I'm not sure I remember how to be here anymore.

[Shi]

I feel so awkward replying to anyone or posting anything. Like I'm intruding.

That's maybe some of why I went away. I get like that a lot. It's why I can't do much on livejournal and such things - commenting feels like intruding.

I'm going to truncate my display name, so it's not so googlable. I think I had people stalking reading my usenet before. Someone claiming to be from usenet tried to get information from my brother. Doesn't make sense, if you're from usenet you have my email address and you don't need to send anonymous tumblr messages to my brother who you tracked down somehow stalky. Weirdness. Lots of creepy people, it seems. Someone made a fake OKCupid profile of me and gave my address to someone and they turned up at my house. M*m called the p*l*ce. Scary. But I've moved now so different address.

It's really nice not living with my m*th*r anymore. Too long.

I can use the word ab*se now! You all remember my problems there? :P F*th*r calls m*th*r ab*s*ve, and I guess that kind of gave me permission.

Because she is.

My partner says some things my f*th*r does are ab*s*ve too. They're probably right. They know about lots of things.

I can't remember what was going on with me when I was last here.

My p*r*nts got d*vorced.

Broke up with then-fiance of four years. Sie was ab*s*ve too. S*xually and other things. Gaslighting. Not good. Friends helped me realize it so I could get out. Got plans working to move to live with some friends.

I don't know what else to say. Ask me questions maybe? I don't know.

[Shi]

On Saturday, May 11, 2013 1:13:06 PM UTC-7, a...@a.a wrote:
> shi wrote this a while ago...

>
>
>
>
>
> > I can't remember what was going on with me when I was last here.
>
> >
>
> > My p*r*nts got d*vorced.
>
> >
>
> > Broke up with then-fiance of four years. Sie was ab*s*ve too. S*xually and
>
> > other things. Gaslighting. Not good. Friends helped me realize it so I
>
> > could get out. Got plans working to move to live with some friends.
>
> >
>
> > I don't know what else to say. Ask me questions maybe? I don't know.
>
>
>

> hey again...
>
>
>
> what is gaslighting again ?
>
>
>
> wouldn't wanna get fooled again ?

getting told that something you know is true isn't, so you doubt your own memories/perceptions. and my memory isn't very good, so it's easy to make me doubt it. it's not fun.

[asdp...@gmail.com]

Hi Shi,

I'm a person who used to post here when you were here. You'll probably recognize my style, but please don't use my name in replies to me. :) (Privacy stuff.)

It sounds like lots has happened since you were last on asd!

I'm sorry to hear that your fiance turned out to be ab*sive, but very glad to hear that you had help and support to get out of that relationship.

I do remember your struggles with using the word ab*se to characterize your family. Good for you; it sounds like lots of growth has happened!


Hmm....questions, huh?

So what's it like living where you're living now?

Do you have any pets?

[Shi]

On Sunday, May 12, 2013 2:53:02 PM UTC-7, asdp...@gmail.com wrote:
> Hi Shi,
>
>
>
> I'm a person who used to post here when you were here. You'll probably recognize my style, but please don't use my name in replies to me. :) (Privacy stuff.)
>
>
>
> It sounds like lots has happened since you were last on asd!

It's been quite a while! Lots has happened. And I've made a bunch of new friends that are in plural systems, which is nice. It's still a little weird, though, because there are a bunch of fictives, and that's still kinda... new. It's different. Other multiplicity communities are really different, and it's still weird to me because here was my first exposure to other systems.

We're different, too. Part of why I went away was I was (I thought) involuntarily singlet for a couple years. (It turns out the bad mad locked the others away from me to hurt me.) Finally rescued them with help from friends recently. Echo decided to go back to sleep, because the bad man got killed so her main purpose wasn't needed anymore. Rys got sent off into a parallel dimension because she wouldn't stop hurting me and Kyan. Summer's doing okay. She actually has other kids to play with now - Sergei and Katya are twins. They're new. Kyan's new. Irina is the other new one. Lots of upheaval. And headspace is different now too.

