Kotite had an NFL playing career, nobody gave him much respect. How
did Singletary work out?
Lombardi, Walsh, Belichick never played in the NFL, earned a whole lot
of respect.
I thinks it's how good the coach is that earns the respect.
If your first petite little bitch boss with no field experience who
got her job by nepotism was brilliant and dedicated to the job, was
the best manager you ever had and rocketed your career to the top,
while your later boss with tons of field experience was a
my-way-or-the-highway asshole who's "way" was out-of-date 10 years ago
and so made you miserable while sinking your career, your feelings
about them would probably be reversed.
It might be more meaningful to ask: how important is NFL playing
experience to making a good NFL coach of the kind that earns the
players' respect?
Clearly it's not essential, as per the guys above.
But it also probably helps, especially when the coach first gets a job
in the NFL, because the NFL culture is a whole different world.
E.g.: When Lombardi got his first NFL job with the Giants his first
training camp was a disaster. He acted the high school coach/West
Point assistant martinet, and the players ridiculed him -- and worse,
ignored him. It reached a head one day when the players decided
practice was done and started leaving the field, Lombardi said "We're
not done! Come back!!", and they just left.
Lombardi then went to Charlie Connerly, the QB, and Frank Gifford and
said "I need you guys to help me. What am I doing wrong?"
They gave him an earful about how NFL players aren't kids and you have
to treat them differently. Then they arranged a series of evening
poker games in which Lombardi played as one of the guys with the rest
of the O players, during which they all talked about "stuff" including
football, with Lombardi listening instead of lecturing. From that the
players and Lombardi got to see each other as human beings, and
Lombardi changed not only the way he treated them but also his
playbook in light of what the players wanted and believed would work.
IOW, Lombardi *learned*. This is just one example. Bart Starr tells a
good number of stories about how with the Packers at critical
junctures Lombardi would listen to the players or other people who
knew what they were talking about and change his ways accordingly, to
become a better coach.
Lombardi had no NFL experience but succeeded because he admitted his
problems and mistakes, sought advice from others, listened to it, gave
criticism aimed at him a fair hearing and admitted when it was right
-- even when it came from subordinates ... so he learned quickly and
got better and better.
IMHO these traits are a big contributor to success in any field,
whatever one's background coming into it. Lack of them is a big
handicap, whatever one's background.
Of course this is all appears very different from Lombardi's
super-macho rep -- but being a "tough guy" doesn't mean you should be
incapable of listening and learning, must be arrogant and stupid about
it.
"Tough guys" HCs who *do* believe they already know it all from having
great personal success on the NFL playing field -- and so don't listen
to anyone or learn anything -- have crashed-and-burned in a list
running from Singletary back to van Brocklin and beyond.
Bottom line: IMHO being a good coach is what earns the players'
respect, and being a bad one earns the opposite. Having NFL
experience/lacking it helps/hurts a little bit at first. But before
long the quality of the coach will out.