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Nicolas Neuss  
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 More options Sep 25 2002, 8:25 am
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From: Nicolas Neuss <Nicolas.Ne...@iwr.uni-heidelberg.de>
Date: 25 Sep 2002 13:51:23 +0200
Local: Wed, Sep 25 2002 7:51 am
Subject: Re: The toxicity of trolls

Erik Naggum <e...@naggum.no> writes:
> * Pascal Costanza
> | Are there any successful patterns how to deal with trolls, perhaps from
> | other newsgroups?

>   Stop responding to them.
>   [...]

Additionally, I lower the score on all messages originating from
ilias' (and also other troll's) posts.  The keys in Gnus are L-r-s-t
RET.  All messages in the subsequent are marked, and I usually do not
read them.  Saves me a lot of time.

Nicolas.


 
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Erik Naggum  
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From: Erik Naggum <e...@naggum.no>
Date: 25 Sep 2002 12:15:09 +0000
Local: Wed, Sep 25 2002 8:15 am
Subject: Re: The toxicity of trolls
* Wade Humeniuk
| It might not be benevolence that it lent to ilias and his ilk, but a type of
| "top dog" behavior.

  I have to admit that while I do not start to play this game, I also do not
  yield when someone wants to be "top dog", so I recognize the mechanism.
  Still, anyone can be better than ilias without any effort.

| As human beings we still have desires to be the "top dog", to be the
| perceived winner/superior/smarter person in a situation.

  I think it is bit more complex than that.  I believe only a relatively small
  group of people engage in this anti-social competitive game-playing, but when
  they do, others not only do not want to yield their position to them, it is a
  self-protective necessity to prevent competitive people from "rising" in the
  hierarchy of a group.  I consider competitiveness to be a mental disease when
  it causes people to attach more importance to their personal position than
  the good of the group they fight to take over and I believe that people who
  feel the need to challenge whoever they think is the "top dog" for no other
  reason than their own personal satisfaction to be mentally diseased as well.
  This anti-social behavior causes nothing but conflict, but not /only/ because
  we are human when we also refuse to let people like that win, the group that
  yields to mentally diseased leaders would soon perish.  There is therefore an
  element of self- preservation in fighting the mentally diseased, obsessively
  competetive whenever and wherever they try to take control.  (Part of my
  great distaste for the entire field of competitive sports is that regardless
  of whether these morons "win" or not, they have abused their physical health
  to the point of being crippled, and it is more a testament to the advanced
  state of modern medicine that these guys can walk at all.  Sports-related
  health care costs are /enormous/ and keep growing without bounds.  It is,
  however, entirely possible that giving the anti-socially competitive an
  outlet in a field where their fighting has no bearing whatsoever on the rest
  of society is a good thing.  Sports may therefore provide people who would
  have become criminals and soldiers looking for a war a place to fight amongst
  themselves.)

| Thus we might put up with a "lower dogs" behavior because it keeps us on top,
| no matter what the "lower dogs" views and behavior might be.  In fact the
| more absurd (and thus obviously inferior) the "lower dogs" behavior may be,
| the better.

  But winning over the "lowest dog" only means that you are the next lowest
  dog.  That should not be particularly rewarding, should it?

| Engaging in public communication with people as smart or obviously smarter,
| breaks all that down and may threaten some.  It takes a honest, courageous
| and humble person (or psychologically healthy person) to face all that.

  Then why do so many who cannot take it engage precisely in public discourse?

| People may not be trying to convert ilias but are just pissing on the "lower
| dog".

  Even so, they should find a more worthy target.

--
Erik Naggum, Oslo, Norway

Act from reason, and failure makes you rethink and study harder.
Act from faith, and failure makes you blame someone and push harder.


 
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Erik Naggum  
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 More options Sep 25 2002, 8:27 am
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From: Erik Naggum <e...@naggum.no>
Date: 25 Sep 2002 12:17:30 +0000
Local: Wed, Sep 25 2002 8:17 am
Subject: Re: The toxicity of trolls
* Rolf Wester
| I'm German and I'm highly sensitive concerning this kind of words.

