Google Groups no longer supports new Usenet posts or subscriptions. Historical content remains viewable.
Dismiss
nervous about moving forward
1 view
Skip to first unread message
EMS
Mar 30, 2012, 11:55:20 AM3/30/12
to
I had my 6month staffing a couple weeks ago, and I am all set to move
out on september first. I have a friend who is going to be my
roommate when I do move out. This is great and scary all at the same
time. I have met all my goals at day program, and logically should
graduate the program, however, because I am moving so soon, they don't
want to take that support away from me. So, I need to come up with new
goals. I am also way overdue for a yearly evaluation in therapy. I
haven't had one since I started about three years ago. This is a
longer appointment, about the lenght of an intake appointment where
you talk about your goals and where you have been, where you are going
and even if it is appropriate to continue therapy. I'm so afraid my
therapist will say I am doing so well I don't need therapy. I think
it would be bad to stop it when I am going to move out, but I've
gotten so much better I am not sure how we can justify keeping me in
it. Sigh. I hate this. I get well, so then I get all my supports
taken away, and then I'm likely to get sick again. When I move out I
will have staff that comes to my house to help me out, daily at first
and then we'll gradually cut back as my needs change, so that is
good. I know my goal is to eventually need less services, but to lose
them all at once is not a good thing, and it makes me very nervous!!!
Emily
out on september first. I have a friend who is going to be my
roommate when I do move out. This is great and scary all at the same
time. I have met all my goals at day program, and logically should
graduate the program, however, because I am moving so soon, they don't
want to take that support away from me. So, I need to come up with new
goals. I am also way overdue for a yearly evaluation in therapy. I
haven't had one since I started about three years ago. This is a
longer appointment, about the lenght of an intake appointment where
you talk about your goals and where you have been, where you are going
and even if it is appropriate to continue therapy. I'm so afraid my
therapist will say I am doing so well I don't need therapy. I think
it would be bad to stop it when I am going to move out, but I've
gotten so much better I am not sure how we can justify keeping me in
it. Sigh. I hate this. I get well, so then I get all my supports
taken away, and then I'm likely to get sick again. When I move out I
will have staff that comes to my house to help me out, daily at first
and then we'll gradually cut back as my needs change, so that is
good. I know my goal is to eventually need less services, but to lose
them all at once is not a good thing, and it makes me very nervous!!!
Emily
lisa in mass.
Apr 2, 2012, 9:19:10 PM4/2/12
to
EMS <esope...@gmail.com> wrote in
news:58ce2321-0093-4a1a...@l30g2000yqb.googlegrou
ps.com:
Wow. This is a big step. At least you have 5 months to prepare
for it. It doesn't sound like they're dropping you all at once,
but I can see why you're nervous. You should talk to your
therapist about this. If you're so worried about stopping
therapy, you probably shouldn't right now. It doesn't seem right
to end therapy when you're going to need extra support. Maybe
you'll just shift your goals to be more self-sufficient, with
continued supports as needed. Stopping long-term therapy's a big
deal. I doubt they'd have you drop it all at once with you
feeling so uncomfortable about it.
BTW, sorry I didn't respond sooner. The past week's worth of
Google posts just showed up on my server tonight.
news:58ce2321-0093-4a1a...@l30g2000yqb.googlegrou
ps.com:
for it. It doesn't sound like they're dropping you all at once,
but I can see why you're nervous. You should talk to your
therapist about this. If you're so worried about stopping
therapy, you probably shouldn't right now. It doesn't seem right
to end therapy when you're going to need extra support. Maybe
you'll just shift your goals to be more self-sufficient, with
continued supports as needed. Stopping long-term therapy's a big
deal. I doubt they'd have you drop it all at once with you
feeling so uncomfortable about it.
BTW, sorry I didn't respond sooner. The past week's worth of
Google posts just showed up on my server tonight.
EMS
Apr 6, 2012, 5:52:58 PM4/6/12
to
On Apr 2, 8:19 pm, "lisa in mass." <l...@operations.com> wrote:
> EMS <esoper1...@gmail.com> wrote innews:58ce2321-0093-4a1a...@l30g2000yqb.googlegrou
Thanks for the reply. For some reason, Google didn't tell me there
was a reply. I'm pretty sure we won't drop therapy, with such a big
step coming up, but If I weren't moving out, I think it might be a
possibility. We may cut back to once a month instead of every two
weeks for a while, and then meet more often again after I move out. I
dunno. It's just so frustrating that when I am doing well it is in
all areas, so I am at risk of losing all my supports at once. I will
probably be receiving services from where I live now though the whole
time I am living in my town. Eventually I'll move back to where my
parents live, and then I'll stop receiving services from them, but not
until then. I probably will have minimal services before I move back
'home', like my SCL worker will probably come no more than a half hour
a week at that point, but She will still come. At first though I will
have lots of services. As much as two or more hours a day from an SCL
worker, I'll still have day program, and I'll be working in the
sheltered workshop. (which is actually run by another company that
provides similar services). I toured there today and it seems like an
o.k. place to work for a while. They would be good about cutting my
hours if I was making too much money such that I might be at risk of
losing benefits. (I get a largeish SSDI check in comparison to other
persons and if I make too much I lose certain funding sources that pay
for SCL and day program...)
I hope you are doing well, and that you are having a little luck in
finding employment. I hope your Easter is a good one. How is your
son doing in College?
