m...@forager.swarm.org (Marcus G. Daniels) writes:
> >>>>> "EN" == Erik Naggum <e...@naggum.net> writes:
> EN> Civility and peace are great when they are _achieved_, but a > EN> threat to all mankind when they are enforced by someone who wants > EN> to stop people from engaging in healthy confrontation about real > EN> differences that won't go away simple because people don't talk > EN> about them.
Manners and freedom are, like it or not, enemies of one another. That's not to say manners aren't sometimes (even often) a good idea, nor is it to say there aren't messages of Erik's I wish he'd write in a different tone. But only just to say I see it as more of a slippery slope than perhaps some others do, and, to mix metaphors, far from a black and white kind of issue... plenty of grey in there where I think others are not perceiving it.
> But you haven't made the case that healthy confrontation requires > being abusive.
This presupposes a pre-existing and universally agreed on meaning to the word "abusive", a "court of competent jurisdiction" in which to have concluded that he is in fact being abusive, and, further, a requirement of participation in this group to be that one not be abusive.
The burden would seem to me to be on you, not on Erik, to demonstrate something: that this is an appropriate forum in which to be creating and imposing all sorts of artificial rules. Usenet certainly does not seem to me to be designed for that. By explicit design of the usenet paradigm, your options as a newsgroup reader when you don't like something are limited to choices you can personally make, not choices you can force on another. If it's forced manners you want, I would much rather see an alternate forum created, either a moderated lisp forum here, or something in some other venue entirely, than I would like to see usenet become a place of forced manners.
Erik has been asked to be nicer to people. Maybe he should and maybe he shouldn't. Maybe he even tries, or maybe he doesn't. But whatever the case, what can be done in this regard has been done. None of this discussion seems likely to affect further change. It only seems likely to pollute the newsgroup still further, and to no good end.
I, and probably others, tire of seeing Erik beaten up on just as much as you may tire of what you perceive as him beating up on others. Let's just get back to talk of Lisp, shall we? If the answer is no, Erik's not my first choice to killfile here, nor if this keeps up will it be he who drove me from this forum.
"Patrick W" <mai...@my-deja.com> writes: > If you read my posting again in context, a bit more carefully, > you'll see precisely what I was objecting to: the notion that an act > of volition is no more to be adjuged 'right' / 'fair' / 'just' than, > say, harsh living conditions in Antartica.
Of course many willful acts can be judged `right', `fair', or `just'. And I cannot excuse wrongful acts on the basis of `everyone is doing it'. However, I think that getting flamed on the usenet is
a) often justified b) results in no permanent damage (bruised egos don't count) c) to be expected of this type of venue
and that asking questions like `is it right' and `must it be so' is more than a little absurd. In particular, I'd say that this sort of social interaction between people inevitably involves flaming. So, yes, it must be so: we are human.
I'll retract my analogy about antarctica, though.
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I should think 5 times before posting to a thread like this, but i think this is a gratuitous attack. Maybe E.N. has a tendency to go on length righteous crusades every now and then, but he knows Lisp well enough and posts enough helpful advice that we should be able to overlook the flamefests.
(Besides, in all the ones that i've cared to read, he had a valid point.)
>>>>> "KP" == Kent M Pitman <pit...@world.std.com> writes:
MD> But you haven't made the case that healthy confrontation requires MD> being abusive.
KP> This presupposes a pre-existing and universally agreed on meaning KP> to the word "abusive", a "court of competent jurisdiction" in KP> which to have concluded that he is in fact being abusive, and, KP> further, a requirement of participation in this group to be that KP> one not be abusive.
I'm not suggesting that introducing such a requriement would be desirable. I'm not suggesting that everyone agrees what "abusive" means. However, since quite a number of people have reported that his behavior is in line with their idea of what "abusive" means to them, and since this discussion comes up over and over again, and since the discussion usually results in a lot of characteristic name calling, I think it is reasonable to ask Erik whether this is really such a "healthy" kind of confrontation.
