> told her she needs to live with the choices she made.  it's too hard to
> do laundry at her tpeutic foster home (not least because they charge
> her $1 a load).  she can't do laundry all the time.  it's too hot to
> wear a sweater over her shirts.  she *needs* clothes because she lost
> weight.  suggested she wear to school some of her tshirts that are big
> on her right now and change into her new clothes after school. that was
> like suggesting she strip naked and stroll downtown.

> she talked with her tpist about this and her tpist understands and
> knows she needs clothes.  told her could talk to her tpist to clarify
> the reality of what has gone on.  wails that we always do this, talk to
> her counselors and ruin things.  told her that if she's going to talk
> to her tpist and then use what her tpist says in conversations then
> will tell her therapist our position so her tpist can counsel regarding
> reality (maybe too strong, but was 40 minutes into being berated).

> wants an accounting of how we are spending *her* money.  it's only fair
> because it's her money from her dead parent.  no, it's the state's
> money and we don't owe her an accounting.

> we're treating her like she hasn't changed.  we always do this.

> round and round and round, cycling through the same stuff.  tried to
> get off phone for 10 minutes.  she wouldn't let.  finally had to tell
> her was bedtime and time to hang up and then do so.  phone rang again.
> unplugged all the phones.  cell phone range.  turned off cell phones.

> feel like under siege.

> -- astri

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