Help?
rebecca
I hadn't even thought of care packages, but since my SO has kindly
offered to stop off whenever is needed, it will be easy to send care
packages.
As to the condoms.. hmm.. I think I will leave that for him to buy.
But, more suggestions are good :).. I'm sure they might differ from male
to female. I can't imagine DS would want lotions, for instance.
I do know that he has this 'thing' for "Axe" body sprays for men. Just
bought four more at BJ's. Something else to add to the package, might
be razors?..
As for the Starbucks card, would depend if there is a Starbucks near the
campus (is she in a large city?). If she has a coffeepot in her dorm
room (DS has a small four-cup pot), perhaps filters and a bag of
specialty coffee? Blank CD's to make copies?
Open to any and all suggestions as well..
Cal~
I used to send SD DVD's and popcorn. She's in England now and I'm sending her
a digital camera so that she can take pictures of all she's experiencing.
Decor for the new dorm was also much appreciated. SO sent her some Star Wars
and LOTR posters that went over big.
Love,
Melissa
"This virtual sand tastes just like real sand."
-Line from one of the cartoons SS watches.
DS is planning on taking his entire DVD and CD collection that fit into
several large CD cases. I'm concerned that he will regret taking them
all.
He had planned to make copies and/or load the CD's onto his computer,
but the promised computer never arrived in time. My ex and his roommate
were robbed back in the late '70's. His roommate lost everything and
the ex lost all his "A's and B's" that were needed to fill in the
roommates boxes. The number of albums they lost amounted into the
hundreds between the two of them.
>She's in England now and I'm
> sending her a digital camera so that she can take pictures of all
> she's experiencing.
I'd given DS a nice digital camera for his graduation, which is what he
was really hoping for. :)
>Decor for the new dorm was also much
> appreciated. SO sent her some Star Wars and LOTR posters that went
> over big.
Good idea. DS likes heavy metal posters. Maybe I could find him a new
metallica poster or something.
How often do people send care packages, anyway?
Cal~
Would it be hideous of me to send condoms? My sister
>would flinch, but be okay with it. Not sure what her dad would think, he'd
>probably smack me and say nothing else. Maybe some lotions and stuff?>>
Although I a major proponent of birth control and responsible sex (even did
peer sexuality counseling in college) I'd skip it in this case. They are
freely given out and available at most colleges, and it might embarrass your
nephew and cause a family rift that he'd be in the middle of. My niece has
resisted all my efforts to provide her with contraceptives, even going so far
as to claim she's a virgin to avoid the discussion (who knows, maybe she is)!
As for care packages, she loved getting anything homemade, like banana bread,
muffins or cookies that she could share with the other kids. It really helped
to break the ice and kids would gather in her room to share munchies. She also
loved those big liter bottles of the good shampoos, since her budget was at
Suave level but I had already spoiled her and developed her taste for the good
"product."
One other thing that might be a good idea is toner cartridges, since they are
ridiculously expensive but run out really fast.
brenna
As often as makes you happy.
Coupons for fast food - especially stuff like pizza that can be delivered -
might be a really good care package gift. Lets see, packages of instant hot
chocolate, a favorite brand of tea. Microwave popcorn, too. Pictures of his
dog (or other pet, if he has one). A new frisbee. Cookies. Blank CDs.
Gloves, right about the time that cold weather hits. Along with the
ever-popular money.
My son starts classes at Berkeley tomorrow (i'm so excited, yet worried becuz
he's only 18, living off-campus in an apartment with his girlfriend, and
already is sick and i can't bring "mom's chicken soup" 10-12/hr drive away!)
He needed an RF adapter so they could hook up their dvd player so i sent that,
and while i was at it added some fridge magnets, an oil-scent cartridge for
the fragrancer thing he has, some tea, beef jerky and a can of spam. He
ESPECIALLY enjoyed the jerky and spam, as he said they can't afford much meat
on their budget. I plan to send more meat, maybe one of those
cheese/beefstick type gift packages, and some misc. spices since he loves to
cook.
We use this phone thing called "onesuite" where it's only 2.5c a minute to
chat. That's been a lifesaver for me, since i miss him terribly.
Stevie says EasyMac macaroni and cheese is good. I send her those
dinners, too, that don't have to be refrigerated, I think one brand is
called Pasta Anytime. AFter she's been there for a while, ask her for
the name of the haircutting salon that's close and good, and get her a
gift certificate. A gift certificate from the campus book store would
be good, too.