KP> The burden would seem to me to be on you, not on Erik, to KP> demonstrate something: that this is an appropriate forum in which KP> to be creating and imposing all sorts of artificial rules.
Sigh. Where did this notion about creating and imposing rules come from? How is it any worse to object to Erik repeatedly calling people idiots and morons than it is for him to do it?
In my view, there is no higher moral ground here. And perhaps if Erik wants this list to be a certain way and is prepared to pour energy into it, then, in some sense, it _should_ be that way. It's a well-known rule of Usenet that there's _always_ someone with more time.
KP> It only seems likely to pollute the newsgroup still further, and KP> to no good end.
Well, that's probably true. Yet, I do think Erik is behaving like a bully, and that putting up a bully will come at a cost. Of course, bullies can get things done, and that can amortize their cost. If that's the situation with comp.lang.lisp, then so be it.
I think Raffael overstates the case somewhat. comp.lang.lisp is just one forum for Common Lisp. There are other places to discuss Lisp and Lisp technology. The CMU CL implementors list has lots of good content, for example.
* Marcus G. Daniels | Where did this notion about creating and imposing rules come from?
Since forever, in every single article you post whenever you feel it safe to crawl out of the woodwork to repeat your completely pointless moralism about others, when you clearly do not understand what you are saying and how it affects the forum.
I must admit to have a problem with deeply religious and moralistic Americans. I do not approve of bombing abortion clinics in the name of "pro-life" views, for instance, but in the minds of a lot of deeply religious moralistic Americans, it is perfectly acceptable to suspend _all_ notions of ethics and commit any level of atrocity in order to "safeguard" some miniscule "good". An ethical framework that does not even _apply_ when under pressure is worthless, and the kinds of people who have moralistic qualms about something but who show the world that they are willing to suspend their ethics in _reacting_ to what they do not like, are more _destructive_ than any other evil.
There is always a lot of hostility building up whenever some moron goes postal, but I have yet to find anyone who exudes more _evil_ than you, Marcus G. Daniels. You do not want to be constructive in any way at all. You post out of an unmistakable lack of good intentions. It is all about destroying something bad you don't like, never building something good you would want to see. _That_ is why comparing you to abortion-clinic-bombing _lunatics_ is entirely appropriate. From what you have written in the past several years, you have consistently been pretending to hold the moral high ground, despite saying the opposite this time, always ready to _denounce_, never able to _contribute_.
I think the presence of evil like you destroys the forum much more than the presence of violence if you want to view my actions as that. There are _very_ few _bad_ people here, but you and Raffael Cavellero are certainly competing for first place among them. I keep holding out for the view that bad actions are the results of non-thinking that is the result of lack of incentives to snap out of the morose coziness that comes from never being sufficiently challenged to have to think. Some people commit bad actions with _intent_ to destroy only, and the more moralistic, the more destructive. That's you, Marcus G. Daniels.
You have of course considered in all relevant depth how healthy your own contributions are and what it takes to amortize the cost of your behavior (which has not included positive contributions for very long) on this newsgroup. I'd prefer if you were honest about your pure and unadulterated destructiveness and come out and say what you really think and what you really want. Here's my take on it: You do not _want_ anything at all, except to destroy something you do _not_ want.
#:Erik -- Solution to U.S. Presidential Election Crisis 2000: Let Texas secede from the Union and elect George W. Bush their very first President. All parties, states would rejoice.
>>>>> "EN" == Erik Naggum <e...@naggum.net> writes:
EN> you clearly do not understand what you are saying and how it EN> affects the forum.
Wow, you really do have a very active imagination.
EN> I'd prefer if you were honest about your pure and unadulterated EN> destructiveness and come out and say what you really think and EN> what you really want. Here's my take on it: You do not _want_ EN> anything at all, except to destroy something you do _not_ want.
In article <3184409907187...@naggum.net>, Erik Naggum <e...@naggum.net> wrote:
>* Seth Gordon <sgor...@kenan.com> >| The standard response from the FS/OS camp is "well, how much support >| do you get for the closed-source software that you pay for, anyway?"
