getting the kids out of moms bed at night

[jje...@amigo.net]

I am marrying a wonderful woman who has 4 kids (3 boys ages 13,9,6 and a
little girl age 7). My problem is that the youngest kids refuse to sleep in
their own beds at night and always climb in bed with their mother. I know she
should be the one to tell them to sleep in their own beds, but because the
divorce affected the youngest ones the worst she has allowed them to sleep in
her bed. After we are married I would like there to be just the two of us in
bed at night and not four. Being new to the family I don't want to start a
war right from the start and make the kids feel like I'm getting between them
and their mother. I would appreciate any help you could give me on handling
this situation.

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[lilbl...@my-dejanews.com]

In article <357C42...@hotmail.com>,
SoccerStepMom <soccer...@hotmail.com> wrote:
>
> One of the boys is prone to nightmares, and he still joins us
> periodically; when he does, he sleeps on the other side of the bed from
> me, with his father next to me - so it's not at all weird, just a little
> crowded.

I'm getting a little off topic here, and I appologize to the person with the
original problem. But has anybody had any experience with this one?

My DH and I are getting ready to take my SS camping in a couple of weeks.
This year we decided to purchase all our own equipment (we have large
families, so we used to just borrow from everybody else) and are a little bit
stuck on the subject of sleeping bags.

We just have a dome tent...one of the ones that's supposed to sleep 4-5 but
we're lucky to fit in two adults and a child. DH and I were going to
purchase two sleeping bags and zip them together, to form a double sleeping
bag for us. Then purchase an extra bag for my SS. However, when I started
figuring out the measurements, I realized that two regular sized bags, zipped
together, was wider than our queen-sized bed. Therefore, there was no reason
at all that we would require a third bag, as my SS could just climb in with
us. I sort of intended that DH would sleep in the centre so I was not
against my SS and--being in the mountains--we'd all be sleeping dressed in
fleece track suits.

Now I can't see my DH's ex having a problem with this, but does anybody else
think this is approaching wierd? Or has anybody tried something like this
and had it end up being a problem? 'Cause if we need a third bag, we're
going to have to get it soon!

lil

[janelaw]

jje...@amigo.net wrote:
>
> I am marrying a wonderful woman who has 4 kids (3 boys ages 13,9,6 and a
> little girl age 7). My problem is that the youngest kids refuse to sleep in
> their own beds at night and always climb in bed with their mother.

> snip

> After we are married I would like there to be just the two of us in
> bed at night and not four.
>
>

I am a little confused. Are you and your future wife not
sleeping together (when the kids are around) until you get
married? If that is the case, then you might not really have to
DO anything. Kids frequently give up when they realize how
little room there is in the bed with two adults. With my
daughter, my husband just carried her into her own room when it
was time for us to go to bed. She still (10 y.o.) likes me to
tuck her in at night, tho.

[jimj...@my-dejanews.com]

In article <6lig83$c...@bgtnsc02.worldnet.att.net>,

We are both L.D.S. and don't believe in sleeping together until we are
married. I am just concerned that after we are married and sleep in the same
bed at night the kids will still want to sleep in their mothers bed. I'm
afraid that because it has been a habit for such a long time now they will
resent me for making them sleep in their own beds again. It sounds like a
good idea to let them fall asleep in their mothers bed and carry them into
the own rooms. Hopefully after waking up their own beds for awhile it will
become a habit to sleep there. Thanks for the help I appreciate it a lot.

[je...@edumaster.net]

You don't say how old your ss is, but I don't really think it matters. Let
him pick out a sleeping bag he really likes and sleep in it by himself. It
avoids any question of "weirdness" and makes him feel like a big boy.

With sleeping bags you really couldn't be too crowded. It's not like they all
have to lay perfectly flat is it?

my 2c
Jeff

> I'm getting a little off topic here, and I appologize to the person with the
> original problem. But has anybody had any experience with this one?
>
> My DH and I are getting ready to take my SS camping in a couple of weeks.
> This year we decided to purchase all our own equipment (we have large
> families, so we used to just borrow from everybody else) and are a little bit
> stuck on the subject of sleeping bags.
>
> We just have a dome tent...one of the ones that's supposed to sleep 4-5 but
> we're lucky to fit in two adults and a child. DH and I were going to
> purchase two sleeping bags and zip them together, to form a double sleeping
> bag for us. Then purchase an extra bag for my SS. However, when I started
> figuring out the measurements, I realized that two regular sized bags, zipped
> together, was wider than our queen-sized bed. Therefore, there was no reason
> at all that we would require a third bag, as my SS could just climb in with
> us. I sort of intended that DH would sleep in the centre so I was not
> against my SS and--being in the mountains--we'd all be sleeping dressed in
> fleece track suits.
>
> Now I can't see my DH's ex having a problem with this, but does anybody else
> think this is approaching wierd? Or has anybody tried something like this
> and had it end up being a problem? 'Cause if we need a third bag, we're
> going to have to get it soon!
>
> lil
>