Cal mentioned that her ex and his roommate got ripped off in college,
and that's a surprisingly common occurrance. Since Stevie has a
laptop computer (and they grow legs all the time) we got her an
insurance policy that covers everything she owns. We chose
replacement value, which is more expensive, but I think worth it.
Anyway, we got it through CSI Insurance
(http://www.csiprotection.com/) Something worth thinking about.
Vicki
--
Power may be justly compared to a great river; while kept within its
bounds it is both beautiful and useful, but when it overflows its banks,
it is then too impetuous to be stemmed; it bears down all before it,
and brings destruction and desolation wherever it goes." -- Alexander Hamilton.
>Good idea. DS likes heavy metal posters. Maybe I could find him a new
>metallica poster or something.
Be sure to send some of that tacky stuff to hang the posters, if his school
doesn't allow any holes in the walls. Many school ban any sort of holes being
put in walls, even ones made by push pins.
>
>How often do people send care packages, anyway?
>
I try and coordinate them with events and change of season. I send one within
the first couple of weeks, as a welcome back to school theme. One close to
Halloween. One between Thanksgiving and Christmas break that also serves as a
finals survival kit. One in February around Valintines day. One before Easter.
One not too far before finals and the end of the year. I probably send more
than most do, but I so enjoy doing it and my child LOVES getting them.
Many schools offer finals survival kits. I have found a lot of what they
include are things my child wouldn't eat or enjoy. So I took their list and
added and subtracted and made a kit I know my child would enjoy fully. One
thing that I do now is send stress releaver toys at finals time. Little dumb
toys (you can get them at dollar stores usually) that serve as a deversion from
the constant studying at finals time.
As to what to put in the care packages. that is really hard to suggest as each
student has different likes and dislikes. My student loves:
Home made goddies
Candy (holiday related like peeps around Eatser)
Sugar free gum
money
More socks and underwear
magazines
shower and personal care items
money
Any type of quick breakfast bar ( granola, oatmeal, etc)
Blank CDs
money
Toys (paddle ball, deck of cards, nerf ball, bubbles, etc.)
and did I mention money? LOL
One of the things that my student REALLY appreciates is when she does come home
for school breaks I make all of her favorites meals. I usually save her #1 fave
for the last night and that way I can send her back with left overs. I got
these nifty bags called *Thermo Zip Its* at the local supermarket. They are
made of plastic and fold up really small. You can get a lot in them and they
keep things cold, hot or even frozen for up to 3 hours. They were about $1
each. They are made by Better Containers Mfg. Co. Inc. There toll free # is
1-800-831-6049. I bought tons of them as they come in really handy when I'm
hitting several grocery stores and have frozen food in the car. When I am
bringing a hot dish to a friends or families get together, and of course to
send things back to school with my student.
Hope this all helps!
Indy
>Since Stevie has a
>laptop computer (and they grow legs all the time) we got her an
>insurance policy that covers everything she owns.
I'm so glad you mentioned this. We have my students entire contents of her off
campus house insured with renters insurance through State Farm.
Indy
Personally, I'd include the condoms and let my BIL gripe. ;)
Hm...
Coupons of all types, samples of things like perfumes and cosmetics; also,
I'm pretty certain (about 99.9%) that Starbucks or someone has a thermal
coffeemug that's also an instant brewer-a couple of bosses I used to work
with at kfry had it, and it was great. Brewed coffee in just a couple of
minutes-just right for a quick flop out of bed and a mad dash to class.
Menus of delivery/takeout places close to her. Couple of salons close to her
that give student discounts and are open late.
Stationary, travel camera (unless you want to wait for christmas and really
splurge on the digicam). Blank cd-rw's.
I'm not sure what else, at least until after class. ;)
Jess
*bright idea*
The little massagers sold at Bed, Bath & Beyond, especially with some
gender-appropriate aromatherapy stuff. :D
Jess
Oops, a book to write things like serial numbers down just in case he does
get ripped; is he getting the cord for the Kensington lock and a case? There
are some places that sell bags with laptop pouches-I got my samsonite bag
for under $50. :)
Jess
>Personally, I'd include the condoms and let my BIL gripe. ;)
>
Y'know, I think I wouldn't. If my aunt had sent me anything like that
in the mail at college, I'd probably be mad at her, and think it was
none of her business. I don't know what kind of relationship Rebecca
has with her niece, but it might be crossing the line to include them
in a care package.
