Damned if I do, damned if I don't
Eva
after year.
I have no friends and no siblings and my parents are dead and, and, and,
and.
In the past when I was invited to Thanksgiving feasts they were stressful
and uncomfortable for me because of the sensory overload and having to wear
dress clothes and socialize with numerous people and try desperately not to
drop my food.
Yet I feel sad and lonely because I'm alone on Thanksgiving. Damned if I do
and damned if I don't. I wish I could have a social life but I can't
tolerate social occasions. (Or they can't tolerate me!)
Okay, thanks for listening.
Eva
Gareeth
>>
> In the past when I was invited to Thanksgiving feasts they were
> stressful and uncomfortable for me because of the sensory overload
> and having to wear dress clothes and socialize with numerous people
> and try desperately not to drop my food.
>
> Yet I feel sad and lonely because I'm alone on Thanksgiving.
Yes I have struggled with the same thing when I have been home on holidays.
I usually am and no matter what I do it feels off. If people invite you to
share a holiday with them it is awkward at best and if you wind up at home
alone eating tv dinner like any other day it just drives home how alone you
are.
Gareeth
Eva
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thanks for the validation! BTW how's your knee?
Eva
Zed
Ain't it true. I was stressed all day because I just wanted to stay
home. But there were these two invites that kept nagging at me. If I
do go then I regret it, because of like you said, too much. If I don't
go I regret it because I missed out. However, I really lucked out with
it just being my brother his wife and daughter at a buffet. Thought
for sure it would be at my sister-in-law's gigantic family’s house. I
still think in the long run, home is better in most cases. Thank
goodness it and Christmas are but once a year.
Gareeth
>
> thanks for the validation! BTW how's your knee?
>
more patient with it. I have spent much of the last three weeks in bed or on
the couch because I can't sit for long at my desk yet due to the swelling.
Getting bored. The physiotherapist is very happy with the mobility of the
new knee. It already straightens more than my other knee and it has a good
bend already. She says it will be my other knee that limits what I wind up
being able to do in physio as I progress and that it is a bit of a battle
with one undone knee as my new one could settle into a similar range of
motion as the unreplaced one.
Gareeth
Aquarian Monkey
Eva, if you'd like, next year you can come here. Seriously. Very low
key. My dh wore sweat pants, so no need to wear dress clothes. I don't
care if you drop food. In fact, the dog loves it. I also don't mind if
you don't like small talk because then that means I don't have to come
up with any myself. I wouldn't even mind if you came over, brought a
book and sat in the other room and read, came to the table when it was
time to eat, then excused yourself after dessert.
astri
> Eva, if you'd like, next year you can come here. Seriously. Very low
> key. My dh wore sweat pants, so no need to wear dress clothes. I
> don't care if you drop food. In fact, the dog loves it. I also don't
> mind if you don't like small talk because then that means I don't
> have to come up with any myself. I wouldn't even mind if you came
> over, brought a book and sat in the other room and read, came to the
> table when it was time to eat, then excused yourself after dessert.
sounds idyllic
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Raving
> Yet I feel sad and lonely because I'm alone on Thanksgiving. ...
> ... I wish I could have a social life ...
Advice from an 'Aut Naught':
Respect your emotions.
Sometimes it is better to go with how you feel and ignore how you
think.
Emotions help me to leap across gaps in continuity.
As long as you are able to limit yourself, it's ok to be lead by your
emotions.
Caveat: This advice comes from the ADHD perspective. :-)
>
> Eva
Eva
"Aquarian Monkey" <aquaria...@gmail.com> wrote in message
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Eva, if you'd like, next year you can come here. Seriously. Very low
key. My dh wore sweat pants, so no need to wear dress clothes. I don't
care if you drop food. In fact, the dog loves it. I also don't mind if
you don't like small talk because then that means I don't have to come
up with any myself. I wouldn't even mind if you came over, brought a
book and sat in the other room and read, came to the table when it was
time to eat, then excused yourself after dessert.
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What? I have to eat dessert?! (:^)
This is so kind of you that I don't even know how to respond correctly.
Thank you very much.
Eva
Andrew Floyd
re: Alone during this time of year
I know how you feel. My mother passed away Oct 15, and I was here by
myself with the pets. I wasn't even invited to be anywhere. I did get
the customary calls from family though.
I am still depressed from my mother's passing, and for some reason, I
managed to cook something but I don't know why.
I wouldn't mind having a roomie here. Finding someone that gets along
with me and that I would like probably takes time and I don't want it to
take too long.
I keep saying it's not fair she died when she did. She deserved better
than she got.
A nice small Thanksgiving with just 2 people here would have been nice.
And I'm a good cook.
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Celebrate it. As I have just posted elsewhere, on Christmas that most social
of occasions I like to be alone and really want it.
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