main disagreement with you is that IN MY OPINION you do not practice what you preach.)
> You clearly believe that your personal value jugdments are more than your > personal view, some absolute truth.
You are clearly deluded if you think this is clear. Not only is it not clear, it is in fact false. (See my comment above about my personal beliefs being an area in which I consider myself more of an authority than you.)
> You show me this belief in your words > all the time, but more your choice of words and what you choose to react > to than the meaning they would have carried if they were trustworthy. > You seem to confirm that your value judgments are more than your personal > views in the above paragraph. When my value jugdments are /invalidated/ > by you and you presume to know what the /correct/ value jugdments should > be, my response is to tell you that you do not hold The Truth, or throw > up my hands in exasperation and ridicule you for it, which you amazingly > do not understand.
I understand it perfectly well. I understand that you think this is what I am doing. But you are wrong (see my comment above about my personal beliefs again).
> | I admitted the possibility that I might be wrong in the very next sentence > | (which you conveniently deleted).
> Your next sentence was "Or maybe I'll be surprised, who knows?" and that, > with all due respect, is no admission of a possibility that you might be > wrong. Quite the contrary. Your last sentence was "I submit it's worth > a try" which shows that it was but a feeble-minded way to coach others to > do your bidding by appearing to be receptive.
How about this then: I might be wrong. I don't know how I can make it any clearer than that.
> | Why do you go out of your way to manufacture disagreements between us?
> I am sorry to see that you perceive my insistence on showing you my view > after you ignore it, correct it, and override it as if I were manufacturing > disagreements. The fact is that we disagree on many important things.
Indeed we do. Nonetheless, it seems to me that you go out of your way to amplify our differences.
> You would see that if you tried to listen. In my experience, you are not > receptive to anything that would falsify or deny your own position.
Funny, that's my impression of you.
Not only am I receptive to evidence that would falsify my position, I have in fact suggested an experiment with a possible outcome that would falsify my position. But I cannot conduct that experiment, only you can, so that ball is in your court. (I notice, by the way, that seems to be exactly what you're doing. So I am going to try to reciprocate by going back to talking about Lisp now -- in another thread. This one's worn out.)
In article <3D9DC821.20...@nyc.rr.com>, Kenny Tilton <ktil...@nyc.rr.com> wrote:
> > Ray Blaak wrote: > > The abusive nutcase is you. Raffael's posts are hardly poisonous bile. What > > is amazing is that you have absolutely no sense of how you appear to > > others. That you are stark raving mad is in the end all that I can conclude > > about you.
> Point of information: apparently not, or you would have discarded the > article without sending it, since it makes no sense to correspond with a > stark raving madman. More likely you (and others here on c.l.l.) just > enjoy trading insults.
If what Ray wrote was the contents of a private email you might have a point, but it was a post to a public forum. His intended audience was obviously wider than what he referred to as "the abusive nutcase." He wants the whole group to know his opinion. This sort of mutual support is quite common in healthy communities.
In article <Pine.GSO.4.44.0210041135100.21624-100...@sundance.cse.ucsc.edu>, Nathan Whitehead <nwhit...@cse.ucsc.edu> wrote:
> The most damning criticism of this type of philosophy is that it is > inherently paradoxical. Suppose it is correct. Some people believe it, > others don't. But this means that people that believe in absolute truth > are WRONG and people that don't are RIGHT. In other words, the philosophy > itself is absolutely true!
It's worth remembering that the word paradox means an *apparent* contradiction. People who believe that there is no absolute truth would say that those who believe in absolute truth are most likely mistaken, not that they are absolutely "WRONG."
Here's another one for you - you can never get away from being the ultimate arbiter of what's true, or false, right or wrong. Even if you believe that some one else's philosophy, some other person, or some ethical code, etc. has the 'right' answers, it was still *you* who made the judgement that that philosophy, person, etc. was a reliable authority.
Erik Naggum <e...@naggum.no> writes: > But I can't quite get over seeing such an inflammatory Subject line above > such accurate contents.
I was horrified by the subject line, too. On the other hand, and I don't know if this was what Fred was thinking, if one were to try to write a message with content like this, what would be the most effective Subject line to get it read by the people who most need to read it? The current one isn't a bad choice.
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In article <u71y76dtiw.fsf...@snapdragon.csl.sri.com>, Fred Gilham
<gil...@snapdragon.csl.sri.com> wrote: > I regret very much his chronic feuds with Erann Gat, for example.
