I need a hug so bad right now
John Hamlin
trying to wear pants to school that were 3 sizes to small and had holes
all around the crotch.....these are the same pants that I forbid her to
war to school yesterday, and the friday before. She wined and stomped
and said I was mean. Honestly, the child has no idea, this is the same
kid who went to school one day this fall in a short skirt and NO
PANTIES, then proceeded to play on the slide with her dress around her
waist until my oldest daughter happened to see her on the playground. No
clue as to why I was upset about it, she is 8. Then as I was downstairs
doing the never ending mountain of laundry, 4 yr old SD asked 5 yr. old
SS to cut her hair for her. Which he did with enthusiasm. Her waist
length blond hair now has chunks ranging from just above her ear. Then I
put ground beef in the microwave to defrost and went outside to grab the
mail, and SS decided that the meat needed a little more time in the
nuker. He turned it on full blast and I came in to beef fat running out
of my microwave onto the stove...he had melted the plastic right into
it....I should have stayed in bed...at the very least I need a good
stiff drink right now.
merrie
Throw those pants away Lori!
Don't worry about hair it'll grow back and it'll be easier to comb now.
Throw the ground beef in the can with the pants and call DH to pick up
dinner on the way home.
Merrie
John Hamlin wrote in message <385FEDA7...@sk.sympatico.ca>...
John Hamlin
sexuality, she just doesn't seem to care, she will wander around for days with
jam all over her face, if no-one tells her to go wash it off. She will wear
clothes that clash horribly, pants that are too short, shirts that are filthy.
personal hygiene doesn't seem at all important to her.
Anne Robotti wrote:
> Well, about the pants you're going to have to do what I do when SD
> comes here in something totally inappropriate and ridiculously old
> for her. Throw it away. Period. If it'll make you feel better, say it
> got lost in the laundry and you'll replace it with something appropriate,
> but personally I don't bother. SD knows now that if she comes here in
> something I wouldn't let her wear, she's not going home in it.
>
> If she lived here, I'd solve the problem by never letting her have clothes
> I don't approve of, so we wouldn't fight. When we shop, I have total veto
> power. I tell her, "You can wear it when I'm dead," and that cheers her up.
>
> The other stuff, I guess it wouldn't help you if I said that this sounds
> like my house every day of the week, right?
>
> BTW, a child psychologist asked me a lot of questions once about whether SD
> was overtly sexualized, which it sounds like your SD is. Wanting people to
> see her genitals, wearing sexy clothes... if you're CP, you might want to get
> her to a child psych and maybe get her some counseling.
>
> Anne
Anne Robotti
John Hamlin
to go ballistic about it hehhehhhe (but she doesn't have to try to comb it
every morning)
merrie wrote:
> Eeek!
>
> Throw those pants away Lori!
> Don't worry about hair it'll grow back and it'll be easier to comb now.
> Throw the ground beef in the can with the pants and call DH to pick up
> dinner on the way home.
>
> Merrie
>
> John Hamlin wrote in message <385FEDA7...@sk.sympatico.ca>...
tkwalker
John Hamlin <joh...@sk.sympatico.ca> wrote in message
news:385FEDA7...@sk.sympatico.ca...
> Boy what a day! had a huge fight with 8 year old SD this AM. She was
> trying to wear pants to school that were 3 sizes to small and had holes
> all around the crotch.....these are the same pants that I forbid her to
> war to school yesterday, and the friday before. She wined and stomped
> and said I was mean.
Weird. My 5 year-old SS wants to wear pants 3 sizes too big. Once I left
for work earlier than DH who ended up taking SS to school. When both DH and
I went to pick him up, he was so excited to see both of us he came running
across the playground, pants falling to his knees. I grounded him from his
"baggy pants" for a week for wearing them when he knew he wasn't supposed
to.
Kina
lilblakdog
news:385FF087...@worldnet.att.net...
> When we shop, I have total veto
> power. I tell her, "You can wear it when I'm dead," and that cheers her
up.
ROTFL!!!
<grin>
Yeah, I've got a mental picture of *that* reaction!
lil
--
Who is at fault when a monster is a monster? Is it the monster? Or the
person who created it to be a monster?
kevin
((((( hug )))))
kevin
<sending empathic waves right along in your direction>
In article <385FEDA7...@sk.sympatico.ca>, John Hamlin says...
