Another damned if I do, damned if I don't

[Zed]

There's this out of state mega Christmas family get-together this
weekend. And I'm really being encouraged <armtwisted> to attend. This
is a segment of family I'm very comfortable being around. But, I've
got my new job coming up next week. It's going to be a 4 day weekend
I'd rather spend working on my bike and other projects. I hate the
drive. My car is acting up. I really, really want to just get caught
up on sleep and decompress. But I'll feel like a major heel if I don't
go, so decompression isn't going to happen if I stay home. Why is it
I'm totally alone with no familial obligations whatsoever, except for
when I need to be alone the most? Oh well, I'm sure be fun in the long
run.

[Cris Galletly]

In article <7a39d4b3-8e34-42d2...@v30g2000yqm.googlegroups.com>,

Whatever you do your resources are going to be depleted, by the sound of it.
I know that feeling all too well. I usually go along with going to the
social occasion (which actually perks me up a bit in the short term, and
*can* perk me up in the long term, but it's not a given). The guilt at not
going, and the feeling that not only am I letting everyone down but I'm also
somehow missing out (how stupid is that!?), are often worse.

But sometimes, just staying home alone is necessary. Even if all I'm doing
is catching up on tasks I should have done months/years ago.

Or just sleeping, and reading.

When things that should be pleasant become obligations, it's time to take a
step back. (I'm not talking just to you here, this is a message I majorly
need to get.)
--
+ Cris Galletly <gall...@chiark.greenend.org.uk> +

[Zed]

On Dec 3, 1:16 pm, Cris Galletly <galle...@chiark.greenend.org.uk>
wrote:
> In article <7a39d4b3-8e34-42d2-a0a5-de602f81d...@v30g2000yqm.googlegroups.com>,

Towards the end I was really starting to get annoyed. But now that I'm
here I'm enjoying myself. They are a very laid back bunch. I'm very
comfortable and it is nice be away from it for a couple of days.