Emily
> EMS <esoper1...@gmail.com> wrote innews:58ce2321-0093-4a1a...@l30g2000yqb.googlegrou
was a reply. I'm pretty sure we won't drop therapy, with such a big
step coming up, but If I weren't moving out, I think it might be a
possibility. We may cut back to once a month instead of every two
weeks for a while, and then meet more often again after I move out. I
dunno. It's just so frustrating that when I am doing well it is in
all areas, so I am at risk of losing all my supports at once. I will
probably be receiving services from where I live now though the whole
time I am living in my town. Eventually I'll move back to where my
parents live, and then I'll stop receiving services from them, but not
until then. I probably will have minimal services before I move back
'home', like my SCL worker will probably come no more than a half hour
a week at that point, but She will still come. At first though I will
have lots of services. As much as two or more hours a day from an SCL
worker, I'll still have day program, and I'll be working in the
sheltered workshop. (which is actually run by another company that
provides similar services). I toured there today and it seems like an
o.k. place to work for a while. They would be good about cutting my
hours if I was making too much money such that I might be at risk of
losing benefits. (I get a largeish SSDI check in comparison to other
persons and if I make too much I lose certain funding sources that pay
for SCL and day program...)
I hope you are doing well, and that you are having a little luck in
finding employment. I hope your Easter is a good one. How is your
son doing in College?
Emily
lisa in mass.
Apr 6, 2012, 9:42:30 PM4/6/12
to
EMS <esope...@gmail.com> wrote in
news:49a14492-1d8f-48c4...@z5g2000yqj.googlegroup
s.com:
> On Apr 2, 8:19 pm, "lisa in mass." <l...@operations.com>
> wrote:
>> EMS <esoper1...@gmail.com> wrote
>> innews:58ce2321-0093-4a1a-94cd-dfaedf5d5
> 8...@l30g2000yqb.googlegrou
Things sound really good, Emily. You're lucky to have all the
services you do.
I'm getting nowhere so far in my job search. I keep applying,
though. If I go to the university and put in for a couple of
jobs each week, I'm hoping I'll eventually get an interview.
My son's doing ok in college. He screwed up one class this
semester, but he'd overenrolled this semester, so he can drop
that class without losing his full-time status. Now he just
needs to figure out the balance between coursework and his
newly-found social life.
Happy Easter to you and yours!
-lisa
news:49a14492-1d8f-48c4...@z5g2000yqj.googlegroup
s.com:
> On Apr 2, 8:19 pm, "lisa in mass." <l...@operations.com>
> wrote:
>> EMS <esoper1...@gmail.com> wrote
> 8...@l30g2000yqb.googlegrou
services you do.
I'm getting nowhere so far in my job search. I keep applying,
though. If I go to the university and put in for a couple of
jobs each week, I'm hoping I'll eventually get an interview.
My son's doing ok in college. He screwed up one class this
semester, but he'd overenrolled this semester, so he can drop
that class without losing his full-time status. Now he just
needs to figure out the balance between coursework and his
newly-found social life.
Happy Easter to you and yours!
-lisa
EMS
Apr 9, 2012, 12:37:47 PM4/9/12
to
On Apr 6, 8:42 pm, "lisa in mass." <l...@operations.com> wrote:
> EMS <esoper1...@gmail.com> wrote innews:49a14492-1d8f-48c4...@z5g2000yqj.googlegroup
I'm very glad I have the services I do. I'm also grateful for the
friends and family I have. It took a while though for me to get my
services. Well, at least to get them paid for by my county. My
parents helped pay for them until I got off the waiting list.
I hope your Easter was nice. I'm glad your son is able to drop the
course he's not doing so well in, and can still have a full load. The
first college I went to, you were not allowed to take an overload of
courses your freshman year unless you had special permission from the
Dean of Students. Very few students got permission. It was a college
full of students who were used to overloading academics in high school
and many did not understand why they couldn't do it in college as
well, (myself included, I asked to overload and was told no), but we
all saw why it was wise not to our freshman years. College was so
different. Even though many of us took college courses in high
school, thecourses at this school were so much harder than we had ever
seen, and we had many new social activities than we were ever exposed
to before. It took a lot of learning on our parts to figure out how
to balance it all. I'm sure your son will figure it all out, but it
does take a couple of semesters. I'm glad he is doing well though.
I hope something comes through for you on the job front soon. I know
you need the money, even if you'd rather not have the stress of a
job. Hopefully just the right fit will come by soon.
Emily
> EMS <esoper1...@gmail.com> wrote innews:49a14492-1d8f-48c4...@z5g2000yqj.googlegroup
friends and family I have. It took a while though for me to get my
services. Well, at least to get them paid for by my county. My
parents helped pay for them until I got off the waiting list.
I hope your Easter was nice. I'm glad your son is able to drop the
course he's not doing so well in, and can still have a full load. The
first college I went to, you were not allowed to take an overload of
courses your freshman year unless you had special permission from the
Dean of Students. Very few students got permission. It was a college
full of students who were used to overloading academics in high school
and many did not understand why they couldn't do it in college as
well, (myself included, I asked to overload and was told no), but we
all saw why it was wise not to our freshman years. College was so
different. Even though many of us took college courses in high
school, thecourses at this school were so much harder than we had ever
seen, and we had many new social activities than we were ever exposed
to before. It took a lot of learning on our parts to figure out how
to balance it all. I'm sure your son will figure it all out, but it
does take a couple of semesters. I'm glad he is doing well though.
I hope something comes through for you on the job front soon. I know
you need the money, even if you'd rather not have the stress of a
job. Hopefully just the right fit will come by soon.
Emily
0 new messages