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Jon Watte  
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 More options May 19 2005, 9:49 pm
From: Jon Watte <jwa...@gmail.com>
Date: Thu, 19 May 2005 18:49:08 -0700
Local: Thurs, May 19 2005 9:49 pm
Subject: Re: [candor] Candor Question
The key word is "as possible". If it's a negotiation trying to woo a
business partner, then the analysis is:
- how damaging would it be to tell them "we thought about that, but it
has some draw-backs"?
- how damaging would it be to myself to know I'm not candid?
- how important is this business partner opportunity to us?

It really is just a cost/benefit analysis, where the cost is your
feelings about your own dealings, and the benefit being the estimated
increase in chance of negotiation success.

You can also weasel and say something like "yeah, that would take a
while to study in detail, but I hear what you're saying" and move on
-- perhaps that's what you're already doing. It's not lying, but it's
not candid, either.

On 4/18/05, Ken  Duda <Ken.D...@gmail.com> wrote:

> The answer might be, "Ken, why don't you ask Ms. Manners instead.  From
> the point of view of the candor club, if this person is a candor club
> member, then just tell him that it doesn't turn out to be a good idea,
> and if he's not, then go ahead and do anything you want."  Okay, but I
> like to take the thinking behind the candor club and apply it as much
> as possible to non-members.


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