So do I.
> But I don't expect to change him > by yelling at him. (Or change Erann, for that matter.)
What would you have me change?
> One more thing. Erik claims that his detractors don't care about > civility either. That's because they themselves are willing to > sacrifice civility when they are offended. This is a good point.
No, it isn't. But since you are such an admirer or Erik's style I think I'll emulate it a bit and not explain why it's not a good point and just tell you to go think about it.
In article <3242750310920971...@naggum.no>, Erik Naggum <e...@naggum.no> wrote: > I havea no idea why Erann thinks this forum is a suitable place to spew > accusations against me and post so much poisonous bile. What does that > fucking moron expect to /achieve/? That shithead is purely destructive.
What I hoped to achieve was to be able to conduct a conversation with you without it degenerating into insults.
I hoped to make you see that you engage in the same behavior that you decry in others. It is astonishing to me that anyone can read (or write) the paragraph above and not be rocked by its blatant hypocricy.
Many people whom I believe could make constructive contributions here have fled c.l.l. because of you. I know because they have sent me private emails encouraging my efforts here. I hoped to change things so that they might return.
I hoped to change things so that visitors to c.l.l. would not made to feel like pariahs for taking umbrage when someone calls them a shithead.
I have not made as many technical contributions to this newsgroup as you have. I nevertheless stand proudly behind my record of contribution to the Lisp community. I helped Lisp get into space. I taught Lisp to students. I published one of the very few studies comparing programming languages that shows quantitatively how Lisp is superior to Java and C++.
I created jobs for Lisp programmers.
Those are all things that I was trying to accomplish. You win some, you lose some.
Now I have had my fill of it for a while, so I am going walkabout (again) where there be not Naggums (to paraphrase one of the people who has written me privately concerning my efforts here).
If there's anyone left out there who still cares about what I have to say, my email address is g...@jpl.nasa.gov.
> I was horrified by the subject line, too. On the other hand, and I > don't know if this was what Fred was thinking, if one were to try to > write a message with content like this, what would be the most > effective Subject line to get it read by the people who most need to > read it? The current one isn't a bad choice.
One still has lessons to learn about Usenet etiquette even after many years.
The original subject line came about in the heat of composition; I didn't think about it enough.
I think I'm going to post a Lisp question and try to get my name associated with something more on-topic....
-- Fred Gilham gil...@csl.sri.com Thou shalt not convince stupid people to try cordless bungee jumping.... Thou shalt not substitute Semtex when all the Playdough's gone.... Thou shalt not bob for hand grenades....
Erik Naggum wrote: > However, it is more correct that I do not think being liked and accepted > should take predence to technical matters /in a technical forum/. It > would be inconceivable for me to say "I like you as a person, but you > post misinformation about Common Lisp in comp.lang.lisp". I think that > would be about as likely as a stock broker saying "I like you as a person, > but you give your customers really bad stock advice", or a priest saying > to another "I really like you as a person, but could you please cut down > on murdering abortion doctors?"
In fact there is considerable evidence that this way of criticizing people is much more effective. The Pattern community has established the so-called Writers' Workshop to review papers, and participators are required to first make positive statements before stating the actual criticism. They are also required to state the criticism in a "positive" way by not just saying what is "wrong", but by suggesting possible improvements. I have been to several of these workshops and co-organized a similar workshop on AOP, and this always turned out to be _far_ more effective than for example the "standard" conference experience where people usually just criticize in a blunt negative way.
I myself was very surprised when I first made this experience, because it seems illogical at first that these things matter so much in a superficially purely technical context. But they do.
The Writers' Workshop format has been adapted from a similar format for literature/poetry workshops, so there is a traceable history.
So essentially it is not only conceivable that saying first some nice things is "better", it's a proven technique. (I guess you can also draw some evidence from psychological studies, but I am not sure in this regard.)
Of course, this wouldn't make sense in the example of "murdering abortion doctors", but I guess this example was a bit exaggerated to make your point clear.
I also have to admit that I don't know a lot about the "history" of the arguments in c.l.l. So maybe my point is not so relevant in this context. (Sorry in advance if that's the case.)
>> However, it is more correct that I do not think being liked and >> accepted >> should take predence to technical matters /in a technical forum/. It >> would be inconceivable for me to say "I like you as a person, but you >> post misinformation about Common Lisp in comp.lang.lisp". I think that >> would be about as likely as a stock broker saying "I like you as a >> person, >> but you give your customers really bad stock advice", or a priest >> saying >> to another "I really like you as a person, but could you please cut >> down >> on murdering abortion doctors?"