> Boy what a day! had a huge fight with 8 year old SD this AM. She was
> trying to wear pants to school that were 3 sizes to small and had holes
> all around the crotch.....these are the same pants that I forbid her to
> war to school yesterday, and the friday before. She wined and stomped
> and said I was mean. Honestly, the child has no idea, this is the same
> kid who went to school one day this fall in a short skirt and NO
> PANTIES, then proceeded to play on the slide with her dress around her
> waist until my oldest daughter happened to see her on the playground. No
> clue as to why I was upset about it, she is 8. Then as I was downstairs
> doing the never ending mountain of laundry, 4 yr old SD asked 5 yr. old
> SS to cut her hair for her. Which he did with enthusiasm. Her waist
> length blond hair now has chunks ranging from just above her ear. Then I
> put ground beef in the microwave to defrost and went outside to grab the
> mail, and SS decided that the meat needed a little more time in the
> nuker. He turned it on full blast and I came in to beef fat running out
> of my microwave onto the stove...he had melted the plastic right into
> it....I should have stayed in bed...at the very least I need a good
> stiff drink right now.
>
>
--
"It was so cold that if the thermometer had been an inch longer we would
have frozen to death" - Mark Twain
John Hamlin
Karla
> Boy what a day! had a huge fight with 8 year old SD this AM. She was
> trying to wear pants to school that were 3 sizes to small and had holes
> all around the crotch.....these are the same pants that I forbid her to
> war to school yesterday, and the friday before. She wined and stomped
> and said I was mean. Honestly, the child has no idea, this is the same
> kid who went to school one day this fall in a short skirt and NO
> PANTIES, then proceeded to play on the slide with her dress around her
> waist until my oldest daughter happened to see her on the playground. No
> clue as to why I was upset about it, she is 8. Then as I was downstairs
> doing the never ending mountain of laundry, 4 yr old SD asked 5 yr. old
> SS to cut her hair for her. Which he did with enthusiasm. Her waist
> length blond hair now has chunks ranging from just above her ear. Then I
> put ground beef in the microwave to defrost and went outside to grab the
> mail, and SS decided that the meat needed a little more time in the
> nuker. He turned it on full blast and I came in to beef fat running out
> of my microwave onto the stove...he had melted the plastic right into
> it....I should have stayed in bed...at the very least I need a good
> stiff drink right now.
Remember the mantra I'm trying to use:
In 100 years this all won't matter, it's how you play the game. They'll
love you just the same.....
Let me know if it works any better for you than it does for me. :)
The good news is that if you "loose" the pants in the laundry (as my mom
used to do a lot of), remember the little ones were trying to be helpful
and a short haircut goes a long way to remember not to ask a younger
sibling to cut your hair (made that mistake twice: when I was 10 and my
sister was 6 1/2. I asked again when I was 25...I figured that she
learned how to trim hair by then, I was wrong) Hair does grow back and
microwaves are cheap these days.
I'm thinking about visiting Margaritaville myself later this evening
once the kids are in bed.
karla
lilblakdog
news:38600713...@ntcorp.com...
> The good news is that if you "loose" the pants in the laundry (as my mom
> used to do a lot of)
I remember having this pj top that I liked to wear as a shirt. It really
just looked like a long-sleeved t-shirt and had a picture of a cat playing
tennis. The tennis ball was a white pom-pom.
It used to drive my mother nuts. She was always telling me to put real
clothes on and I was always sneaking it out of the house.
One day she came up behind me with a pair of scissors and cut it open, right
down the back.
I don't think I've *ever* been so angry with her in my entire life. It
still makes me angry, just to think about it! :-)
lil (who remembers second-hand, faded Holly Hobbie knock-offs, Army & Navy
shoes and too-small socks and underwear...and wonders if it would have
really killed her mother to allow her to have *something* kinda cool???)
leah
type of things your eight year old does can stem from being sexual
abused. I think I would be asking her some careful questions or get
her mother to do it. My girlfriend is raising her niece who was
sexually abused and she is doing the same things. Any weird people
your daughter hangs out with who could have done such a thing. Lord I
sure hope it is not so.
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Sarai
was early eighties and I wanted a pair of those tight pants like madonna and
cyndi lauper sooooooooo bad, my mom was like ok when im dead.
Heather......who is really kinda glad her mom was such a good mom
leah wrote in message <06f84faa...@usw-ex0107-050.remarq.com>...
Anne Robotti
could have done this. It's not weirdoes lurking in alleys, it's the
person you'd least suspect like the track coach or the girl scout
leader or your brother in law who has two kids of his own. I'd love
to see some statistics on step-sibling sexual abuse if anybody has any.