  Not my problem.

--
Erik Naggum, Oslo, Norway

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Act from faith, and failure makes you blame someone and push harder.


 
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Paul F. Dietz  
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 More options Sep 25 2002, 8:52 am
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From: "Paul F. Dietz" <di...@dls.net>
Date: Wed, 25 Sep 2002 12:52:16 GMT
Local: Wed, Sep 25 2002 8:52 am
Subject: Re: The toxicity of trolls

Tim Bradshaw wrote:
> I apologise for my part in this.  Very early on I did mistakenly think
> that he could be deconfused, but I am afraid to say that more recently
> I have been taking a certain evil pleasure in merely baiting him.
> This is both cruel - it's pretty much bullying - and a misuse of cll.

It's easy to fall into this trap.  Just remember that a non-negligible
fraction of the population is mentally ill, and some fraction of those
will have access to the internet.  The obviously disturbed trolls, while
very annoying, in the end deserve our pity.  Their lives must not be
pleasant.

        Paul


 
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ilias  
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From: ilias <at_n...@pontos.net>
Date: Wed, 25 Sep 2002 16:11:13 +0300
Local: Wed, Sep 25 2002 9:11 am
Subject: Re: The toxicity of trolls

Kenny Tilton wrote:

> John Stone wrote:

>> Don't let them get you down.

> good advice, but perhaps too late, witness his asshole thread. which

perhaps you've missinterpreted.

the 'LISP - Assholes' thread.
http://groups.google.com/groups?selm=amq79c$4p...@usenet.otenet.gr

limits.

> indeed suggests he is no troll, for he seems sincerely hurt that he has
> become a laughing stock in c.l.l.

savages can't hurt me.

they are irrelevant.

>  but that happened because he first initiated a dialog (good) in which
> his contributions were a mess (bad). this smacked of trolldom but now
> looks like a deep psychological defect in his ability to sustain a
> coherent social interaction. in which case c.l.l. should indeed stop
> tormenting the poor guy.

savages of c.l.l.

listen to your cyber-doctor.

> i mean, he /does/ like Lisp. :)

of course.

 
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Erik Naggum  
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From: Erik Naggum <e...@naggum.no>
Date: 25 Sep 2002 13:10:02 +0000
Local: Wed, Sep 25 2002 9:10 am
Subject: Re: The toxicity of trolls
* Kenny Tilton
| now comes quasi with a little positive press for CL and... kablam!!!

  Are you for real?  How much do you want to tolerate if someone flashes his
  "good intentions" badge?  It was not because of his positive press that
  anything happened, it was because of the way he took other contributors for
  granted, and then did not back down.

| I am reminded of the partition/split-sequence fiasco.  A contrib is met with
| nothing (and again I do not think I exaggerate) -- nothing but a lambasting
| of the contributor over the /name/.

  You exaggerate.

| In both cases we did not even see "neat work, but...".

  Where were you?

| This might fit with what someone wrote today about the ilias volume being a
| top/bottom-dog thing. Folks seem moved to take up pen only when they see a
| chance to grandstand their perceived superiority.

  Well, the only thing interesting to you should be: Do you?

--
Erik Naggum, Oslo, Norway

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Act from faith, and failure makes you blame someone and push harder.


 
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Kenny Tilton  
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From: Kenny Tilton <ktil...@nyc.rr.com>
Date: Wed, 25 Sep 2002 13:10:40 GMT
Local: Wed, Sep 25 2002 9:10 am
Subject: Re: The toxicity of trolls

Tim Bradshaw wrote:
> all the other people who have been responding have been genuinely - if
> mistakenly - trying to help.