> Well, this is a staggeringly unintelligent response, so if somebody > actually says this, or it's even "standard", just ignore the idiots.
Why is it staggeringly unintelligent to ask whether something is worth what you pay for it?
>| Technically competent end-users who have wandered through the >| tech-support maze at [insert name of any big software vendor here] >| will tend to answer "virtually none".
It varies. I've dealt with good and bad. Good support is worth paying for. Bad support, well...
> You missed the point, dude. Somebody has a legal responsibility when > you have paid for support. This isn't about getting answers, this is > about who is legally responsible for answering. _Huge_ difference!
I don't see it. If you use a software package in a way that is important to you (perhaps it's important for your business), and it doesn't work, you've got a problem. If the vendor fixes the software, that's good. If somebody else fixes the software, that's good. Having somebody legally responsible for fixing the software is kind of pointless: if you suffer serious financial loss, how are you going to get compensated?
The software industry came up with the warranty that "This is a floppy disk, and is warranted to remain so for ninety days. Here's the long list of things you can't do with any software that might happen to be on it." They're masters at avoiding responsibility for their products, and if they can't dodge it in court they'll lobby Congress. (There are, of course, companies that are honorable. For now. As Kent Pitman has pointed out, this can change at any point.)
Now, suppose you had an open-source program. You could, perhaps, pay somebody to support it for you. That person is then legally responsible for support, and you've got more leverage on him or her.
I've had an assortment of car problems over the years. I've taken my car to various different sorts of places. The thing I have noticed is that I get consistently good treatment from places that get their money from taking care of cars, as opposed to service stations or dealers.
So, I suggest that open source software with a support contract with a reputable software person is as good a way to go as buying software from a company.
In order to do this, the software has to have some sort of source availability. I can learn to fix problems in the Linux kernel, but I'm not going to learn to fix problems in MS Windows internals. For that, you have to go to Microsoft.
In article <3184698436519...@naggum.net>, Erik Naggum <e...@naggum.net> wrote: > I must admit to have a problem with deeply religious and moralistic > Americans.
C'mon, Erik, this is a cheap shot. Deeply moralistic, undereducated folks of many faiths and many nationalities justify violence with self-righteousness. The problem is not unique to the United States.
> I do not approve of bombing abortion clinics in the name > of "pro-life" views, for instance, but in the minds of a lot of deeply
^ ^^^
> religious moralistic Americans, it is perfectly acceptable to suspend > _all_ notions of ethics and commit any level of atrocity in order to > "safeguard" some miniscule "good".
Not true. While I am pro-choice and NOT Christian, I know and go to church with (for my wife's sake) a lot of pro-life fundamentalist types. In Nashville, Tennessee, which prides itself on being "the buckle of the Bible belt." I have not met a single one who condones bombing abortion clinics (and killing doctors). Be careful about generalizing based on the few yahoos you see through your local media source.
Having just returned from three months in Europe, I can acknowledge the truth of many of the stereotypes of Americans. It's pretty depressing to be back here in many ways. But this example goes too far.
* Erik Naggum | you clearly do not understand what you are saying and how it affects | the forum.
* Marcus G. Daniels | Wow, you really do have a very active imagination.
Really? So you _do_ understand how what you are doing affects this forum; is that what you're saying? And you're _still_ doing it? What sort of "imagination" do you think is necessary to judge your "special contributions" from these simple premises?
I'm frankly _astonished_ by the sheer arrogance that you command. It is clear that you have a severe problem respecting _people_ for all your disgusting moralism and have made up your mind that just about anything is OK as long as you do it towards me. This is not exactly imagination on my part.
#:Erik -- "When you are having a bad day and it seems like everybody is trying to piss you off, remember that it takes 42 muscles to produce a frown, but only 4 muscles to work the trigger of a good sniper rifle." -- Unknown
* sash...@vuse.vanderbilt.edu (Sashank) | C'mon, Erik, this is a cheap shot. Deeply moralistic, undereducated | folks of many faiths and many nationalities justify violence with | self-righteousness. The problem is not unique to the United States.
