On 5/15/2013 7:20 PM,
Crus...@nomail.com wrote:
> On Wed, 15 May 2013 07:28:13 -0500, "Charlie M. 1958"
> <
alw...@impatient.com> wrote:
>
>> On 5/15/2013 2:26 AM,
Crus...@nomail.com wrote:
>>
>>> Personally, if I had the choice these days (knowing what I now know
>>> about AA), I'd probably favor death from alcohol over AA's "drive them
>>> to suicide" methods. Hell, at least that way the person still has a
>>> life when they die and will die happy, rather than dying after AA ruins
>>> their social life and most likely everything else in their life.
>>
>> Who the hell ever "still had a life" and "died happy" from alcohol?
>>
>> If you're happy and you've got a life, there's no reason to quit
>> drinking in the first place. AA is a non-factor in that case.
>
> I know several people at the bar where I work who are happy yet drink
> too much. Several of them have lost their drivers license and/or their
> jobs as a result of their drinking, not to mention other problems due to
> drinking. I wont say any of them are to the point of dying from
> alcohol, but it's still affecting their lives in a negative way. Most
> of them are totally content to just go to the bar every night and drink.
> One of them has been hit by cars a few times and ended up in the
> hospital from other alcohol related injuries.
The definition of "hitting bottom" and when life "has become
unmanageable" is highly subjective. If one cannot imagine a life
different than what they are living (like above for example) the odds
are they will die either sooner or /because/ of the choices they make.
> Yet he's happy and quite a nice guy.
That describes a lot of former drunks.
> Actually he quit drinking for a month last fall. Now he drinks
> again, but he somewhat limits himself, and he knows that when I'm
> bartending I'll cut him off when he starts going overboard.
Clearly, you are sponsor material?
> It seems AA members can not comprehend that some drunks are happy, even
> those who's life is in a shambles are a result of alcohol.
Its not up to AA members *OR* *YOU* to *be* or *feel* responsible for
people who's life is in shambles.
> That makes me wonder if those who go to AA are going due to mental
> issues, not just the alcohol.
Drink enough and you can wind up with both.
> After all, why would anyone drink if they hated it?
Good question.
> I neverunderstood that.
Never heard of anyone hating alcohol but from what I've read from you I
can see how you would tend to view drinking from a simplistic love/hate
perspective. People /love/ to drink. They wind /up/ hating themselves
because of all the bullshit that goes with it.
> Maybe the mental issues are the reason those people will tolerate the
> torture that they get in AA. Maybe they just like being abused, and
> AA is good at that.
Maybe you are paranoid and misinformed.
> The guy I mentioned above, was sent to AA by the courts. He said he
> really did want to cut down on his drinking, but not quit.
It's his decision. Where it takes will be known in time.
> But he said AA was "horrible". That was the word he used. He said he
> would not go back for any reason, and said the people there were mostly
> all assholes.
Why would you care? Hmmm, perhaps this "happy," nice guy" is actually
*you*.