Anne
John Hamlin
have NO sexual knowledge however. When BM was pregnant with her last baby (who
was the product of an affair), she chose not to tell her existing children. When
she was eight months along and huge SD says "I think mom ate too many donuts".
After the baby was born SD says "Mom had a baby and didn't have to get married
or anything". I have always been open about things like this with my biokids,
and was rather flabbergasted that at 8 years old she had no concept of how
babies come into the world.
leah wrote:
> John, I don't want to raise any fears but past history shows that the
> type of things your eight year old does can stem from being sexual
> abused. I think I would be asking her some careful questions or get
> her mother to do it. My girlfriend is raising her niece who was
> sexually abused and she is doing the same things. Any weird people
> your daughter hangs out with who could have done such a thing. Lord I
> sure hope it is not so.
>
jane lawrence
>
>
> I don't think I've *ever* been so angry with her in my entire life. It
> still makes me angry, just to think about it! :-)
I don't get along very well with my godmother. When I as 8, I
wanted my bangs long, long, long. If I shook my head a little,
they covered my eyes. I felt mysterious. When I went to visit
my godmother, she took me to a barber shop and had my bangs cut
very short. 35 years later and I can't let it go. I'm still
pissed.
jane
jane lawrence
>
> Anne thanks, she is in counseling right now, I don't know if it is overt
> sexuality, she just doesn't seem to care, she will wander around for days with
> jam all over her face, if no-one tells her to go wash it off. She will wear
> clothes that clash horribly, pants that are too short, shirts that are filthy.
> personal hygiene doesn't seem at all important to her.
Not caring is normal. She's a kid.
I wouldn't worry about her wearing pants with holes around the
crotch unless she's wearing them because they have holes there.
They're probably her favorites. Any way they can be patched or
rehabilitated for weekends?
I don't get into BD's clothes much at all. She's always had
strong opinions about her clothing. I figure this is a good
time to learn about style, color, etc.
The bra strap thing is driving me crazy, though. I think it is
incredibly tacky. In general, I can keep my mouth shut, but now
all her bra straps are gray or raggedly. She does her own
laundry. I go out and buy her new bras, but it doesn't solve
anything. She wears them for days then washes them with her
jeans. I'd get strapless bras, but I know she'd say, "but
everyone will think I don't have a bra on."
Is anyone else handling the bra strap thing with any success at
all?
jane
Someone
http://www.theonion.com/onion2915/breasts2915.html
(satire)
Jane, you've said this to many people before:
this too shall pass.
We went through it with SD about a year ago. She would say "How do I
look?" And I would tell her that everything looked great except the bra
strap showing - that's just tacky. It didn't last too long. Neither did
the wearing of dark bras under light clothes.
jane lawrence <jan...@excite.com> wrote in article
: Not caring is normal. She's a kid.
:
Melissa Torresan
wrote:
>I wouldn't worry about her wearing pants with holes around the
>crotch unless she's wearing them because they have holes there.
>They're probably her favorites. Any way they can be patched or
>rehabilitated for weekends?
I agree - they are probably her favourite. I've got quite a few pairs
of leggings that have split in the thigh area. I wear them around the
house when it's just me and SO here, because I like them. I've worn
them in. I had an ugly pink woolly jumper when I was a teenager. I
wore it around the house and out to the shops. I caught my Mum trying
to throw it out lots of times and I just snuck it back to my room when
she wasn't looking.
>Is anyone else handling the bra strap thing with any success at
>all?
I have an idea for you.. :) I now prefer sports crop top things.
Simply because the straps never fall off my arms, and you can wear
them under things and not worry about anyone seeing them because they
look like you're wearing a tight fitting tank top. In case I have
explained that badly, here's a picture of one : :)
http://www.tomorrowsworld.com/undies/sportsbra.html
Another thing that I regularly do is - I've got this wonderful
Bikini. The top is sooo comfy that I wear it instead of a bra. I've
got another bikini that has a halter-neck top, and I wear that under
clothes, too.
At least with sports bras, you're not seeing *bra* straps as such.
And, depending on the material, it's harder to make them a different
colour - my white ones are still white, even after Mum washed them. :)
If you're worried about support for the breasts, well most of these
are designed for exactly that purpose, but you can always wear a real
bra underneath - the sports bra keeps the straps in place, and hide
them from the general public..
Mel
>jane
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