It isn't the violence by the few, it is the acceptance by the many. What I find truly astonishing is that people who seem to harbor the kinds of religious fervor towards incivility that some of those nuts harbor against abortion are equally willing to dispense with ethics and do just about anything when morally outraged and justified enough.
| Be careful about generalizing based on the few yahoos you see through | your local media source.
Thanks, but I suggest you also be careful about generalizing from the unwarranted assumption that people elsewhere in the world do not track U.S. politics very, very closely. Not only do I work for a news agency with numerous other news feeds that my system processes, I have worked with newspapers and the news media basically forever and it's the only industry I own stock in. E.g., I probably know more about the most recent U.S. election than 98% of Americans do, which is not a feat in itself, mind you.
| Having just returned from three months in Europe, I can acknowledge | the truth of many of the stereotypes of Americans. It's pretty | depressing to be back here in many ways.
Just be glad you aren't returning from the U.S. to Norway. You don't even _know_ depressing until you've tried that a few times.
#:Erik -- "When you are having a bad day and it seems like everybody is trying to piss you off, remember that it takes 42 muscles to produce a frown, but only 4 muscles to work the trigger of a good sniper rifle." -- Unknown
> * "Patrick W" <mai...@my-deja.com> > | Flagellating people who post opinions to usenet is an intentional act.
> I'm glad you see it this way. This must mean that posting idiotic > drivel is also an intentional act, not an accident of nature, nor > something people do out of helplessness or inability to act otherwise.
Yes. There'd be little to be gained from flaming (or justification for it) if that weren't the case.
> This is my defense for flagellating people for doing those things when > they clearly _ought_ to have engaged their brain and _thought_ before > they posted.
I understand that. If we're here with eyes open, engaging in discussion in public forum about controversial issues, it's reasonable to "go hard" against perceived idiocy, and a reasonable expectation on the "idiot's" part that it will happen. We might (do , will) disagree about what constitutes idiocy (eg. recent discussion with Aaron), but disagreement on what is idiotic doesn't affect the ethical validity of responding aggressively to it.
I have no problem with the use of harsh words (but I wasn't setting out to express a personal opinion anyway).
What I responded to was (I felt) as much an insult to you as it was a defence of your aggression: ie. that when these storms blow up on c.l.l., it's just Erik being Erik, we just suffer it like we'd suffer an Antarctic blizzard. (Thanks for clearing that one up Joe. The rest I agree with).
If that were the case, that attitude would suck for the same reason you feel intractable idiocy or toothless civility sucks: It absolves both flamer and flamee of responsibility (deserving of condemnation or credit as the case may be) for their opinions/actions. IMO, it's worse than saying: "this guy's an arsehole who deserves to be (verbally) shot down for what he's done" - because at least the latter would imply judgement for what you've said, not for who you are.
If that isn't clear, I'll clarify in a few days. Must go now.
> > If you read my posting again in context, a bit more carefully, > > you'll see precisely what I was objecting to: the notion that an act > > of volition is no more to be adjuged 'right' / 'fair' / 'just' than, > > say, harsh living conditions in Antartica.
> Of course many willful acts can be judged `right', `fair', or `just'. > And I cannot excuse wrongful acts on the basis of `everyone is doing > it'. However, I think that getting flamed on the usenet is
> a) often justified > b) results in no permanent damage (bruised egos don't count) > c) to be expected of this type of venue
> and that asking questions like `is it right' and `must it be so' is > more than a little absurd. In particular, I'd say that this sort of > social interaction between people inevitably involves flaming. So, > yes, it must be so: we are human.
> I'll retract my analogy about antarctica, though.