>
>
>
> I'm sorry to hear that your fiance turned out to be ab*sive, but very glad to hear that you had help and support to get out of that relationship.

Me too :) Thank you.

>
>
>
> I do remember your struggles with using the word ab*se to characterize your family. Good for you; it sounds like lots of growth has happened!

Lots of help from the same people who helped me realize J was shitty! Also my f*th*r calls my m*th*r ab*s*ve so I couldn't really deny that one anymore.

>
>
>
>
>
> Hmm....questions, huh?
>
>
>
> So what's it like living where you're living now?

I'm living with my father right now, but I should hopefully be moving out at the end of the month. Living with my father is... slightly less awful than living with my mother, but I hate his girlfriend and his housemate and they talk about obnoxious pseudoscience all the time and don't believe in microwaves and well me to just exercise and eat better and I won't be d*pr*ssed, like it's that easy. I finally got m*ds though, they're helping a lot, but I'm still in such a stressful situation that there's only so much it can do.

>
>
>
> Do you have any pets?

I still have two cats! It's going to be... interesting driving them across the country when I move.

[asdp...@gmail.com]

On Sunday, May 12, 2013 11:24:12 PM UTC-7, Shi wrote:
> On Sunday, May 12, 2013 2:53:02 PM UTC-7, asdp...@gmail.com wrote:
>
> > Hi Shi,
>
> >
>
> >
>
> >
>
> > I'm a person who used to post here when you were here. You'll probably recognize my style, but please don't use my name in replies to me. :) (Privacy stuff.)
>
> >
>
> >
>
> >
>
> > It sounds like lots has happened since you were last on asd!
>
>
>
> It's been quite a while! Lots has happened. And I've made a bunch of new friends that are in plural systems, which is nice. It's still a little weird, though, because there are a bunch of fictives, and that's still kinda... new. It's different. Other multiplicity communities are really different, and it's still weird to me because here was my first exposure to other systems.
>

How are they different? And, er, what is a fictive?

It's nice to have friends who understand. It sounds like you found some other forums?

I wonder how many of the old asders did find other places to hang out while asd was much less active. I know I did some searching out of other support forums.

asd has a distinct culture to it, and I'll probably never totally feel in other places like I feel here.

>
>
> We're different, too. Part of why I went away was I was (I thought) involuntarily singlet for a couple years. (It turns out the bad mad locked the others away from me to hurt me.) Finally rescued them with help from friends recently. Echo decided to go back to sleep, because the bad man got killed so her main purpose wasn't needed anymore. Rys got sent off into a parallel dimension because she wouldn't stop hurting me and Kyan. Summer's doing okay. She actually has other kids to play with now - Sergei and Katya are twins. They're new. Kyan's new. Irina is the other new one. Lots of upheaval. And headspace is different now too.
>

Wow, a lot has changed! I'm so sorry to hear that the badman locked you guys away, but so glad that many of you have been able to come back. And new ones too! I can't imagine what it's like to be you right now, meeting new facets of yourself, getting reacquainted with ones that you knew before.

Hi Summer! :)

and hi everyone else.

>
>
> >
>
> >
>
> >
>
> > I'm sorry to hear that your fiance turned out to be ab*sive, but very glad to hear that you had help and support to get out of that relationship.
>
>
>
>
>
> Me too :) Thank you.
>
> >
>
> >
>
> >
>
> > I do remember your struggles with using the word ab*se to characterize your family. Good for you; it sounds like lots of growth has happened!
>
>
>
>
>
> Lots of help from the same people who helped me realize J was shitty! Also my f*th*r calls my m*th*r ab*s*ve so I couldn't really deny that one anymore.
>
> >
>
> >
>
> >
>
> >
>
> >
>
> > Hmm....questions, huh?
>
> >
>
> >
>
> >
>
> > So what's it like living where you're living now?
>
>
>
> I'm living with my father right now, but I should hopefully be moving out at the end of the month. Living with my father is... slightly less awful than living with my mother, but I hate his girlfriend and his housemate and they talk about obnoxious pseudoscience all the time and don't believe in microwaves and well me to just exercise and eat better and I won't be d*pr*ssed, like it's that easy. I finally got m*ds though, they're helping a lot, but I'm still in such a stressful situation that there's only so much it can do.
>

Yeah. Sounds like they have an interesting belief system. Glad you'll be moving out at the end of the month, and that you have friends and your insiders to help keep you sane in the midst of your father's gf's, um....."useful suggestions."