Deb R.
thx
Well, the student health service is quite good, if he gets really knocked
out. Also in walking distance to most of the town - if he's on the south
side, anyway.
rebecca
Oh yes I forgot about that! SO and I had to go to two or three places to find
that crap.
--
**Geri**
"Pigs Can Fly!"
GO HUSKERS!
I assumed that Rebecca had that type of relationship to begin with; there
are definently some relationships where it would be crossing the line, tho'.
Jess
My inlaws give everyone condoms all the time. I was a little startled
the first time my SS walked in from dinner with his aunt and uncle
with a case of condoms under his arm. After that I got used to it.
My SIL's theory is that if they're free and easily accessible, they
are used. If you send them, they're still free, and no one has to go
over to student health to get them.
Also, I like the drama-free approach to BC, sending shampoo, aspirin,
condoms, tums. It sets a good tone.
jane
>
> thx
No one has to anyway. They're everywhere on campus.
Okay, well, I asked the niece. Sent her an email about the other stuff she
wanted, asked, said I wouldn't assume she was humping the football team if
she said yes. Oh, and that if she was embarrassed, she could just not
respond and I'd take silence for consent.
She wrote right back, said she wouldn't for now need them, and wouldn't be
shy about asking if she did need them, but that she'd humor me and allow me
to send them if I wanted. Giggle. I love that girl.
So I'll go get some, seems like a good thing to have around.
r
http://www.wsrcc.com/wolfgang/voip.html
$65 for VOIP phone...just plug it in to an internet connection...get 2
of them and talk to each other forever for free...or anyone else on the
Free World Dial (FWD) network, for that matter.
Son and I went to pay the final payment due for this semester and buy
his books today.
All I have to say is *ouch*.
Six hundred dollars just for his first semester's books. I was not
prepared for this at all, everything I'd read 'suggested' that books
range in the two hundred to three hundred dollar range per semester.
There were no 'used' books available and was told that the books
relating to his major are rarely available as used, because they
students keep them. Well, for that price at least maybe he'll get years
of use out of them? I hope??
Cal~
Well, if it is any consolation I still use some of my college textbooks....
Yup-I did that a couple of semesters too, and the only reason it wasn't like
that this semester is because I already had my math book, and he found the
software he needed for another class at the manufacturer for a student
price. :)
> There were no 'used' books available and was told that the books
> relating to his major are rarely available as used, because they
> students keep them. Well, for that price at least maybe he'll get years
> of use out of them? I hope??
That, and he might be able to find a bookstore off campus that sells the
books for cheaper, or some of the graduates might sell their books off. :)
Also, did he have to buy completely brand new from the publisher books? That
makes a difference too.
Jess
What this school does is give you a list of 'codes', and you take your
list and match those to the coded books on the shelf. Once you found
the book, you check the classes on the card on the shelf to confirm that
is the correct book for that class. I am assuming this is to ensure you
buy your books directly from the school rather than going off site to
buy them.
Most of these books came with CD-Roms (the math being the exception).
Several of the books he had to buy were 'brand new' from the publisher
as well, which I'm sure makes them more expensive.
I understand this is the reason for the costs, but still didn't expect
it. When I went to the parent orientation, I asked about books and they
said that most students don't pay more than $200.00, but there were some
exceptions. I should've asked them to clarify what they meant!
Cal~
:) Thanks. So much of this is technology based that I envision having
to buy new books/software constantly just to keep up with the changes in
the field.
I told him he better make my investment worth while. He said "I'm worth
it, aren't I" "Yeah, you sure are" :)
Cal~
Textbooks are pricey, but the number and expense vary by class. It could be
that he's just happened to hit 2 or 3 of the classes that require the
bazillion dollar book. Have him ask others in the major if this is typical
if you're really worried about it.
rebecca
Cal, before next quarter, you might want to check out these sites. I bought
all my textbooks (used) online:
http://www.campusbooks.com/
http://www.bookbyte.com/
http://www.directtextbook.com/
http://www.bookswap.com/bookswap/index.cfm?
Sheila
Cal, I'm cheap. My school did the same thing. I went, found the books, copied
down the ISBN, and then went back home and ordered them online.
Sheila
> Cal, before next quarter, you might want to check out these sites.