Absolutely. I lost a lot of respect for ilias when he rejected my
assertion along those lines. Folks continued to respond helpfully long
past early signs that he is uncoachable. Quite a tribute to c.l.l., by
the way.

kenny
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Joe Marshall  
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 More options Sep 25 2002, 9:20 am
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From: Joe Marshall <j...@ccs.neu.edu>
Date: 25 Sep 2002 09:20:31 -0400
Local: Wed, Sep 25 2002 9:20 am
Subject: Re: The toxicity of trolls

Erik Naggum <e...@naggum.no> writes:
>   Now, I have to ask all the people who respond to ilias: Who the hell do you
>   think you are helping?  Who could /possibly/ believe something he writes?
>   Even if such people might exist, /why/ would you care about those people?  It
>   should take less time to think about what he writes than to read a refutation
>   to realize that he is totally, irrovocably hopeless.

>   /Please/ do not respond to ilias.

Mea culpa, mea maxima culpa.

 
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Rolf Wester  
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 More options Sep 25 2002, 9:38 am
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From: Rolf Wester <wes...@ilt.fhg.de>
Date: Wed, 25 Sep 2002 15:38:04 +0200
Local: Wed, Sep 25 2002 9:38 am
Subject: Re: The toxicity of trolls

Erik Naggum wrote:
> * Rolf Wester
> | I'm German and I'm highly sensitive concerning this kind of words.

>   Not my problem.

No surprise, I expected that answer.

Rolf Wester


 
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From: Espen Vestre <espen@*do-not-spam-me*.vestre.net>
Date: Wed, 25 Sep 2002 13:49:25 GMT
Local: Wed, Sep 25 2002 9:49 am
Subject: Re: The toxicity of trolls

Erik Naggum <e...@naggum.no> writes:
> * Rolf Wester
> | I'm German and I'm highly sensitive concerning this kind of words.

>   Not my problem.

Please note that "Untermensch" is a more dangerous expression than
"Übermensch" (Nietsche never used the former, btw!). You didn't want
Godwin's Law to be applied, did you?
--
  (espen)

 
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Kenny Tilton  
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 More options Sep 25 2002, 10:50 am
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From: Kenny Tilton <ktil...@nyc.rr.com>
Date: Wed, 25 Sep 2002 14:50:05 GMT
Local: Wed, Sep 25 2002 10:50 am
Subject: Re: The toxicity of trolls

Erik Naggum wrote:
> * Kenny Tilton
> | now comes quasi with a little positive press for CL and... kablam!!!

>   Are you for real?  

no, i is complex.

k,c


 
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Christopher Browne  
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 More options Sep 25 2002, 11:06 am
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From: Christopher Browne <cbbro...@acm.org>
Date: 25 Sep 2002 15:06:44 GMT
Local: Wed, Sep 25 2002 11:06 am
Subject: Re: The toxicity of trolls
After takin a swig o' grog, Kenny Tilton <ktil...@nyc.rr.com> belched out...:

> John Stone wrote:
>> Don't let them get you down.

> good advice, but perhaps too late, witness his asshole thread. which
> indeed suggests he is no troll, for he seems sincerely hurt that he
> has become a laughing stock in c.l.l.

>   but that happened because he first initiated a dialog (good) in
> which his contributions were a mess (bad). this smacked of trolldom
> but now looks like a deep psychological defect in his ability to
> sustain a coherent social interaction. in which case c.l.l. should
> indeed stop tormenting the poor guy.

It is not necessary for someone to /intend/ to troll a group in order
to in fact do so.

There are quite a number of "trolls" out on Usenet that basically
suffer from some form of mental illness that leads them to some form
of paranoid schizophrenia, which leads to them constructing strange
conspiracy theories.

In some cases, (as seems the case here) there is something severely
broken about the "troll's" communications skills.  There may some
intelligence in some areas, but due to the "breakage" in the other
areas, it turns out to be impossible for the "troll" to constructively
communicate with the community around them.