>>>>> "EN" == Erik Naggum <e...@naggum.net> writes:
EN> You have of course considered in all relevant depth how healthy EN> your own contributions are and what it takes to amortize the cost EN> of your behavior (which has not included positive contributions EN> for very long) on this newsgroup.
Indeed I have. My behavior was to follow-up an thread with content relevant to the subject line. Readers that are interested in pure technical content would be ignoring this thread from the beginning. Thus, I'm effectively invisible to anyone that would find me pointless.
You are different because almost any message could a Naggum Mine waiting to go off. Hygienic technical questions quickly turn to controversies and explode with seconds of notice.
That's the objection that comes up about you over and over again.
To conflate the objection with your net positive value, my small negative or positive net value or any readers' simply isn't relevant to the claim that your behavior makes reasonable and smart (if uninitiated) people not want to ask questions and discuss things here. [Naggum fan club aside.]
* David Thornley wrote: > I don't see it. If you use a software package in a way that is important > to you (perhaps it's important for your business), and it doesn't work, > you've got a problem. If the vendor fixes the software, that's good. > If somebody else fixes the software, that's good. Having somebody > legally responsible for fixing the software is kind of pointless: if > you suffer serious financial loss, how are you going to get compensated?
Isn't this obvious? You have a contract with the vendor, and you can ultimately sue them for damages if they don't fulfil the terms of that contract. That's ultimately what a contract *is* -- the vendor agrees to do something, and if they fail to fulfil their part of the contract they have to pay you money. Of course you need to make sure the contract you sign actually means something, and as you point out, most end-user software has license terms which strenuously try and deny all responsibility.
> Now, suppose you had an open-source program. You could, perhaps, pay > somebody to support it for you. That person is then legally responsible > for support, and you've got more leverage on him or her.
This is a reasonable approach, but there are complications. If you sign a contract with a person (and companies are `people' in UK law at least) to provide a service then you have to consider what your remedy is if they fail to do that. If you're much bigger than they are, then suing them may be of limited use -- if their failure to provide support has cost you $1,000,000, then they may be just completely incapable of paying that, and promptly go bankrupt, leaving you without support or compensation. Either you or they may be able to get insurance against this kind of thing, and that insurance might even pay out.
> Joe Marshall <j...@content-integrity.com> writes: > > > > Life on the usenet is harsh. > > > But must it be so? > > While one could envision a usenet populated solely with rational > > people discussing topics in a reasoned manner, it is unclear to me > > that such a thing could be actualized.
> > > And is that right? > > As in `just'? I can't even see how a question like this makes sense. > I concur on both of Joe's points.
I read your article and can respect your opinion, nor would I try to change it. I would just like to opine that the freedom you very rightly cherish comes (like all freedoms) with responsibility. Each of us can judge for themselves what the responsibilities are and how to live up to them. And I would never advocate enforcing any rules that would censor even Mr. Naggum's lowest moments.
I don't think that I or the other few who object (very occasionally in proportion) to Erik's vicious attacks are trying to say that all hostility or agression is Wrong, with a capital W. The real problem, is that Erik, by his own profession, is attacking this same freedom you are defending. His expressed motive is to drive people out and/or make it so painful for them to express their opinions that they stop. How does this promote freedom of expression?
I respectfully suggest that your efforts to stop others from objecting are misplaced.
> m...@forager.swarm.org (Marcus G. Daniels) writes: > > EN> Civility and peace are great when they are _achieved_, but a > > EN> threat to all mankind when they are enforced by someone who wants > > EN> to stop people from engaging in healthy confrontation about real > > EN> differences that won't go away simple because people don't talk > > EN> about them.
> I'm afraid I have to concur with Erik on this.
Nice words, indeed.
> Manners and freedom are, like it or not, enemies of one another.
No. Manners are about self control, freedom is about control by outside forces. They are 100% disjoint.
> > But you haven't made the case that healthy confrontation requires > > being abusive.
> This presupposes a pre-existing and universally agreed on meaning to > the word "abusive", a "court of competent jurisdiction" in which to > have concluded that he is in fact being abusive,
Given the exchanges that sparked this sub-thread, I can't help but see the above paragraph as a classic example of intellect trumping common sense.