> I bought all my textbooks (used) online:
>
> http://www.campusbooks.com/
> http://www.bookbyte.com/
> http://www.directtextbook.com/
> http://www.bookswap.com/bookswap/index.cfm?
>
> Sheila
Thanks Sheila. Defintely will look into those. Hopefully, it's just
this semester that they load them up with the pricey ones to get them
set up with a 'base'.
He's downstairs playing his drums for the "last time in who know's how
long". <G>
My neighbors will probably be tossing a big party when he's gone, lol.
Cal~
The first two books subtotaled to $228.00~ I knew we were in trouble at
that point!
>Have him ask others in the
> major if this is typical if you're really worried about it.
Good idea!
Cal~
The other thing is, for classes where he may not need the books again, he
can probably sell them back at the end of the semester and recoup some of
the $$, perhaps to use on the next bunch of books.
We will definitely see about doing this next time around. They didn't
open the bookstore until yesterday to even get in there and look around,
and since he's leaving tomorrow that wasn't available, but believe me,
from now we're going to find a way to get that done. This is crazy!
Cal~
What do you mean by technology based? My most useful books have been
technical in nature, but not necessarily computer related. A good chemistry
book can be worth its weight in gold for years, for example.
> I told him he better make my investment worth while. He said "I'm worth
> it, aren't I" "Yeah, you sure are" :)
Yep! OTOH, I usually tell mine "my money is a terrible thing to waste"!
His major is in music technology, very much computer technology driven
with an engineering degree. Several of these textbooks came with
companion cd-roms, and I imagine that what will be necessary for his
major in his last year of college may very well not have been even
invented as of yet.
>> I told him he better make my investment worth while. He said "I'm
>> worth it, aren't I" "Yeah, you sure are" :)
>
> Yep! OTOH, I usually tell mine "my money is a terrible thing to
> waste"!
OH yes! after I told him he was worth it the investment, that I
expected a return on that investment. Not that he has to go out and
make the big bucks, (which would be nice!) but that he was happy and
successful in whatever career he ends up with.
Cal~
He's a music major, correct? If we're talking theory and composition books
he'll use them for years to come. Music majors seem to spend more on books
than anyone else, but you really are building a library.
I'm curious about which school he's going to, since one of my oldest
friends is currently doing a master's degree in music composition at
Wesleyan in CT. Last year he TA'd a class in computer based music
composition for the first year undergrads.
Adrienne
I highly recommend the following:
1. Starbucks card is great, but make sure she has one there close by.
She may have another brand of coffee house there. If that's the case, get a
card for that one. One thing nice about these cards is that they can be
automatically "refilled" when the funds dry up. I believe you can do this
by phone or internet. So, this is a gift that could have repetitive impact.
2. Snack food. Often, college students don't have time to eat regular
meals with all their activities (fun and school). Sleep is usually a
priority over eating. So send a lot of snack foods that hold up well
sitting around. Breakfast bars, Snack bars, Twinkies, Small containers of
Pringles, candy.
3. Fashion is important on campus, as image is everything. Don't send
her clothes, because what she thinks is cool is not going to be what you
think is cool. Send her a gift certificate to Old Navy or Gap. She will
undoubtedly find something useful there. It doesn't have to be expensive.
Just enough to buy a pair of jeans or a couple tops.
4. Lotions won't work. It's not like she has a luxurious bathroom to
relax and bathe in. Instead of that, send her hair scrunchies of all shapes
and sizes. Girls constantly lose their hair bands. She'll appreciate this,
especially is she has long hair.
5. Music is a big deal to teens. You can send her a Target or Walmart
gift certificate to buy a couple CD's. If she'd rather download it, she can
use the money instead to buy essentials like shampoo and hairspray.
6. Contact the student store on campus and set up a credit account for
her to buy stuff there. Just have them charge $25 to your credit card and
put it on store credit for her. This way, when she's running to class and
has forgotten to bring a pen, she can quickly pick one up without the need
for a wallet.
7. Condoms are a GREAT idea. They send an implicit message - "USE
THESE". Even if she isn't sexually active, she'll appreciate the humor and
concern. Even better yet, send her a leafy plant. To each leaf of the
plant attach a condom with a paperclip. Tell her it's a "Rubber Tree". The
clinic at most colleges have truckloads of condoms that they make readily
available for free for anyone who wants them, so she'll be able to keep her
"tree" alive for many many semesters.
Have a great day.