> In fact there is considerable evidence that this way of criticizing > people is much more effective. <snip>... this always turned out to be _far_ more > effective than for example the "standard" conference experience where > people usually just criticize in a blunt negative way.
> I myself was very surprised when I first made this experience, because > it seems illogical at first that these things matter so much in a > superficially purely technical context. But they do.
What measure do you have on effectiveness?
Not that I disagree. My tai chi teacher would always begin a (highly technical) form correction by saying "what you do is good" or "i used to do it that way" or "not bad". even when i knew he was just being nice it still worked: it made me feel better about (and more receptive to) the criticism I was about to receive.
>>>Ray Blaak wrote: >>>The abusive nutcase is you. Raffael's posts are hardly poisonous bile. What >>>is amazing is that you have absolutely no sense of how you appear to >>>others. That you are stark raving mad is in the end all that I can conclude >>>about you.
>>Point of information: apparently not, or you would have discarded the >>article without sending it, since it makes no sense to correspond with a >>stark raving madman. More likely you (and others here on c.l.l.) just >>enjoy trading insults.
> If what Ray wrote was the contents of a private email you might have a > point, but it was a post to a public forum. His intended audience was > obviously wider than what he referred to as "the abusive nutcase." He > wants the whole group to know his opinion. This sort of mutual support > is quite common in healthy communities. Raffael Cavallaro wrote:
>>>The abusive nutcase is you. Raffael's posts are hardly poisonous bile. What >>>is amazing is that you have absolutely no sense of how you appear to >>>others. That you are stark raving mad is in the end all that I can conclude >>>about you. >> >> >>Point of information: apparently not, or you would have discarded the >>article without sending it, since it makes no sense to correspond with a >>stark raving madman. More likely you (and others here on c.l.l.) just >>enjoy trading insults. > > > > If what Ray wrote was the contents of a private email you might have a > point, but it was a post to a public forum. His intended audience was > obviously wider than what he referred to as "the abusive nutcase." He > wants the whole group to know his opinion. This sort of mutual support > is quite common in healthy communities.
I am too subtle sometimes. What I am after is for folks not to post articles about anything other than, well, the Lisp family. If you can't get this through your fucking head...
...just kidding, but that is how I feel we end up in these death spirals and how folks' personal names end up getting bandied about: frustration with correspondents leads unfortunately to articles in a language NG focused on individual frustrating posters.
Those who are ganging up these days on one such easily-frustrated CL luminary are no better than he, in that their motivation is frustration with someone posting on CL. We the chorus are often asked why we do not castigate him, just as we castigate you for your attacks on him... that is just more frustration on their part, this time with the community.
Hazarding a guess, we the community have abstracted away from each side of the issue to the higher sin of both sides focusing on individuals. [Aside: I was delighted to read EN's assertion of something I have long suspected, viz, that respect for the individual underlies his attacks on them.]
anyway, ask not how c.l.l. can pummel for you your adversaries, ask how you can stop being adversarial in c.l.l.
Kenny Tilton <ktil...@nyc.rr.com> writes: > Ray Blaak wrote: > > The abusive nutcase is you. Raffael's posts are hardly poisonous > > bile. What is amazing is that you have absolutely no sense of how you > > appear to others. That you are stark raving mad is in the end all that I > > can conclude about you.
> Point of information: apparently not, or you would have discarded the > article without sending it, since it makes no sense to correspond with a > stark raving madman.
You are right, actually. Their truth or falsehood of my words, however, does not depend on who they are said to.
Still, I take it back. Erik is not stark raving mad. He does have his obvious lucid moments, after all.
I now think he has Tourette's Syndrome, usenet style.
-- Cheers, The Rhythm is around me, The Rhythm has control. Ray Blaak The Rhythm is inside me, bl...@telus.net The Rhythm has my soul.
Erik Naggum <e...@naggum.no> writes: > The one recipe for actually communicating that civility is the desired > form of human communication is this one simple imperative. OK? All well > prepared for the tremendous force of this recipe? Here we go, then:
> Be civil. > So, again, the recipe for getting uncivil behavior from other people, > which you should /not/ do, is:
> Annoy them.
Amazing! We agree on something!
-- Cheers, The Rhythm is around me, The Rhythm has control. Ray Blaak The Rhythm is inside me, bl...@telus.net The Rhythm has my soul.