ARGH! Husband/life vent (baby ment.)(long)
Robin Tutt
been working on a 15 page paper due today. So his head's not all there.
BUT....
Yesterday after I came home from work, DH put Katherine's bottle into the sink,
because she wouldn't need it anymore. Fine, but he just dumped the milk out and
left it in the sink. Then he made himself some dinner, and then poured the oily
pan residue into the sink. Onto the baby bottle, n*pple, and milk collection
bottles from my pump. Which means that instead of a bottle I just have to rinse
with soapy water, I will now have to thoroughly cleanse it, and boil it,
because it's just disgusting. When I point this out to him, he says "Oh", When
I mention that he does that kind of thing quite frequently (put a mostly-clean
pot into a very disgusting one), he said "I've never noticed a difference" Of
course not; he's not the one who usually does those disgusting dishes. Argh.
So I go to bed pretty early, mostly because Katherine won't sleep unless she's
in our bed (she had immunizations and was fussy), which meant that I was lying
down with her, which meant that I was going to sleep, no matter what. Each time
I wake up to feed Katherine, he's still downstairs working on his paper. At the
4 am feeding, I hear him printing. He comes upstairs, all done, asks me to look
over his paper in the morning, and he's going to bed. And by the way, the
dishwasher doesn't like liquid detergent (the type you use to wash by hand).
Kitchen floor is a mess, but he's too tired to clean it. I ask him to at least
put up the baby gate so the dog won't drink up the water, he agrees, does so,
and goes to bed.
Well, by now I'm up, so I figure I might as well stay up. I put Katherine back
to bed and go downstairs. Sure enough, kitchen's a mess. So I spend an hour
cleaning that up, and then another halfhour cleaning up the bottles and
accessories that were disgusting. Put them on to boil, start the load of
laundry that's been sitting in the washing machine for three days, sit down to
eat....baby cries!
Needless to say, I hope the baby's tired tonight, because DH and I are both
going to crash. I can't wait until his semester is over!
Robin T.
Jan A. Cordes
> Yesterday after I came home from work, DH put Katherine's bottle into the
> sink, because she wouldn't need it anymore. Fine, but he just dumped the
> milk out and left it in the sink. Then he made himself some dinner, and
> then poured the oily pan residue into the sink. Onto the baby bottle,
> n*pple, and milk collection bottles from my pump. Which means that instead
> of a bottle I just have to rinse with soapy water, I will now have to
> thoroughly cleanse it, and boil it, because it's just disgusting. When I
> point this out to him, he says "Oh", When I mention that he does that kind
> of thing quite frequently (put a mostly-clean pot into a very disgusting
> one), he said "I've never noticed a difference" Of course not; he's not
> the one who usually does those disgusting dishes. Argh.
Aha, one of my big gripes...not the baby bottle part...mostly clean dishes
getting icky ones dumped on them. DH does this and it drives me nuts.
I can leave a bowl that is mostly clean, just needs a good rinse in the
sink for a second and when I come back he's dumped some yucky dishes in
it to soak. Arghh! Now I have to thoroughly clean the thing. He also
doesn't wash pots and pans and won't put them in the dishwasher. So,
they sit in the sink until I get frustrated and wash them. I'm always
washing his pots and pans yet if I leave one it will sit there until I
get around to washing it as he either doesn't see it or doesn't want to
be bothered to wash it (and then dump icky stuff on top of it). I do
wish we had more of a compromise in washing the sink stuff but I can't
seem to find a way to bring it up to him that gets through.
So, if it's any consolation, I feel your pain.
Jan
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HollyLewis
>getting icky ones dumped on them. DH does this and it drives me nuts.
>I can leave a bowl that is mostly clean, just needs a good rinse in the
>sink for a second and when I come back he's dumped some yucky dishes in
>it to soak.
This is one reason that dishes *in* the sink drive me batty. Dirty dishes do
not belong in the sink. If they can't go in the dishwasher they wait on the
counter, so that the sink can actually be *used*.
Worse: DH leaves milk cartons in the sink. He has psychoses about draining and
rinsing cartons before putting them in the recycling. Sigh.
Holly
Jennifer Powell Acord
"HollyLewis" <holly...@aol.com> wrote in message
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> This is one reason that dishes *in* the sink drive me batty. Dirty
dishes do
> not belong in the sink. If they can't go in the dishwasher they wait on
the
> counter, so that the sink can actually be *used*.
This is funny....the opposite of my personal vents. I prefer dishes in the
sink and not on the counter, (but not with lots of icky liquids, etc.
Rinsed off please!)
- Jennifer
aMAZon
Robin Tutt wrote:
snip long tale of woe:
> Needless to say, I hope the baby's tired tonight, because DH and I are both
> going to crash. I can't wait until his semester is over!
It's a pity that your DH doesn't "get it" re: the
mostly-clean/easy-to-clean
vs. gotta-sandblast-this-one. Maybe having him do it solely for a few
days
might make a difference?
I hope Katherine will cooperate when you guys are trying to rest.
When Her Majesty was in that position, she generally did.
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Sara-anne
>mostly-clean/easy-to-clean
>vs. gotta-sandblast-this-one. Maybe having him do it solely for a few
>days
>might make a difference?
Well if her DH is anything like mine, he'll "wash" them, but the dishes
will be sitting in the dish drainer with a layer of oil on them. He seems
to have an aversion to using soap. Argh.
Sara
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Robin Tutt
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>Robin Tutt wrote:
>snip long tale of woe:
>
>> Needless to say, I hope the baby's tired tonight, because DH and I are both
>> going to crash. I can't wait until his semester is over!
>
>It's a pity that your DH doesn't "get it" re: the
>mostly-clean/easy-to-clean
>vs. gotta-sandblast-this-one. Maybe having him do it solely for a few
>days
>might make a difference?
>
I've tried it. Doesn't work. I always end up needing whatever dishes are in
the sink, so will have to clean them. If not, then they sit there for days and
days, until finally I just can't take it anymore and clean them. I'm the one
bothered by it, so I guess it's my responsibility to clean them; I just wish
he'd be more considerate about it!
Robin T.
Jan A. Cordes
> Robin T.
This is me too. I can't out wait him. He has a higher tolerance for it.
I get too frustrated that there are icky pots and pans sitting in the sink
and have to wash them. He's also a counter stacker instead of an in sink
stacker. I prefer them in the sink where they are a tiny bit less easily
noticed. Another weird thing with him is he also doesn't unload the
dishwasher when its finished. He'll just put dishes in the sink and wait
for me to get around to unloading the dishwasher. So, to get around the
dishes in the sink thing I tend to unload the dishwasher very quickly
after they've run. We usually run them overnight so I'm unloading dishes
while I really should be getting ready for work.