An observation
Daze
I finally found a few minutes to venture out of my life and onto the
Web to see how spanking sites had evolved. Perhaps someone should
feed me a doughnut and send me to Cleveland, but it seems that there's
an awful lot of incredibly sexy ladies taking spankings on the Web
these days. All sizes, shapes, ages (well...18-40, anyway) and colors
mixed with all sorts of implements, scenes, languages (there's one
that makes a lot of use of "ohh" and "ahh") and styles.
Which sorta begs the question...do y'all believe that the Web has
helped introduce more folks to spanking, or is it that it has become a
place for congregation and there aren't more than there used to be?
Daze
The Guv'nor
"Daze" <da...@pleasenoemail.com> wrote in message
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> Hey now,
>
> I finally found a few minutes to venture out of my life and onto the
> Web to see how spanking sites had evolved. Perhaps someone should
> feed me a doughnut and send me to Cleveland, but it seems that there's
> an awful lot of incredibly sexy ladies taking spankings on the Web
> mixed with all sorts of implements, scenes, languages (there's one
> that makes a lot of use of "ohh" and "ahh") and styles.
>
> Which sorta begs the question...do y'all believe that the Web has
> helped introduce more folks to spanking, or is it that it has become a
> place for congregation and there aren't more than there used to be?
Hi Daze, nice to see you posting again! I have no doubt that the Internet
has introduced many people to spanking - "intrigue" often being a trigger
for feelings they never realised they had.
I have a very special lady friend who I first met on ICQ even before I
became involved in newsgroups. I am pretty open about myself and my
lifestyle, so I included my spanking interest in my personal details.
It was that info that caused her to message me. She was intrigued, but after
only a short while I became aware that even though she did not know it, her
feelings ran deeper than mere curiosity. After a few weeks, it was on for
young old!
She had never experienced corporal punishment either at home or school, or
knowingly had any desire to become involved in the lifestyle. In other
words, using the net unlocked something inside her that she never knew
existed.
I am often messaged by people who see my ICQ details and want to know more.
I receive emails from people who have stumbled across my website by accident
and ask what is it all about? is it common?
Furthermore, a small but significant number have indicated they would be
willing to try it with the right partner and the right set of circumstances.
Anyone who has been involved with me will tell you I very quickly get a
"feel" for a person, and I am rarely wrong. These people were not spankos
pretending to be vanilla, they were genuinely curious.
All my business consultancy clients are now aware of what I do, (not that
there are huge numbers of those!). The pattern seems to be that while "the
curious" may not quite understand why people are attracted to spanking, they
accept that there are those who find it enjoyable, or indeed - necessary.
Although I may sometimes get gently teased, rarely do I get a "giggle,
snicker" reaction. I did lose one client when I first joined newsgroups, but
basically that was just an excuse for him to get out of a commitment.
For blatantly commercial reasons :) I post to a few non topic groups,
(although I did wipe out an entire target market with a response that I
didn't realise was cross posted to a political party newsgroup!). I do not
use my spanking sigline, but a sigline to my news site, which in turn has
links to other things I do.
Although people on such groups are now aware of my lifestyle and have
mentioned it - no one has *questioned* it. In other words, it is accepted.
It also stops it being used against me, as I have seen happen on a non topic
related group.
A few paragraphs above, I used the word "curious". I believe curiosity plays
a more direct role than the context in which I used it. People have and
always will be curious about sex. What has stopped many people going that
extra yard and indulging their curiosity is the "shame factor".
I know it took me a long time to pluck up the courage to go into a sex shops
and look for spanking magazines. To a great extent, the Internet diminishes,
if not eliminates that factor.
I have mentioned before that hardly a day goes by without my coming across
some sort of story or article related to adult spanking - Canada and South
Africa seem big on this sort of story! I honestly believe that the Internet
has put spanking "out there" and that's why the large number of articles.
I have no way of proving this scientifically, but I would make an informed
guess that the number of such articles now is far greater than perhaps five
or six years ago. I wont go further back, because to do so would be to
compare now with quite a different set of social standards.
My unscientific opinion is that the increased exposure our lifestyle has
experienced in conventional and mainstream media, is linked to the increased
usage of the Internet.
I will finish with one more little example, (wish I could find the bloody
story). A few months ago I read an article in a mainstream Australian paper
about PC usage in the workplace. The writer, (female - which is of no
significance except to my imagination:)) used a phrase along the lines of
"looking at spanking websites"
I could be wrong, but I doubt if times gone by she would have used the word
"spanking" in any context other than it's more traditional context.