> >
>
> >
>
> >
>
> > Do you have any pets?
>
>
>
> I still have two cats! It's going to be... interesting driving them across the country when I move.

Yeah! Do they hate cat carriers?

[Shi]

On Tuesday, May 14, 2013 1:13:59 PM UTC-7, asdp...@gmail.com wrote:
> On Sunday, May 12, 2013 11:24:12 PM UTC-7, Shi wrote:
>
> > On Sunday, May 12, 2013 2:53:02 PM UTC-7, asdp...@gmail.com wrote:
>
> >
>
> > > Hi Shi,
>
> > > I'm a person who used to post here when you were here. You'll probably recognize my style, but please don't use my name in replies to me. :) (Privacy stuff.)
>
> > > It sounds like lots has happened since you were last on asd!
>
> > It's been quite a while! Lots has happened. And I've made a bunch of new friends that are in plural systems, which is nice. It's still a little weird, though, because there are a bunch of fictives, and that's still kinda... new. It's different. Other multiplicity communities are really different, and it's still weird to me because here was my first exposure to other systems.
>
> How are they different? And, er, what is a fictive?

Here is all trauma systems, and other communities have more 'natural' multiplicity, and, well, fictives everywhere. Fictives are alters from fictional universes - like, I'm friends with a Beetlejuice, and a Tony Stark. I only know one system in those other communities that *doesn't* have fictives, and they have people that live in other universes. It's all really different. We're the only system I'm friends with now where nobody's from outside our skull. It makes it a little hard for Kyan - she doesn't feel real in comparison.

> It's nice to have friends who understand. It sounds like you found some other forums?

Tumblr, mostly. I'm very bad at forums. I just kind of lucked into friendship with an existing group of systems.

> I wonder how many of the old asders did find other places to hang out while asd was much less active. I know I did some searching out of other support forums.
>
>
>
> asd has a distinct culture to it, and I'll probably never totally feel in other places like I feel here.
>
> > We're different, too. Part of why I went away was I was (I thought) involuntarily singlet for a couple years. (It turns out the bad mad locked the others away from me to hurt me.) Finally rescued them with help from friends recently. Echo decided to go back to sleep, because the bad man got killed so her main purpose wasn't needed anymore. Rys got sent off into a parallel dimension because she wouldn't stop hurting me and Kyan. Summer's doing okay. She actually has other kids to play with now - Sergei and Katya are twins. They're new. Kyan's new. Irina is the other new one. Lots of upheaval. And headspace is different now too.
>
>
> Wow, a lot has changed! I'm so sorry to hear that the badman locked you guys away, but so glad that many of you have been able to come back. And new ones too! I can't imagine what it's like to be you right now, meeting new facets of yourself, getting reacquainted with ones that you knew before.

It's a little overwhelming dealing with all the kids - Sergei especially is really terrified all the time because he was stuck with the bad man for so long. It's hard trying to get him to let himself just be a kid - he's so scared all of the time. But my good good friend/adopting dad John (in one of my dearest friendsystems) is amazing with the kids. I'm not sure how I'd be dealing with a seven year old and two ten year olds without his help.
>
>
>
> Hi Summer! :)

}Hi. Everything's weird here now.{
>
>
>
> and hi everyone else.
>
>

General greetings from all.