I'm sorry, but I see absolutely no grey area with lines like "you're a disgusting little fuck, Aaron Johnson." Discussing whether this is or is not abusive is as interesting as trying to prove I'm not a duck-billed platypus.
> The burden would seem to me to be on you, not on Erik, to demonstrate > something: that this is an appropriate forum in which to be creating > and imposing all sorts of artificial rules. Usenet certainly does not > seem to me to be designed for that. By explicit design of the usenet > paradigm, your options as a newsgroup reader when you don't like > something are limited to choices you can personally make, not choices > you can force on another. If it's forced manners you want, I would > much rather see an alternate forum created, either a moderated lisp > forum here, or something in some other venue entirely, than I would > like to see usenet become a place of forced manners.
This is certainly not *my* goal. I would only try to improve the atmosphere through my own actions and be sure I am not sanctioning atrocious behavior by my silence.
* "Coby Beck" <cb...@mercury.bc.ca> | The real problem, is that Erik, by his own profession, is attacking | this same freedom you are defending. His expressed motive is to drive | people out and/or make it so painful for them to express their | opinions that they stop. How does this promote freedom of expression?
This is an interesting case of your amazingly moronic "opinion" being an instance of what should not be allowed to pass without severe and harsh criticism for being manipulative, instigatory, and much worse than false: it's malicious slander. Great fucking example, Cody Beck!
Your first mistake is to misrepresent my expressed motive, you stupid liar. Lies are not protected by freedom of expression. I cannot say that you are child molestor and hope to get away with it, nor should I.
_You_ are a people-person, and I'm not. If you have to _restate_ my expressed motive, at least engage the puny little excuse for a brain that people-oriented people possess enough to recognize that some people are _not_ people-oriented, indeed are extremely hostile to any such accusation. Putting people first is the primary idiocy that we must to overcome to achieve a technical forum, indeed any technical progress at all.
My _actually_ expressed motive, not the Coby Beck rewrite, is to drive _stupidity_ out and make it so painful to act stupidly that people stop being stupid. That someone can be so amazingly retarded as to confuse people with stupidity is not my problem, and Coby Beck can go to hell as far as I'm concerned for being that retarded. He's made the same moronic mistake and false accusation previously, and it does not help to tell him anything, so he's probably _unable_ to adapt to facts and situations he does not already agree with. He also believes whatever he wants to believe about me and feels much freer than he should to post his incredibly stupid "opinions" about something he only _feels_ is true. It is precisely that kind of moronic behavior that should be stopped. Unfortunately, Coby Beck is the kind of person who is unwilling to change his behavior but rather continues to defend it because he has felt hurt by the fact that he never was right in his false accusations and moronic rewrites of other people's ideas. Such people should be punished every time they repeat their mistakes.
It is downright _pathetic_ how Coby Beck implicitly argues for the value of stupidity, of moronic misrepresentations of facts, of false answers to technical questions, of idiotic and inflammatory "opinions" like trolls, etc. That is what he welcomes to comp.lang.lisp, and if he could drive me out in favor of people of his intellectual level, he would feel a lot better here, free to fail to exercise his brain as he would then be, like the people he implicitly invites.
I want a technically stimulating forum. When push comes to shove, that is what most other people want here, too. However, USENET is a virtual _magnet_ for idiots and opinionated air-heads, the kinds of people that Coby Beck welcomes. These are people who _don't_ pull themselves together and _don't_ drop their stupidity when they see that it is not welcome, because they, like Coby Beck, think they have a God-given right to be stupid and still be respected and treated well. But we don't treat guests well who take a piss in the living room, not even if they are someone's pets. People who are interesting to talk with get up and _leave_ if the group rewards stupidity, but we live in a culture that defends, promotes, idolizes, and rewards the stupid and unintelligent. How could it possibly work to sell any products at all by insulting people's intelligence with the kind of stupefyingly moronic advertising that fill bill-boards, broadcast media, etc, if people were not willing to accept that stupidity must be tolerated and indeed rewarded? Microsoft is multi-billion-dollar empire _built_ on the stupidity of people who bought their hype and their lies. Every grain of disgust for liars and stupidity in the market costs that company a billion dollars in lost sales, just as every grain of admiration for frauds and crooks who manage to outsmart people with the operating intelligence of dogs earns them a billion.