The net result is that whether the individual /intends/ 'evil' or not,
there is no way to hold a constructive conversation.
--
(concatenate 'string "cbbrowne" "@cbbrowne.com")
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feature exposed pipes.  While they add to the  gloomy atmosphere, they
are good  conductors of vibrations and  a lot of  prisoners know Morse
code." <http://www.eviloverlord.com/>


 
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Wade Humeniuk  
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 More options Sep 25 2002, 11:09 am
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From: "Wade Humeniuk" <w...@nospam.nowhere>
Date: Wed, 25 Sep 2002 15:09:52 GMT
Local: Wed, Sep 25 2002 11:09 am
Subject: Re: The toxicity of trolls

"Erik Naggum" <e...@naggum.no> wrote in message news:3241944909892877@naggum.no...
> * Wade Humeniuk
> | It might not be benevolence that it lent to ilias and his ilk, but a type of
> | "top dog" behavior.

>   I have to admit that while I do not start to play this game, I also do not
>   yield when someone wants to be "top dog", so I recognize the mechanism.
>   Still, anyone can be better than ilias without any effort.

This may be a reason that trolls can elicit so much discorse.  Part of
a troll's attack may be to attempt to be "top dog" and get to people to fight
that.  But also appearing completely helpless the troll gets people
to exercise their "top dog" skills.  I have found ilias's threads to be
very strange, his insistence on being an expert in an area but presenting
it in a totally inane way.  Even when other's point out the problems ilias
just continues on.  Its like he has pasted a "kick me" sign on his back.

> | As human beings we still have desires to be the "top dog", to be the
> | perceived winner/superior/smarter person in a situation.

>   I think it is bit more complex than that.  I believe only a relatively small
>   group of people engage in this anti-social competitive game-playing, but when
>   they do, others not only do not want to yield their position to them, it is a
>   self-protective necessity to prevent competitive people from "rising" in the
>   hierarchy of a group.  I consider competitiveness to be a mental disease when
>   it causes people to attach more importance to their personal position than
>   the good of the group they fight to take over and I believe that people who
>   feel the need to challenge whoever they think is the "top dog" for no other
>   reason than their own personal satisfaction to be mentally diseased as well.
>   This anti-social behavior causes nothing but conflict, but not /only/ because
>   we are human when we also refuse to let people like that win, the group that
>   yields to mentally diseased leaders would soon perish.

For the last few years I have wondered if there are societal controls
against destructive "top dog" behaviour.  Does this mean there are
opposite societal forces that helps cooperative and humble people
rise in a group?  I certainly am a believer in the power of humility.

It might be pleasurable for a few minutes, then one moves onto the next
target.

> | Engaging in public communication with people as smart or obviously smarter,
> | breaks all that down and may threaten some.  It takes a honest, courageous
> | and humble person (or psychologically healthy person) to face all that.

>   Then why do so many who cannot take it engage precisely in public discourse?

It is like anything, you have to use it to develop it, especially if one has lost
in on the way to becoming an adult.  If a person is psychollogically unhealthy
it just means the person's mind is divided or unbalanced, the good parts
are still there and just striving to be expressed.  The person may be in conflict
doing it, but it can still be good for them.

> | People may not be trying to convert ilias but are just pissing on the "lower
> | dog".

>   Even so, they should find a more worthy target.

> --
> Erik Naggum, Oslo, Norway

> Act from reason, and failure makes you rethink and study harder.
> Act from faith, and failure makes you blame someone and push harder.

Wade

 
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Aleksandr Skobelev  
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From: Aleksandr Skobelev <public-m...@list.ru>
Date: 25 Sep 2002 11:44:37 +0400
Local: Wed, Sep 25 2002 3:44 am
Subject: Re: The toxicity of trolls
t...@apocalypse.OCF.Berkeley.EDU (Thomas F. Burdick) writes:

> Adult-child interactions are different, though.  It is *not* okay to
> quietly ignore a misbehaving child.  In the real world, if a child is
> shouting and running around and being a jerk, you chide, or correct,
> or punish, the child.  You don't ignore it.

AFAIK, they ignore children misbehaviours in Japan. At least, until age 5
years. :)

 
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Len Charest  
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 More options Sep 25 2002, 1:56 pm
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Date: Wed, 25 Sep 2002 10:15:32 -0700
Local: Wed, Sep 25 2002 1:15 pm
Subject: Re: The toxicity of trolls

Erik Naggum wrote:
>   ilias' ISP behaves exactly as
>   stupidly as every other ISP and refuses to do anything about him.  There is
>   no way to stop the criminals.  

