So I went out and tried Svengali's newbie mission today. This is my
first post to asf, so please bear with me.
I guess everyone knows about the mission, but if not info is here:
http://www.fastseduction.com/cgi-bin/search.cgi?action=retrieve&grp=1...
Anyway, I got up this morning, got cleaned up a little, and headed to
the local mall. It's a Tuesday so things weren't buzzing - but I
didn't really want an overly noisey atomsphere.
I've never had a problem approaching people and starting
conversations, particularly if there was a legitimate reason to
approach them. However, in situations where I want to approach a HB
that I'm interested in, I do have a lot of anxiety. It's been a
realization lately that fear and excitement must be the same emotion -
so I attribute that anxiety to being over excited by a 10. (That's
just how I think about it.)
Anyway, I took on the newbie mission to 1) Test myself and 2) Look for
ways to reduce or manage my anxiety.
Keep in mind that my goal is not to become a highly active PUA - there
are only certain personality elements from fastseduction.com that I'm
looking to gain... For example, the idea of having a pre-rehersed
script or plan doesn't fit well with other significant morals in my
life. However, knowing what kind of emotional response I'm seeing in a
girl I'm talking to is very interesting to me.
Anyway, let me get on with the report. So, I hit the mall. I was there
for about two hours. At any given time I probably could spot no more
than 30 people at the same time - IOW, the mall wasn't busy. It's a
two story mall and I walked a full loop around the top and then the
bottom.
Eye contact:
In the very least, I made sure to make eye contact with every girl
that walked by. I found myself wanting to stray from the 10's.
FIRST 10) The first 10 I passed was walking with a 9. I selected the
10 to make eye contact with to increase the challenge. Within about 8
feet, she let her eyes dart over at mine and then back at the ground
in front of where her and her friend were walking. I continued to look
at her and at about 2 feet she looked back, passed a quick smile, and
darted back towards the ground.
LAST 10) The last time I encountered a 10 was my favorite. As my walk
was nearing an end, I spotted a 10 alone at an ATM at about 15 feet. I
hadn't even thought about eye contact when I realized she was looking
my way. I must have had a more natural expression on my face when she
caught me. I'm not sure who smiled first, but she gave me the most
pronounced and easy going smile I'd gotten back that day. As she
turned to walk away, she kept her eyes locked on me until she had to
turn her head to follow her body.
Talking) I didn't talk to many of the women I encountered as I was
focused on finding natural approaches over pushing myself to be brave.
That said, most of the girls I did talk to where employees, standing
in line with me, or something of that nature. I only sparked up a
really random hello with one girl - on the escalader. I didn't know
who was behind me and as I turned toc check, I spotted a 7 or 8 (not
sure). I immediately smiled and said hello, and got the same in
return. I had noticed that she was not smiling until I spoke with her,
so I wanted to see her facial expression as I stepped off the
escalader. I turned back for one more quick look - and she was still
smiling. I don't think she stopped smiling from the moment I said
hello at the top.
I got checked out) I kept looking in the female clothing stores on the
way by to see who was working. I never went in any, but I tossed a few
smiles in some of them (and usually got a return) as I passed by the
store fronts. I was rather dissapointed at one girl who was too
consumed by the phone to crack a smile so I looked back out towards
the open mall again. That's when I spotted a girl that had turned 180
degrees to check me out. As soon as she made eye contact she spun back
around. This same girl was looking towards me before I looked into the
female clothing, but wouldn't make eye contact at the time. I
considered approaching this one, but she was at the mall with her what
appeared to be her mother.
Here are some other things I noticed that concerned me on some level:
1) Young girls frequently seem bewildered (sub 21). They're either
darting around examining everything in site and rarely pausing, or
they stare blankly at you.
2) Older women frequently seem aggressive (35+) - at least the one
who are at the mall alone, without children, and don't look completely
spaced out. I actually caught myself avoiding walking in the path of
one of them so I wouldn't have to deal with her - just in case.
3) 6's frequently seem very friendly - Very large girls seem to really
avoid eye contact and HB's seem to toy with it... but the 6's and 7's
seemed very friendly and rarely annoyingly so.
4) A few 10's seem very guarded or insecure - Or perhaps I'm really
ugly.. regardless, some of the girls that I would have thought to be
hard core players acted the same way I do when I'm feeling insecure.
They look at their feet a lot, they avoid eye contact at all costs.
They even adjust their paths so they did't touch or otherwise make
contact with other people. Funny thing is, these were the girls I was
most curious about - I wonder exactly how that works.
So these were my observations from a 2 hours at the mall. There is one
other subject I can report on - the feeling I had walking in and
walking away. I felt a little stupid and a little awkward going to a
public place just to smile at girls. (I'm rarely completely
comfortable at clubs.) I didn't fully engage any women while I was
there so I didn't have a reason to be excited when I left. I did,
however, walk away feeling more relaxed - and surprisingly so. I think
it was the security you get knowing you really can do the things you
want. I found myself thinking about and looking forward to the next
time I go to a club.
Thanks for the challange Svengali... it was fun. =)