>
> > > I'm sorry to hear that your fiance turned out to be ab*sive, but very glad to hear that you had help and support to get out of that relationship.
>
>
> > Me too :) Thank you.
>
>
> > > I do remember your struggles with using the word ab*se to characterize your family. Good for you; it sounds like lots of growth has happened!
>
>
> > Lots of help from the same people who helped me realize J was shitty! Also my f*th*r calls my m*th*r ab*s*ve so I couldn't really deny that one anymore.
>
>
> > > Hmm....questions, huh?
>
>
> > > So what's it like living where you're living now?
>
>

> > I'm living with my f*ther right now, but I should hopefully be moving out at the end of the month. Living with my f*ther is... slightly less awful than living with my m*ther, but I hate his girlfriend and his housemate and they talk about obnoxious pseudoscience all the time and don't believe in microwaves and well me to just exercise and eat better and I won't be d*pr*ssed, like it's that easy. I finally got m*ds though, they're helping a lot, but I'm still in such a stressful situation that there's only so much it can do.

>
>
> Yeah. Sounds like they have an interesting belief system. Glad you'll be moving out at the end of the month, and that you have friends and your insiders to help keep you sane in the midst of your father's gf's, um....."useful suggestions."
>

I'm so glad I'm not alone anymore, it was really unpleasant and I wasn't functioning well at all.

>
> > > Do you have any pets?
>
>
> > I still have two cats! It's going to be... interesting driving them across the country when I move.
>
>
>
> Yeah! Do they hate cat carriers?

I have one of the carriers sitting in my room with the door off, and Tabby's been hanging out in it, so I'm hopeful that they won't mind too much!

[astri]

On Tue, 14 May 2013, asdp...@gmail.com wrote:

> I wonder how many of the old asders did find other places to hang out
> while asd was much less active. I know I did some searching out of
> other support forums.
>
> asd has a distinct culture to it, and I'll probably never totally
> feel in other places like I feel here.

think most long-timers here would react like that

[astri]

On Tue, 14 May 2013, Shi wrote:
> On Tuesday, May 14, 2013 1:13:59 PM UTC-7, asdp...@gmail.com wrote:
>
>> How are they different? And, er, what is a fictive?
>
>> Here is all trauma systems, and other communities have more
>> 'natural' multiplicity, and, well, fictives everywhere. Fictives
>> are alters from fictional universes - like, I'm friends with a
>> Beetlejuice, and a Tony Stark. I only know one system in those
>> other communities that *doesn't* have fictives, and they have people
>> that live in other universes.

sorry

can't help but be skeptical about whether they are real...

:/

[Shi]

*shrugs*

the people clearly exist, I'm willing to take that they're who they say they are on politeness if nothing else. it's not like I have any room to talk on strange things. why shouldn't there be people with doors to other universes in their heads? it's as plausible as anything else :P

[asdp...@gmail.com]

On Tuesday, May 14, 2013 4:20:45 PM UTC-7, Shi wrote:
> On Tuesday, May 14, 2013 1:13:59 PM UTC-7, asdp...@gmail.com wrote:
>
> > On Sunday, May 12, 2013 11:24:12 PM UTC-7, Shi wrote:
>
> >
>
> > > On Sunday, May 12, 2013 2:53:02 PM UTC-7, asdp...@gmail.com wrote:
>
> >
>
> > >
>
> >
>
> > > > Hi Shi,
>
> >
>
> > > > I'm a person who used to post here when you were here. You'll probably recognize my style, but please don't use my name in replies to me. :) (Privacy stuff.)
>
> >
>
> > > > It sounds like lots has happened since you were last on asd!
>
> >
>
> > > It's been quite a while! Lots has happened. And I've made a bunch of new friends that are in plural systems, which is nice. It's still a little weird, though, because there are a bunch of fictives, and that's still kinda... new. It's different. Other multiplicity communities are really different, and it's still weird to me because here was my first exposure to other systems.
>
> >
>
> > How are they different? And, er, what is a fictive?
>
>
>
>
>
> Here is all trauma systems, and other communities have more 'natural' multiplicity, and, well, fictives everywhere. Fictives are alters from fictional universes - like, I'm friends with a Beetlejuice, and a Tony Stark. I only know one system in those other communities that *doesn't* have fictives, and they have people that live in other universes. It's all really different. We're the only system I'm friends with now where nobody's from outside our skull. It makes it a little hard for Kyan - she doesn't feel real in comparison.
>

Ah. So asd may be a good place for Kyan to feel better understood?

> > It's nice to have friends who understand. It sounds like you found some other forums?
>
>
>
>
>
> Tumblr, mostly. I'm very bad at forums. I just kind of lucked into friendship with an existing group of systems.
>

Probably not totally luck -- takes some effort to build new friendships, usually. Congrats.

>
>
> > I wonder how many of the old asders did find other places to hang out while asd was much less active. I know I did some searching out of other support forums.
>
> >
>
> >
>
> >
>
> > asd has a distinct culture to it, and I'll probably never totally feel in other places like I feel here.
>
> >
>
> > > We're different, too. Part of why I went away was I was (I thought) involuntarily singlet for a couple years. (It turns out the bad mad locked the others away from me to hurt me.) Finally rescued them with help from friends recently. Echo decided to go back to sleep, because the bad man got killed so her main purpose wasn't needed anymore. Rys got sent off into a parallel dimension because she wouldn't stop hurting me and Kyan. Summer's doing okay. She actually has other kids to play with now - Sergei and Katya are twins. They're new. Kyan's new. Irina is the other new one. Lots of upheaval. And headspace is different now too.
>

I wonder if you know what needs some of the newer insiders may have developed around?

Hope Rys can, at some point, be rescued if she isn't happy having been sent off. Or maybe there's some part of her in some of the newer parts? I don't know how this all works for you, so my questions may not all be on point.

But I think it's cool how insiders can evolve according to needs in the inner world and the environment. It's something that makes multiplicity a potentially adaptive and adaptable way of being.

> >
>
> >
>
> > Wow, a lot has changed! I'm so sorry to hear that the badman locked you guys away, but so glad that many of you have been able to come back. And new ones too! I can't imagine what it's like to be you right now, meeting new facets of yourself, getting reacquainted with ones that you knew before.
>
>
>
> It's a little overwhelming dealing with all the kids - Sergei especially is really terrified all the time because he was stuck with the bad man for so long. It's hard trying to get him to let himself just be a kid - he's so scared all of the time. But my good good friend/adopting dad John (in one of my dearest friendsystems) is amazing with the kids. I'm not sure how I'd be dealing with a seven year old and two ten year olds without his help.
>

Hopefully Sergei has lots of ways that he can be aware that now is now, and that he's no longer with the bad man.

> >
>
> >
>
> >
>
> > Hi Summer! :)
>
>
>
> }Hi. Everything's weird here now.{
>

Yeah, lots seems to have changed.

> >
>
> >
>
> >
>
> > and hi everyone else.
>
> >
>
> >
>
>
>
> General greetings from all.
>

:)

> >
>
> > > > I'm sorry to hear that your fiance turned out to be ab*sive, but very glad to hear that you had help and support to get out of that relationship.
>
> >
>
> >
>
> > > Me too :) Thank you.
>
> >
>
> >
>
> > > > I do remember your struggles with using the word ab*se to characterize your family. Good for you; it sounds like lots of growth has happened!
>
> >
>
> >
>
> > > Lots of help from the same people who helped me realize J was shitty! Also my f*th*r calls my m*th*r ab*s*ve so I couldn't really deny that one anymore.
>
> >
>
> >
>
> > > > Hmm....questions, huh?
>
> >
>
> >
>
> > > > So what's it like living where you're living now?
>
> >
>
> >
>
> > > I'm living with my f*ther right now, but I should hopefully be moving out at the end of the month. Living with my f*ther is... slightly less awful than living with my m*ther, but I hate his girlfriend and his housemate and they talk about obnoxious pseudoscience all the time and don't believe in microwaves and well me to just exercise and eat better and I won't be d*pr*ssed, like it's that easy. I finally got m*ds though, they're helping a lot, but I'm still in such a stressful situation that there's only so much it can do.
>
> >
>
> >
>
> > Yeah. Sounds like they have an interesting belief system. Glad you'll be moving out at the end of the month, and that you have friends and your insiders to help keep you sane in the midst of your father's gf's, um....."useful suggestions."
>
> >
>
>
>
> I'm so glad I'm not alone anymore, it was really unpleasant and I wasn't functioning well at all.
>
> >
>
> > > > Do you have any pets?
>
> >
>
> >
>
> > > I still have two cats! It's going to be... interesting driving them across the country when I move.
>
> >
>
> >
>
> >
>
> > Yeah! Do they hate cat carriers?
>
>
>
> I have one of the carriers sitting in my room with the door off, and Tabby's been hanging out in it, so I'm hopeful that they won't mind too much!