Er, ilias is certainly an idiot, but how is he a criminal?

 
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From: quasi <quasia...@yahoo.com>
Date: Thu, 26 Sep 2002 00:37:31 +0530
Local: Wed, Sep 25 2002 3:07 pm
Subject: Re: The toxicity of trolls
On 25 Sep 2002 13:10:02 +0000, Erik Naggum <e...@naggum.no> wrote:

>  Are you for real?  How much do you want to tolerate if someone flashes his
>  "good intentions" badge?  It was not because of his positive press that
>  anything happened, it was because of the way he took other contributors for
>  granted, and then did not back down.

        Incorrect.  Please reread the thread, if you must.  I
immediately agreed about that matter and since have asked for and been
given permission by the relevant people.
        I protested to the uncalled for unfriendliness & "thou art a
noise maker & copycat" tone.  Whatever justification I gave was to
explain myself and my actions.  If you call /that/ as not backing down
from the original point, then you did not get the point.  At all.

the "whining dimwit"
--

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Will Deakin  
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From: Will Deakin <anisotro...@hotmail.com>
Date: Wed, 25 Sep 2002 19:39:48 +0000 (UTC)
Local: Wed, Sep 25 2002 3:39 pm
Subject: Re: The toxicity of trolls
Tim wrote:
> I apologise for my part in this.  Very early on I did mistakenly think
> that he could be deconfused, but I am afraid to say that more recently
> I have been taking a certain evil pleasure in merely baiting him.
> This is both cruel - it's pretty much bullying - and a misuse of cll.

Mea culpa. I am guilty of this too[1]. On reflection, if this were to
happen to somebody like my two year-old son I would be very upset. Even
if he put himself in the way of it. Mocking[2] the afflicted is never
justified.

In my defence I should add that some of my -- albeit oblique -- comments
were intended to cause some form of reassement or adjustment of self but
to no avail.

I wish that in fact the whole sorry episode turns about to be an
enormously elaborate hoax.

(sigh)

Will

[1] Maybe this is an northern english thing -- or maybe I'm secretly
your alter ego ;)
[2] I think at the time I thought that I was merely mithering but given
the nature of


 
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Date: Wed, 25 Sep 2002 22:53:33 +0300
Local: Wed, Sep 25 2002 3:53 pm
Subject: Silence is Accepting - [was Re: The toxicity of trolls]

Silence is Accepting

 
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From: Joe Marshall <j...@ccs.neu.edu>
Date: 25 Sep 2002 15:55:30 -0400
Local: Wed, Sep 25 2002 3:55 pm
Subject: Re: The toxicity of trolls

Tim Bradshaw <t...@cley.com> writes:
> I am afraid to say that more recently
> I have been taking a certain evil pleasure in merely baiting him.
> This is both cruel - it's pretty much bullying - and a misuse of cll.

I see nothing wrong with amusing myself by abusing people like this.

 
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Pascal Costanza  
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From: Pascal Costanza <costa...@web.de>
Date: Wed, 25 Sep 2002 22:13:46 +0200
Local: Wed, Sep 25 2002 4:13 pm
Subject: Re: The toxicity of trolls

Paul F. Dietz wrote:
> Tim Bradshaw wrote:

>>I apologise for my part in this.  Very early on I did mistakenly think
>>that he could be deconfused, but I am afraid to say that more recently
>>I have been taking a certain evil pleasure in merely baiting him.
>>This is both cruel - it's pretty much bullying - and a misuse of cll.

> It's easy to fall into this trap.  Just remember that a non-negligible
> fraction of the population is mentally ill, and some fraction of those
> will have access to the internet.  The obviously disturbed trolls, while
> very annoying, in the end deserve our pity.  Their lives must not be
> pleasant.

Sorry to say that, but I disagree. If the reason for certain behavior is
really some kind of mental illness, then pity doesn't help at all but
pity rather feeds the illness. The only help that is appropriate is
professional help, but mentally disturbed people are usually only
willing to ask for professional help when their level of suffering is
considerably high.

So, perverse and cruel as it might sound, anything that increases their
level of suffering actually might be a step towards a real improvement
of their situation. So don't feel ashamed if you happen to feel like
poking fun at them - you are not the reason for their illness.

Newsgroups cannot be some kind of self-help group or a substitute for
psychotherapy.

Pascal


 
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Kenny Tilton  
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 More options Sep 25 2002, 5:08 pm
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From: Kenny Tilton <ktil...@nyc.rr.com>
Date: Wed, 25 Sep 2002 21:07:38 GMT
Local: Wed, Sep 25 2002 5:07 pm
Subject: Re: The toxicity of trolls

Pascal Costanza wrote:
> Sorry to say that, but I disagree. If the reason for certain behavior is
> really some kind of mental illness, then pity doesn't help at all but
> pity rather feeds the illness.

Rubbish. The mentally ill benefit enormously by not having their odd
behavior taken at face value. In mild, non-threatening cases one needs
to look past the immediate offensiveness of the behavior to the
suffering (or simply confused) individual behind it. Compassion will
then arise in anyone at all mentally well.

> ...anything that increases their
> level of suffering actually might be a step towards a real improvement
> of their situation.

Self-justifying fiction. Abuse only makes them dig their heels in
further, becoming more and more attached to their delusion/confusion
with each exchange. They do /not/ miraculously discover their own
confusion (what a concept!) and seek help, they sink in deeper.

But break off the attack and they can find their way back to clarity.
Then "catch them" being normal and reinforce that.

Two things help the reality-challenged: psychotropic drugs and
compassion. We can offer only the second. Imagine a mile in ilias's shoes.

disclaimer: pardon the holier-than-thou tone. i am as big an asshole as
anyone. it's just that i have been very close to many a nutcase, and
loose screws aside, they have been the most interesting, intelligent,
decent, and -- precisely beacuse of their suffering -- compassionate,
accepting people I have known.

k,c


 
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Erik Naggum  
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 More options Sep 25 2002, 6:15 pm
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From: Erik Naggum <e...@naggum.no>
Date: 25 Sep 2002 22:15:12 +0000
Local: Wed, Sep 25 2002 6:15 pm
Subject: Re: The toxicity of trolls
* Len Charest
| Er, ilias is certainly an idiot, but how is he a criminal?

  Breaker of what little laws and regulations that keep this society working.
  If you wish to quibble over the formality of the laws and regulations or the
  conviction of criminals under the rule of law, feel free to post a lengthy
  harangue on the topic.

--
Erik Naggum, Oslo, Norway

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Act from faith, and failure makes you blame someone and push harder.


 
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Erik Naggum  
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 More options Sep 25 2002, 6:31 pm
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From: Erik Naggum <e...@naggum.no>
Date: 25 Sep 2002 22:31:25 +0000
Local: Wed, Sep 25 2002 6:31 pm
Subject: Re: The toxicity of trolls
* Rolf Wester
| No surprise, I expected that answer.

  I am Norwegian and I am very sensitive to people from the Wehrmacht telling
  Norwegians what to do or not to do.  You tried that once and it left serious
  scars in the Norwegian soul.  Will you pay attention to my sensitivity or
  consider it my problem?  I think you should do the latter and that it is
  obscene to bring up personal sensitivities because of one's /nationality/.

  So your nationally induced sensitivity is your problem.  Keep it to yourself.
  If you do not, you very strongly communicate that your sensitivities are more
  important than every other sensitivity to which the author has already paid
  due respect.  Such egoistic behavior is typical of people who want others to
  feel bad because they perceive themselves as victims.  Cut it out.

  The whole world is well aware of the guilt-ridden German psyche, but I have
  one piece of /really/ good advice for you: Get the hell over it.

  "Untermensch" is defined by Oxford's excellent dictionaries of the English
  Language this way

    a person considered racially or socially inferior.

