Measuring Six Basic Styles of Love
The True Edmond Wollmann
Listed below are sample items from Hendrick and Hendrick's love
scale, which was designed to measure the six styles of love
identified by Lee (1977, 1988). Read through the various items and
think about your current or past relationships. Which style or styles
characterize
each of these relationships. According to Lee, people could experience
many different styles of love during their lives.
Eros
Pluto, Leo
Mars, Fire Element
1. My lover and I were attracted to each other immediately after we
first met.
2. Our lovemaking is very intense and satisfying.
3. My lover fits my ideal standards of physical beauty/handsomeness.
Ludus
Jupiter, Fire
Mercury, Gemini
1. I try to keep my lover a little uncertain about my commitment to
him/her.
2. I have sometimes had to keep two of my lovers from finding out
about each other.
3. I enjoy playing the "game of love' with a number of different
partners.
Storge
Aquarius,
Uranus, Air Element
1. It is hard to say exactly when my lover and I fell in love. (Our
friendship merged gradually into love over time.)
2. Love is really a deep friendship, not a mysterious, mystical
emotion.
3. My most satisfying love relationships have developed from good
friendships.
Pragma
Earth Element
Saturn
1. I consider what a person is going to become in life before I
commit myself to him/her.
2. I try to plan my life carefully before choosing a lover.
3. A main consideration in choosing a lover is how he/she reflects
on my family.
Mania
Fire, Uranus
Pluto
1. Sometimes I get so excited about being in love that I can't
sleep.
2. When I am in love, I have trouble concentrating on anything else.
3. If my lover ignores me for a while, I sometimes do stupid things
to get his/her attention back.
Agape
Water, Neptune
Fire
1. I would rather suffer myself than let my lover suffer.
2. I cannot be happy unless I place my lover's happiness before my
own.
3. I would endure all things for the sake of my lover.
Source: Adapted from C. Hendrick & S. Hendrick, 1986.
Astrological Correlations: Edmond H. Wollmann
Also there are love types, which can be correlated as well;
Love as a Triangle (Sternberg 1988) conceives of different kinds of
love being a Intimacy combination of the three basic (liking)
components of intimacy, passion, and commitment.
Romantic Companionate love (intimacy + G / + commitment)
Passion Commitment (infatuation)(empty love)
Fatuous love (passion +commitment)
A TRIANGULAR THEORY OF LOVE
Robert Sternberg ( 1986, 1988) has proposed that love can be thought
of as a triangle, with its three corners consisting of the three
components of passion, intimacy, and commitment According to
Sternberg, all kinds of love are made up of different combinations and
proportions of these components:
Liking: the experience of intimacy without passion and commitment
(e.g., friendship)
Infatuated love: the experience of passion without intimacy and
commitment
(e.g., "puppy love")
Empty love: the experience of commitment without passion and intimacy
(e.g., stagnant marriages)
Romantic love: the experience of passion and intimacy without
commitment
(e.g., extramarital affairs)
Companionate love: the experience of intimacy and commitment without
passion
(e.g., many long-term, happy marriages)
Fatuous love: the experience of passion plus commitment without
intimacy
(e.g., love at first sight)
Consummate Love: the experience of intimacy, passion, and commitment
(good luck!)
Although Sternberg's theory appears to capture the richness and
diversity of the love experience, its weakness is that the scales used
to measure passion, intimacy, and commitment
don't appear to measure distinct, independent components (Hendrick &
Hendrick, 1989).
Until this measurement problem is corrected, we cannot confidently
assess how useful this
theory is in helping us better understand the various love types.
"Social Psychology", Stephen L. Franzoi, Chapter 9, Intimate
relationships, page 364, Marquette University, 1996.
"Infatuation is when you think he's as sexy as Robert Redford, as
smart as Henry Kissenger, as noble as Ralph Nader, as funny as Woody
Allen, and as atheletic as Jimmy Connors.
Love is when you realize that he's as sexy as Woody Allen, as smart as
Jimmy Connors, as funny as Ralph Nader, as atheletic as Henry
Kissenger, and nothing like Robert Redford in any category-but you'll
take him anyway." (quoted by Hatfield & Rapson, 1993, Social
Psychology, Stephen Franzoi)
Edmond H. Wollmann P.M.A.F.A.
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Source: Adapted from C. