Christmas
Stephen Wilson
The place I work at had its Christmas party tonight. I thought for a change
I'd give it a go. I arrived at the venue and saw a woman from the office. I
wandered over and said hello. She said hello back. At which point the
conversation ended. I tried asking her a couple of questions and got some
monosyllabic answers. Eventually, someone else from the office arrived. At
which point she suddenly couldn't stop talking. Only she wasn't talking to
me. Ho hum. So then we were seated for the meal. And conversations flowed
around me, over me, through me. So I ate the meal and went home.
Don't think I'll try it again...
Dolphinius
Do you ever watch Doctor Who? I recall in one episode the Doctor
provided himself and his companions with a "perception filter". This
enabled them to wander around without people noticing they were there.
I often feel I am wearing one.
(I don't mind much though. It can be good to walk unnoticed.)
Dolphinius
(Male, mid-thirties, UK, self-diagnosed AS)
Stephen Wilson
"Dolphinius" <dolph...@fsmail.net> wrote in message
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> On 5 Dec, 23:13, "Stephen Wilson"
> <stephen.wilson2004nos...@ntlworld.com> wrote:
>> Everybody seems to get excited about Christmas. Bah humbug.
>>
>> The place I work at had its Christmas party tonight. I thought for a
>> change
>> I'd give it a go. I arrived at the venue and saw a woman from the office.
>> I
>> wandered over and said hello. She said hello back. At which point the
>> conversation ended. I tried asking her a couple of questions and got some
>> monosyllabic answers. Eventually, someone else from the office arrived.
>> At
>> which point she suddenly couldn't stop talking. Only she wasn't talking
>> to
>> me. Ho hum. So then we were seated for the meal. And conversations flowed
>> around me, over me, through me. So I ate the meal and went home.
>>
>> Don't think I'll try it again...
>
> Do you ever watch Doctor Who?
Frequently!
> I recall in one episode the Doctor
> provided himself and his companions with a "perception filter". This
> enabled them to wander around without people noticing they were there.
> I often feel I am wearing one.
Douglas Adams came up with a similar idea. An SEP. Surround anything with an
SEP and it becomes invisible. (SEP = Someone Else's Problem)
Zed
The thing I've noticed though is that on the rare occasions I do get
someone to engage in a conversation, then I feel trapped.
astri
> The thing I've noticed though is that on the rare occasions I do get
> someone to engage in a conversation, then I feel trapped.
heh
yes
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Stephen Wilson
"Dolphinius" <dolph...@fsmail.net> wrote in message
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>
> provided himself and his companions with a "perception filter". This
> enabled them to wander around without people noticing they were there.
> I often feel I am wearing one.
>
> (I don't mind much though. It can be good to walk unnoticed.)
My problem is I just don't get it.
I can go to work, do my job, come home. When I've really got work to do, I
do it. Otherwise I just pretend I'm busy. Not that I think I produce
anything worthwhile. I'll monitor something and give management some pretty
graphs. They all try to look for trends, no matter how many times I tell
them they've just got an average plus or minus a random number (within a
certain limit). Things won't genuinely change until someone makes a major
change to one or more processes.
But then there's this socialising aspect. Do I emanate subliminal or
subconscious signals that make people avoid me? Or is it that there's some
kind of body language issue, or tone of speech that puts them off? Or am I
just seen as boring?
And then there's Christmas. I don't understand why so many people are
celebrating the birth of someone who died nearly 2000 years ago on a date
that was chosen fairly randomly in the first place. I don't get the hype
surrounding it - people putting up real or artificial trees, neighbours
trying to out-do each other with their annual light and decoration show. Ths
shops that play the same CDs every year, most starting the build-up in
November. The necessity for a big family dinner, giving and receiving cards
and presents (and usually presents that will never be used). There are a
couple of people I haven't seen or spoken to in years, but they have a
Christmas card list and I'm on it (despite the fact that most years I don't
send any Christmas cards to anyone). And then everyone feeling miserable by
the middle of January because there are no more parties to look forward to,
they've spent too much money over Christmas and made and broken most of
their New Year resolutions.
Bah humbug.
Geoff
tbh, i agree, if you don't have much in common with poeple at work that
you can chat about, it's not a lot of fun really :(
Eva
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....And conversations flowed
> around me, over me, through me. So I ate the meal and went home.
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Good God yes.
You just expressed it so well, this happens to me all the time, and if you
say something they look at you as if you had farted!!!!!!!!!
Eva
buzzard
> (snip) and if you
Say anything real and they look at you like you farted.
I've listened from a safe distance to ppl gabbing,
and they're not talking about a damn thing.
Yakkity yack yak about "oh then she said blah blah blah,
and I TOLD HER blah blah and she claimed that so-and-so
had said this that and the other thing.."
This kind of conversation is just impossible to get into
if you don't know the other ppl that the ppl who are gabbing
are gabbing ABOUT.
It's like listening to a bunch of chickens cackling,
and it probably means just about the same thing.
--
Buzzard
"NT's don't talk, they make noises"