Sexual dysfunction
Juan Valdez
>I remember the studly feel of delayed orgasms and the no orgasm at all
>stages very well :-|
>
>Fortunately I am now experiencing the teenage libido stage as I come
>up to four weeks sober tomorrow!
>I feel like a dog with two dicks as they say (apologies to the ladies)
Tell me more Mark. How bad did it get? Were you at the point where you
had difficulty keeping it up during sex? Was your libido really
decreased? How much did you drink? How many years?
So four weeks and you feel pretty good, huh? (How old are you?)
Thanks.
Juan
Mark
Hi Juan,
Occasionally I would "lose interest" during sex, mainly I was too
pissed to think about it in the first place - or look an attractive
proposition!
It was more the lack of interest on my part than actual physical
dysfunction that I remember.
I am 34, I drank for 15 years, some periods of abstinence, usually
about 10-16 pints of beer a day and at my worst points a bottle of
spirits once I got home as well.
I would say that I was still pretty normal as regards urges /
performance until my mid twenties, didn't lose interest almost
completely until a year or so ago -but I must say this may also have
been tied into a break up of a long-term relationship at that time.
I can definitely tell you that you will feel a whole lot better if you
stop though, and not just with regards to sexual matters.
Good Luck
Mark
Semi-Detached
I am very good looking). But no matter how much I drink and how much marijuana
I smoke, I can't kill my sex drive.
Sharx.
"Semi-Detached" <fullmet...@aol.com> wrote in message
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Eventually, once depression sets in, you'll lose the imperious urge.
Plug
A bad case of no confidence. If you think you are a loser, you won't get
laid. Neither will anoraks, dweebs, geeks and all the other creeps that we
decide other people are. Until you are happy with yourself, relationships
will be almost impossible. I am sure that there is something good about
you. We all have good in us. Drinking will only make things worse. You
probably need someone to support you in all this. Why not try AA? Look it
up in the phonebook. What have you got to lose? P.S. Unless you are very
young, looks are not that important. Neither is size.
Deb
Semi-Detached
>You
>probably need someone to support you in all this. Why not try AA?
Shyness/Social Phobia = no meetings or get togethers of any kind.
Besides I only drink when I can't score marijuana or I am in a place where it
would be inappropriate to smoke
.>P.S. Unless you are very
>young, looks are not that important. Neither is size.
Yeah I figured that out. I am still young though.
Plug
You can't be a loner all your life. (Unless you want to, which you clearly
don't). You need to break the cycle - depressed - smoke - drink - more
depressed - feel more useless - drink more - smoke more. Is there no one
close to you you can confide in and trust? How old are you? And think of a
name - I can't keep calling you Semi. (Well, I can, of course 'cos I just
have, but you know what I mean)
Deb
"Semi-Detached" <fullmet...@aol.com> wrote in message't keep calling
you Seminews:20020812110224...@mb-fi.aol.com...
Semi-Detached
>You can't be a loner all your life. (Unless you want to, which you clearly
>don't).
I kinda like being a loner. I can only stand being around people so much then I
want to be alone.
> Is there no one close to you you can confide in and trust?
I dont really trust anyone. I can sorta confide some things in some people. I
feel it helps that rather than trying to pretend to be normal now, just let
everyone know I already know I am a freak but it doesnt really bother me.
Accepting freakdom rather than fight it has helped a lot.
>How old are you?
almost 29
>And think of a
>name - I can't keep calling you Semi.
How about Kirby, since I am headed for the curb anyway.
Plug
> I can only stand being around people so much then I
> want to be alone.
Wanting to be alone and enjoying your own company is quite different from
being lonely or being a loner.
> I dont really trust anyone.
Has someone let you down badly in the past?
> trying to pretend to be normal now
What is "normal" is what is comfortable for you.
>I already know I am a freak but it doesnt really bother me
Oh come now. Are you for real? That sentence is contradictory.
> Accepting freakdom rather than fight it has helped a lot.
In what way are you a "freak"? (I hate that word). Got two heads?
>
> almost 29
>
> How about Kirby, since I am headed for the curb anyway.
You seem to be really depressed or this is a massive wind-up!