  Of course it is a strong term that should elicit emotions, but the arrogance
  and haughtiness of Germans who think their personal sensitivities should
  cause other people to curb their language and the things they can talk about
  is one of the most appalling cases of emotional blackmail and censorship
  around.  (Another most appalling case of same is how the Jews /milk/ their
  tragedy more than 50 years later.)  People who prey on the guilt that they
  want other people to feel should receive no sympathy whatsoever.

--
Erik Naggum, Oslo, Norway

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Act from faith, and failure makes you blame someone and push harder.


 
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 More options Sep 25 2002, 6:32 pm
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From: Erik Naggum <e...@naggum.no>
Date: 25 Sep 2002 22:32:57 +0000
Local: Wed, Sep 25 2002 6:32 pm
Subject: Re: The toxicity of trolls
* Brian Palmer <br...@invalid.dom>
| That's the community spirit!

  But "sharing" his sensitivities /is/ part of the community spirit?  Where is
  your respect for /my/ sensitivities?  Do they not count?  What if I am hurt
  by your ridicule?  Should I be able to silence you and turn the community
  against you?  You have chosen a very dangerous path.

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From: Erik Naggum <e...@naggum.no>
Date: 25 Sep 2002 22:57:22 +0000
Local: Wed, Sep 25 2002 6:57 pm
Subject: Re: The toxicity of trolls
* Pascal Costanza
| So, perverse and cruel as it might sound, anything that increases their
| level of suffering actually might be a step towards a real improvement of
| their situation.

  It is not perverse and cruel.  Most people live cozy little lives much like
  that of a pebble that has fallen into an indentation in a larger stone and
  through wind and rain and snow and cold, digs itself deeper and deeper
  because it never receive enough energy to travel out into the world.  You can
  find such holes that are hundreds of years old.  Humans at the bottom of such
  holes call their holes their "religions" or their "culture" and fight tooth
  and nail to remain in their hole if they are washed out by the massive floods
  of information from the Internet.

  However, people outside their hole have a duty in no small sense to drag them
  out, to let them see the human experience they have protected themselves
  from.  This will be very painful to many of the "outed" hole-dwellers.  If
  they are aware of this pain and do not want to be exposed to the real world,
  the solution is very, very simple: Return to their hole.  If, however, you do
  venture outside your hole, the fact that we are human beings and therefore
  invariably benefit from sharing in our collective experience, means that even
  hole-dwellers be exposed to the real world and experiences that they may
  resist because they secretly want to go back to their holes.

  It is courage that keeps them on the outside -- and that courage should be
  awarded with information they need but do not want.  If they respond with "I
  feel hurt!  Do not present information I cannot cope with!", they should go
  back to their hole and not return to the outside world.  As long as they are
  out in the real world, they have an /obligation/ to cope with the world they
  have chosen to deal with and human /decency/ requires that they do not make
  their coping problems anybody else's problem.  Posting a requirement to
  curtail the freedom of expression of others because they cannot cope with it
  is obscene and is the really perverse and cruel thing to do to others.

  Imagine how many things people cannot cope with!  Imagine a world where
  somebody's failure to cope were the one ruling principle of all your social
  interaction.  You would get a society where people could not pronounce true
  statements about groups of people because they would feel offended.  You
  would get a society where differences that really hurt a group would have to
  be kept a secret instead of being rectified and solved because they feel more
  hurt about the existence of a difference than about it causing their losses.
  You would get a society where people would have to determine whether they
  would offend anyone with statement before they could determine its truth.  In
  the end, we would encourage people not to learn to read because they would
  only find millions of volumes that made them feel ignorant and unworthy.

  If you want sympathy from some warm body that does not understand you, get a
  dog.  If you want sympathy from some warm body that does understand you, get
  a cat.  If you want sympaty from some warm body that wants to be understood
  before it gives you any sympathy whatsoever, get another human being.

--
Erik Naggum, Oslo, Norway

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Act from faith, and failure makes you blame someone and push harder.


 
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