Buster Van Buren
www.dearbuster.com
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> Cal's post has me thinking about this. My oldest niece is starting
college,
> I'd like to send her a care package. Not sure what to put in it, though,
> I've asked her for ideas, she hasn't gotten back to me yet. I thought a
> starbuck's card, since she's a coffee fiend. I don't want to go too heavy
> on the junk food. Would it be hideous of me to send condoms? My sister
> would flinch, but be okay with it. Not sure what her dad would think,
he'd
> probably smack me and say nothing else. Maybe some lotions and stuff?
> Gosh, I'm really stuck here.
>
> Help?
>
> rebecca
>
>
Where in England, Melissa?
Wendy, just home from Portugal
Bath.
*jealous* Have pictures yet? :)
Jess
Not yet. It was a beautiful site for a festival - near Idhana-a-Nova.
Portugal was having a heat wave though. Between 12 Noon and 4.30 p.m., you
couldn't do much more than sit in the shade.
Wendy
Will you be coming over to visit? Bath is a beautiful town.
Wendy
We planned to, but I just don't know right now. It's been impossible to plan
anything because of happenings related to SS.
>My inlaws give everyone condoms all the time.
I had some ready for Lee and her friends... should I mail them?
Anne
I hear ya Cal. Youngest's books have not cost less than $500 per semester and
this is her 3rd semester. These were the used ones. We have sold them back to
the campus book store and have recouped very little.
Oldest's school rents the books to the student and we pay about $100 per
semester. I much prefer the renting to the buying.
And to keep my news in the college thread.....
I got back earlier this evening from my oldest's university. Tuesday morning
she woke up with pain in her lower right side and sure enough it was her
appendix. They removed it Tuesday night at a hospital near her school. Thank
God I was able to get to her before they preped her for surgery. She's my 21 yr
old wimp that is ready to call 911 when she stubs a toe!
She's doing fine, moaning about the pain, but recovering. I keep telling her
she needs to suck it up or I'll have to take a couple of her Vicadins.
I have my entire immeadiate family on notice. DH had a heart attack a little
over a year ago, younger daughter had meniscus repair one year ago, and then a
meniscus removal 5 months ago, and now older daughter's appendix. I told them
all one more surgery and I'm resigning and leaving town with no forwarding
address. :)
Indy
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oh my gosh, Indy, that's scary. So glad she's ok.
rebecca
Thanks so much. I can't begin to explain the fear that goes through your very
soul when your baby is 3 hours away and is in a life threatening situation.
I really thought I was doing a pretty good job of letting go and now I see I've
got a ways to go. :)
Indy
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long day, so i'm doing a ditto 'fore i toddle off to bed...
Jess
Indyguy1 wrote:
> And to keep my news in the college thread.....
>
> I got back earlier this evening from my oldest's university. Tuesday morning
> she woke up with pain in her lower right side and sure enough it was her
> appendix. They removed it Tuesday night at a hospital near her school. Thank
> God I was able to get to her before they preped her for surgery. She's my 21 yr
> old wimp that is ready to call 911 when she stubs a toe!
>
> She's doing fine, moaning about the pain, but recovering. I keep telling her
> she needs to suck it up or I'll have to take a couple of her Vicadins.
>
> I have my entire immeadiate family on notice. DH had a heart attack a little
> over a year ago, younger daughter had meniscus repair one year ago, and then a
> meniscus removal 5 months ago, and now older daughter's appendix. I told them
> all one more surgery and I'm resigning and leaving town with no forwarding
> address. :)
>
> Indy
Yowch! I'm glad she's doing OK now. How are *you* managing?
Kardu
Brace yourself. That varies a lot. When I went on that tour with Lee, the
guides said they were available at Student Health. Some campuses don't have
them anywhere.
jane
Sure. They like ribbed, red, cherry coke flavored ones.
jane
Good to hear.
jane
>Indy
Barclay and I got given strawberry ones at the Boom Festival in Portugal. I
think it's great that they handed them out free, plus they gave us test tube
shaped ash trays which said "The nature does not deserve your offering.
Please put your cigarette butts in here."
Wendy
Wendy
Heather
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Didn't happen to meet a guy called Alex in a van selling cups of tea, did
you?
Nikki
> Didn't happen to meet a guy called Alex in a van selling cups of tea, did
> you?
No, but then there were estimated to be about 25,000 people there.
Mostly I drank iced tea which given the temperatures is probably not
surprising, though I did have a cup of chai one evening.
Wendy