Most people accept stupidity and incompetence in every form they come across because they would rather be seen as easy-going and friendly than to get what they pay for and want. But the really easy-going and friendly people are found where _competence_ is rewarded, stupidity is an accident to be ignored, and incompetence has a cause worth fixing. If you _actually_ care for the people around you, you don't allow them to be stupid, and if you _respect_ people, you are not afraid to have zero respect or tolerance for (some of) their actions.
#:Erik -- "When you are having a bad day and it seems like everybody is trying to piss you off, remember that it takes 42 muscles to produce a frown, but only 4 muscles to work the trigger of a good sniper rifle." -- Unknown
* Marcus G. Daniels | You are different because almost any message could a Naggum Mine | waiting to go off. Hygienic technical questions quickly turn to | controversies and explode with seconds of notice.
You are wrong.
| That's the objection that comes up about you over and over again.
No, it's is your mind blowing up over and over again.
| [Naggum fan club aside.]
Oh, Christ! Are you so _disrespectful_ of people that you have to think in terms of "fan clubs"? I thought you at least _had_ a brain!
#:Erik -- "When you are having a bad day and it seems like everybody is trying to piss you off, remember that it takes 42 muscles to produce a frown, but only 4 muscles to work the trigger of a good sniper rifle." -- Unknown
* "Coby Beck" <cb...@mercury.bc.ca> | No. Manners are about self control, freedom is about control by | outside forces. They are 100% disjoint.
As long as manners are supposedly about _self_ control, you must hold the position that you should control somebody else's "self" if their manners are not to your taste, otherwise it would not even be valid for you to be concerned about the manners of others. In other words, you are _actually_ favoring dictatorship and tyranny of "manners", in which everything that you disagree is "good manners" is subject to a fantastically stupid ad hominem attack: "Because you don't speak nice, your arguments and everything else you might say, is worthless." This is a kind of snobbery that has been used to suppress people for ages.
Your façade of good manners cannot hide what is inside: You truly believe that people who have what you consider bad manners are bad people, and probably (even though this is so idiotic it hurts) that people of good manners are good people. The opposite is true: Bad people _need_ good manners _much_ more than good people need them.
| I'm sorry, but I see absolutely no grey area with lines like "you're a | disgusting little fuck, Aaron Johnson." Discussing whether this is or | is not abusive is as interesting as trying to prove I'm not a | duck-billed platypus.
So discuss, with your excellent manners, how it came to be that that single line apparently embodies everything this forum has to offer to your anal-retentive need for good manners. Cause and effect are of no use to you as long as you find a lack of good manners, right?
| This is certainly not *my* goal. I would only try to improve the | atmosphere through my own actions and be sure I am not sanctioning | atrocious behavior by my silence.
Your "improvement" is that of good-mannered passive agressiveness, which you should have been smart enough to realize pisses people off like nothing else if you have tried it in real life, instead of only in your good-mannered fantasies. People who walk into fights, wearing halos and notions of moral superiority through their refined manners, have a bad habit of getting killed in real life. The reason is quite simple: Their _condescending_ manners are not at all good manners.
#:Erik -- "When you are having a bad day and it seems like everybody is trying to piss you off, remember that it takes 42 muscles to produce a frown, but only 4 muscles to work the trigger of a good sniper rifle." -- Unknown
>>>>> "EN" == Erik Naggum <e...@naggum.net> writes:
EN> _You_ are a people-person, and I'm not. If you have to EN> _restate_ my expressed motive, at least engage the puny little EN> excuse for a brain that people-oriented people possess enough to EN> recognize that some people are _not_ people-oriented, indeed are EN> extremely hostile to any such accusation.