Mike
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<<Which sorta begs the question...do y'all believe that the Web has
helped introduce more folks to spanking,>>
Yes--and I'm living proof :-) . My spanking inclinations were vague for
many (around 40 :-) ) years and didn't come together until I started
surfing the web. By accident, I came across Laura's Spanking Corner.
That website opened a whole new world for me. Later, I met my first
spanking partner through an internet personal ad. I really don't
believe I'd have ever been into spanking otherwise. And think of all
that I would have missed :-) .
<<or is it that it has become a place for congregation and there aren't
more than there used to be?>>
Oh, I think the net is a great place for congregation. It's relatively
anonymous and spankos can network with like-minded people from all over
the globe. I also think the net has increased the spanko population.
Wb, Daze!!!!!!
Spark
Yurassis Dragon
>
>>>Which sorta begs the question...do y'all believe that the Web has helped
introduce more folks to spanking,<<<
>
we know of at least 3 other couples who have met and married that way and
several more who are somewhere in the process.
Papa
We sleep safe in our beds because rough men stand ready in the night to visit
violence on those who would do us harm - George Orwell
Daze
Man, there must be something wrong with my technique or approach
because she's as pure a vanilla as the first bite of oven-hot pizza
will burn the roof of your mouth ;-)
Daze
On Sat, 15 Feb 2003 18:56:49 CST, grumpy...@aol.com (Yurassis
Dragon) wrote:
<snip>
Daze
a while. New business tends to inhale free time like my CPU's fans
inhale dust.
I'm not quite sure that I could mix spanking in with my consultancy.
Being in a conservative community that has a very, very long memory,
its hard enough to break people's behavioral concentrations long
enough for them to consider going with my firm. Of course...maybe the
whole shock-value of it all might be sufficient enough to catch those
attentions.
Somehow, there always has seem to have been an endless supply of
gorgeous people involved in mainstream porn: never met more than two,
personally. And yes, with the 'Net, the availability of the Shield,
as I like to call it, has certainly opened things up quite a bit. I
guess it just seems like I can't go anywhere on the Web these days
without coming across a new spanking site littered with interesting
images. I'm not quite sure, but this may have something to do with my
search patterns and bookmarks...its hard to tell ;-)
Another thing that amazes me is that for all the edginess of the Asian
porn, there seems to be a dearth of spanking material. Plenty of hard
core material, to be sure, but nothing so banal as spanking.
Heh, I keep thinking about the idea of my client base learning about
my interests...from where I stand, you are one brave person...or,
work/live in a community that's not as stuffy as mine.
Daze
Expat51
>Which sorta begs the question...do y'all >believe that the Web has
>helped introduce more folks to spanking,
I know quite a few people who, although they had an basic "inclination" have
used the Web to fully discover their potential.
It is no secret that Belle and I met via a spanking personals news group, and
that was over 5 years ago. So, in a manner of speaking we too are living proof
of the "power of the Net"
As for Spanking being popular on the Net, just take a look at the visitors
counters on most (decent) Spanking sites. Quite amazing.
Regards,
Peter
Yurassis Dragon
>
>>>Now that's an interesting twist...you met my wife on a spanking group? Man,
there must be something wrong with my technique or approach because she's as
pure a vanilla as the first bite of oven-hot pizza will burn the roof of your
mouth ;-)<<<
>
a spanking newsgroup. Sorry for the confusion.
The Guv'nor
> Heh, I keep thinking about the idea of my client base learning about
> my interests...from where I stand, you are one brave person...or,
> work/live in a community that's not as stuffy as mine.
And a widespread community! For the last couple of years, most of my one on
one consultancies, or those signed up for the information service are
conducted online. These days any new
business is largely word of mouth so often new clients are forewarned!
In addtion, it is a strange thing about online work, clients invariably end
up as friends. For some reason the relationship develops quicker and deeper
than conventional onsite or phone consultancies.
Also a few short term consultancy clients have been generated through
spanking newsgroups, although if it is something straightforward, I normally
don't charge.
As for my Aussie on site clients, I have two long term "one on one" clients
and they have known for some time. It is hard for those overseas to
understand the local environment; although Sydney is a large city it is like
a small village. Everyone seems to know someone. I have even been recognised
as "The Guv'nor" in my own small suburb!
Mike
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good fun :)
Daze