I'm with aa on this one.

[asdp...@gmail.com]

yes. i think that's why people keep showing back up here.

[jill]

In article <-NudnSq7RZlyag7M...@bt.com>, <a@a.a> wrote:
>no idea was talking...
>
>
>cat traps...

>
>
>
>> > > I still have two cats! It's going to be... interesting driving them
>> > > across the country when I move.
>> >
>> >
>> >
>> > Yeah! Do they hate cat carriers?
>>
>> I have one of the carriers sitting in my room with the door off, and
>> Tabby's been hanging out in it, so I'm hopeful that they won't mind too
>> much!
>

>brilliant idea ! ! : )))
>
>
>if you leave htem around
>they will become like a treat
>like having a kennel )
>
>have fun zz

My shelter dog has decided her crate is 'her' spot. She puts herself
in it when she is ready to sleep :)

Rainbow Colors (Jill)
--
++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++
The colors blend, the edges soften. Swirling and mixing
we are becoming white light.
ji...@tuells.org

[astri]

think so

[confuzzled]

On Sunday, May 12, 2013 11:24:12 PM UTC-7, Shi wrote:

yay cats :)

wow you had lots of stuff going on

[Shi]

yeah. lots of big changes. less than a week until I move. still don't have a house on the other end yet. hopefully will get one in time and won't have to sleep on friend's couch for a while. the cats wouldn't like that.

[jill]

In article <1aee17df-0932-4557...@googlegroups.com>,

Shi <shi...@gmail.com> wrote:
>On Saturday, May 25, 2013 10:00:58 AM UTC-7, confuzzled wrote:
>> On Sunday, May 12, 2013 11:24:12 PM UTC-7, Shi wrote:

>>=20

>> > On Sunday, May 12, 2013 2:53:02 PM UTC-7, asdp...@gmail.com wrote:

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>> > Me too :) Thank you.

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>> > > I do remember your struggles with using the word ab*se to characteriz=
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>> > Lots of help from the same people who helped me realize J was shitty! A=
>lso my f*th*r calls my m*th*r ab*s*ve so I couldn't really deny that one an=
>ymore.
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>> > > Hmm....questions, huh?
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>> > I'm living with my father right now, but I should hopefully be moving o=
>ut at the end of the month. Living with my father is... slightly less awful=
> than living with my mother, but I hate his girlfriend and his housemate an=
>d they talk about obnoxious pseudoscience all the time and don't believe in=
> microwaves and well me to just exercise and eat better and I won't be d*pr=
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> can do.
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>> > > Do you have any pets?

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>> > I still have two cats! It's going to be... interesting driving them acr=

>oss the country when I move.

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>> yay cats :)
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>> wow you had lots of stuff going on
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>yeah. lots of big changes. less than a week until I move. still don't have =
>a house on the other end yet. hopefully will get one in time and won't have=

> to sleep on friend's couch for a while. the cats wouldn't like that.

It's amazing how many people do this now. In the 80s and 90s I don't
think I ever knew anyone who slept on someone's couch and now I know
lots of people who do this. Very odd how things change in a society. I
knew lots of people who could have slept on a couch but didn't (I
guess they stayed in a motel?) or maybe fewer people made a move
without having a place to move to set up? I dunno, it seems like more
people are moving away before setting up the moving to now. I wonder
why that is? Or maybe more people had two bedrooms in the past and so
people just became temporarily roommates and helped with the rent and
now there are fewer people with two bedrooms... hmm...

[confuzzled]

that would stress us out