One might argue that thinking intraverts might well seek social stability and civil environments, lacking the inclination to repeatedly hash-out the detailed foundations of their private (and potentially alienated) world view. You know, hang out in bookstores, develop their art, build their robots, that sort of thing...
In this model, a deeply intraverted person wouldn't care about being understood by any large number of people. Yes, one might say that's because they are insecure in their conclusions. One might also say it is because they are private people. But to insist the former is mere speculation.
A loud, abrasive, and volatile environment tends to amplify the chance that non-technical topics appear and that this hypothetical intravert will get entangled in technical debate intertwined with other unwelcome stuff. Meanwhile, the extravert gets an audience to work.
EN> Putting people first is the primary idiocy that we must to EN> overcome to achieve a technical forum, indeed any technical EN> progress at all.
"Putting people first" are your words for your interpretation of what has been said. My interpretation of what has been said is that your emotional outbursts sometimes get in the way of a technical forum, and that your tactics don't in fact drive off this kind of "idiocy" in any robust way. In fact, there's evidence to suggest these tactics keep it going.
* Marcus G. Daniels | In fact, there's evidence to suggest these tactics keep it going.
Are you trying to help in any way, or did I understand you?
#:Erik -- "When you are having a bad day and it seems like everybody is trying to piss you off, remember that it takes 42 muscles to produce a frown, but only 4 muscles to work the trigger of a good sniper rifle." -- Unknown
EN> Are you trying to help in any way, or did I understand you?
This presupposes a pre-existing and universally agreed on meaning to the word "help", a "court of competent jurisdiction" in which to have concluded that I am in fact being not being helpful, and, further, a requirement of participation in this group to be that one be helpful.
In article <3184709147020...@naggum.net>, Erik Naggum <e...@naggum.net> wrote:
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> What I find truly astonishing is that people who seem to harbor the > kinds of religious fervor towards incivility that some of those nuts > harbor against abortion are equally willing to dispense with ethics > and do just about anything when morally outraged and justified enough.
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the following is, in my opinion, a better example for your purpose: many conservative christians believe firmly that governmental restrictions on behavior and speech should be minimal, yet seemingly abandon this position to promote their religious agendas, e.g., in seeking to force all children to sit through prayer periods and in working to replace the teaching of evolution with the teaching of pseudoscientific creationism in science classes.
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> Thanks, but I suggest you also be careful about generalizing from the > unwarranted assumption that people elsewhere in the world do not track > U.S. politics very, very closely. Not only do I work for a news > agency with numerous other news feeds that my system processes, I have > worked with newspapers and the news media basically forever and it's > the only industry I own stock in.
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my point was that the media tend to magnify the fringe elements of the groups they cover in search of compelling sound bites and video footage. from just what the (US) media portrays the middle east, i would be forced to conclude most moslems are terrorists or support terrorism as a means for change. i doubt that's the case. similarly, while media coverge of conservative american christians paints them as violence-loving folk, that doesn't square with the reality that i've experienced. (which is not to say that they're not hypocrites- when-outraged on other points, such as the non-violent examples i offered above.)
* Erik Naggum | Are you trying to help in any way, or did I understand you?
* Marcus G. Daniels | This presupposes a pre-existing and universally agreed on meaning to | the word "help", a "court of competent jurisdiction" in which to | have concluded that I am in fact being not being helpful, and, further, a | requirement of participation in this group to be that one be helpful.
Not at all, Marcus G. Doofus, it "presupposes" that you wouldn't be of any help even if you knew how, unless you were seriously misunderstood. Get a grip, dude. You're the one who's laughing all the time. Laugh!
#:Erik -- "When you are having a bad day and it seems like everybody is trying to piss you off, remember that it takes 42 muscles to produce a frown, but only 4 muscles to work the trigger of a good sniper rifle." -- Unknown