Other people will tell you this is a great support ng. But the bottom line
is somewhere along the way - with help you need to consider to accept - you
have to help yourself. So many people have done just that. Cue Shawster.
Deb
"Semi-Detached" <fullmet...@aol.com> wrote in message
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Semi-Detached
>From: "Plug" glug...@hotmail.com
>
>Wanting to be alone and enjoying your own company is quite different from
>being lonely or being a loner.
I like being a loner. Its just hard to get laid as much as I want to.
>
>Has someone let you down badly in the past?
The whole human race. But the good news is a meteor is hitting the earth in
2019.
>>I already know I am a freak but it doesnt really bother me
>
>Oh come now. Are you for real?
Yep I am a freak
>
>In what way are you a "freak"? (I hate that word). Got two heads?
No, I am weird
Plug
> I like being a loner. Its just hard to get laid as much as I want to.
Decision time! Either have a series of one night stands (of which I have
little experience so I can't advise you) or go for a full time relationship.
Most women I know worth having want a relationship rather than gratuitous
sex. And the funny thing is, the older women get, the fussier they get too.
The days when women "needed" a man, are to a large extent, over. Hurrah!
> >Has someone let you down badly in the past?
>
> The whole human race. But the good news is a meteor is hitting the earth
in
> 2019.
> >>I already know I am a freak but it doesnt really bother me
> >
> >Oh come now. Are you for real?
>
> Yep I am a freak
>
> >
> >In what way are you a "freak"? (I hate that word). Got two heads?
>
> No, I am weird
You sound depressed to me, rather than a freak. And why are you posting on
a recovery ng? As I said earlier, some people can help themselves; some
can't. If you can't you ought to seek help. There is plenty available.
Deb
Semi-Detached
>Decision time! Either have a series of one night stands (of which I have
>little experience so I can't advise you) or go for a full time relationship.
It doesnt really matter what I decide since I dont get one night stands OR full
time relationships.
Also I dont know how it is where you are but around here, no car = no dates,
girlfriends etc.
>You sound depressed to me, rather than a freak.
Right now I am very happy. Saw Bowie last night and still feel the buzz. It was
at a way out location and I went alone and had to wander the streets until the
trains started running again in the morning but it was all worth it
>And why are you posting on
>a recovery ng?
I was looking for a group for people who like to drink, couldnt find one so I
came here instead.
Plug
> Also I dont know how it is where you are but around here, no car = no
dates,
> girlfriends etc.
Not having a car around here is nigh on impossible - public transport is
practically non existent, but plenty of people I know do not have a car. In
some areas, it's quite cool. Saving the environment etc. My friend had
hers nicked a month ago and now has to walk to work.
>
> Right now I am very happy. Saw Bowie last night and still feel the buzz.
I'd give my eye teeth to see him. (The only teeth I have left, hehe)
Amazing how these oldies have remained popular. Guess their music is just
good. Also Jagger, Floyd, Quo, Rick Wakeman
> >And why are you posting on
> >a recovery ng?
> > I was looking for a group for people who like to drink, couldnt find one
so I
> came here instead.
Pity that. Past tense, mate. Liked to drink.
Cheers, Deb
God's Angel
three times while totally wasted now in my 40's and i just want to sleep
lol
you know that little dent above your lips i put that there when i put my
finger here and said shhhhhh!! (GABRIEL from the movie prophecy)
Semi-Detached
>Not having a car around here is nigh on impossible - public transport is
>practically non existent, but plenty of people I know do not have a car. In
>some areas, it's quite cool.
Not in Los Angeles, where materialism rules and where someone with no
car/driver's license who makes just above minimum wage is unlikely to find many
dates. Most women are gold digging whores and I don't have any gold. Of course
if I had a car I would just skip all that BS and just pick up hookers.
Sharx.
> >From: "Plug" glug...@hotmail.com
>
> >Not having a car around here is nigh on impossible - public transport is
> >practically non existent, but plenty of people I know do not have a car.
In
> >some areas, it's quite cool.
>
> Not in Los Angeles, where materialism rules and where someone with no
> car/driver's license who makes just above minimum wage is unlikely to find
many
> dates. Most women are gold digging whores and I don't have any gold. Of
course
> if I had a car I would just skip all that BS and just pick up hookers.
Have you discussed this with your sponsor?