A question for everybody
ThePuttKing
girl who is just friendly ?
I don't know the answer.
On Thursday this girl came into my shop, she was giving away free food
in a promotion type thing. First thing I noticed was every time I
looked up she was looking at me. She smiled as well.
Interesting !, I thought.
A short while later I was in the warehouse with her. Nobody else was
around. We started chatting and 15 minutes later we were still
talking. She told me about her job, where she lived, all sorts of
stuff. While I was talking I thought "Christ this is going well !" -
And I thought our conversation would end with either her or me asking
for a telephone number. It didn't because someone else came in the
warehouse and it was my time to go home.
Encouraging though, I thought and I knew she was working at my shop on
Friday.
On Friday She was the same; smiles and plenty of chatting but then I
noticed she was the same with everybody else. She seemed like a
chatty, friendly person who talks to anybody. A few staff also told me
they couldn't get away from her because she talked too much. After
that a bloke came in to see her who was obviously her boyfriend.
I'm too old to be upset or bothered but I could have easily mis
understood her friendly behavier for something else.
So what is the difference ?
How can you tell a girl is interested ?
Does anybody know ?
deluxe_and_redux
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> How can you tell a girl is interested ?
>
> Does anybody know ?
She likes you if she asks you how much money you make/have.
Michaela Mackenzie
Did she seem interested in ***you*** at all?
Or was it all *me* *me* *me*?
- Michaela
sun3
one real sign is if she reaches out to touch your arm, eg - but that'd
be rare, and she being rather aggressive
so here's one compromise: suggest some neutral activity together.
You're not leering and saying "let's get together, baby" - so you
can't really be rejected. If she wants to do some activity together,
then there is the opening.
If it turns out that she is just super ffriendly, then she'll still be
a good conduit to other girls
On Sat, 27 Oct 2007 09:55:43 -0700, ThePuttKing <ThePu...@msn.com>
wrote:
ear...@spymac.com
ThePuttKing, a lot of times it is ambiguous because signs of friendly
interest overlap with signs of romantic interest. Sometimes the girl
may not have even resolved which kind it is because it could be some
of both.
When friendliness is part of her job she may not necessarily be into
you specifically; then again it's possible. In these and other
ambiguous situations you will have to engage her further to see where
it goes. That can be fun, though.
This said, sometimes it is pretty clear when a girl likes you. Smiles
are often friendly but if she gazes intently at you while smiling for
some length of time, things are looking good. Or standing with her
body very close to yours and looking into your eyes. Or touching you
on places such as your chest, stomach, or face. If she is
particularly brazen there are a couple other areas that would signal
interest.
Also, if you feel it's worthwhile talking to a girl, it still often is
even if she isn't immediately available, for various reasons.
Nil
> right, you can't know for sure - and risk making a fool of yourself
>
> one real sign is if she reaches out to touch your arm, eg - but that'd
> be rare, and she being rather aggressive
>
> so here's one compromise: suggest some neutral activity together.
> You're not leering and saying "let's get together, baby" - so you
> can't really be rejected. If she wants to do some activity together,
> then there is the opening.
>
> If it turns out that she is just super ffriendly, then she'll still be
> a good conduit to other girls
>
> wrote:
>
> >What is the difference between a girl who is interested in you and a
> >girl who is just friendly ?
They are both the same. First she approach in friendly way. Then after
that
if she knows everything about you she will get interested. As long as
she knows
you have a pretty good pocket.
William P
@z9g2000hsf.googlegroups.com:
Signs she almost certainly is not into you:
1. She's someone who talks a lot with everyone.
2. You're in a situation like a job or being a customer where the social
code is to be extremely friendly by default.
3. You have done nothing exceptional to attract her attention. Sorry, but
unless you're in the top 10% of guys in looks, women never become
interested for no reason, the way men do. When women develop romantic
interest on their own, it's always after observing the guy do something
exceptional.
Any one of those is true, and you know you don't have a magnetic presense
(you know this if you haven't had much female interest in your life) and
I practically guarantee you that it's nothing.
The real signs are unmistakeable, but you have to have seen them to know
this.
ThePuttKing
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Very good answer.
Maybe all she talked about was herself. Women love doing this and if
I appeared half interested, then she would obviously go and talk
forever.
ThePuttKing
> ThePuttKing <ThePuttK...@msn.com> wrote in news:1193504143.787110.106470
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Thanks for that answer. It makes alot of sense. I think she was
category (1), she seemed the type to talk to anybody.
You talk about doing something exceptional. Can you give some examples
of this ?
dan74
>
> You talk about doing something exceptional. Can you give some examples
> of this ?
PK asks a good question - what do you call exceptional?
I see really ordinary guys who are not exceptional at all
getting girls...they simply have a cocky attitude.
So, the cocky attitude is in itself exceptional, by your definition?
deluxe_and_redux
Yes, but it has to be a certain kind of cocky. Any old cocky just won't
do. It has to be a cockiness where you KNOW that you are better than
everyone else [including her].
freckleds...@yahoo.com
wrote:
That will definately work with cocky asshole chycks who think they are
better than everyone else.
Asshole to asshole radar.
deluxe_and_redux
Last time I checked every human being was an asshole! Both men and women.
So, yes, your theory holds true in a round about way.
MrWigglesworth
There are certain signs to look for... prolonged eye contact, being
touchy-feely, asking personal questions or offering personal
information etc, but I've found that individual variations make these
signs pretty useless. In fact, of all the girls I've asked out, I've
probably had more success with the ones who I thought were least into
me, if that makes sense.
As for this girl, the fact that she was doing promotional work is a
pretty clear sign that you're dealing with a person who is very
outgoing and friendly on their default setting. That should
automatically make you pretty skeptical.
Dead Rodent Typing
news:1193614918....@v29g2000prd.googlegroups.com:
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> As for this girl, the fact that she was doing promotional work is a
> pretty clear sign that you're dealing with a person who is very
> outgoing and friendly on their default setting. That should
> automatically make you pretty skeptical.
>
>
Kick her in the stomach. Then if she's still friendly, you've got a shot.
--
"If I have to die...let it be as a blonde."
MrWigglesworth
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> MrWigglesworth <mrwigglesworth2...@hotmail.com> wrote innews:1193614918....@v29g2000prd.googlegroups.com:
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>
>
> > As for this girl, the fact that she was doing promotional work is a
> > pretty clear sign that you're dealing with a person who is very
> > outgoing and friendly on their default setting. That should
> > automatically make you pretty skeptical.
>
> Kick her in the stomach. Then if she's still friendly, you've got a shot.
>
> --
> "If I have to die...let it be as a blonde."
So THAT'S what I've been doing wrong (I usually administer a
roundhouse kick to the skull).
phy
$BD.252@trndny06:
My gf has never asked me that. I think she kind of likes me though.
Some women don't realize they like you until they find out that you like
them.
-phy
phy
news:1193640611....@q5g2000prf.googlegroups.com:
That is what that guy did on the movie Hitch. He was smooth though. Too bad
someone won't write me a script.
-phy
William P
news:1193584438.7...@o3g2000hsb.googlegroups.com:
>> Any one of those is true, and you know you don't have a magnetic
>> presense (you know this if you haven't had much female interest in
>> your life) and I practically guarantee you that it's nothing.
>>
>> The real signs are unmistakeable, but you have to have seen them to
>> know this.- Hide quoted text -
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>
> Thanks for that answer. It makes alot of sense. I think she was
> category (1), she seemed the type to talk to anybody.
>
> You talk about doing something exceptional. Can you give some examples
> of this ?
Many guys can just show they're exceptional with conversation. That is,
they stand out as being more charming or interesting than most of the men
a girl meets. (And for a socially adept girl, she will talk with many
many men.) This, I think, is what all that fast seduction material is all
about, trying to train people into standing out in this type of
interaction.
There are many other ways of being exceptional though. Being a lead role
in a play or musical performance would do it. Other examples would be a
girl seeing a guy play the guitar extremely well, or win a competition of
some kind, or do a job in an active competent way. A philosophy nerd girl
(they're out there) might be interested to see a guy make interesting and
unusual points in a debate.
Contrary to opinion here, there really are a lot of different things
different women are looking for, and it's not always what you'd expect.
But one absolute truth is that women don't get interested in men for no
reason, the way we would. There has to be something exceptional that
separates him from every other man that she meets.
ThePuttKing
Thanks for all of that !
Interesting stuff !
Dead Rodent Typing
news:1193640611....@q5g2000prf.googlegroups.com:
It has to be a spinning-jumping-backwards-roundhouse.
Michaela Mackenzie
> Very good answer.
>
> Maybe all she talked about was herself. Women love doing this and if
> I appeared half interested, then she would obviously go and talk
> forever.
I don't think you and I are quite on the same page
here, but if it works for you, then Hey!
- Michaela
Michaela Mackenzie
blush
> There are many other ways of being exceptional though. Being a lead role
> in a play or musical performance would do it. Other examples would be a
> girl seeing a guy play the guitar extremely well, or win a competition of
> some kind, or do a job in an active competent way. A philosophy nerd girl
> (they're out there) might be interested to see a guy make interesting and
> unusual points in a debate.
True, I wouldn't say you have to be exceptional though. People notice
someone who is good at something and is confident with it and enjoying
it
Definitely get a hobby of some sort but get one that more people are
interested in - it widens the scope of meeting people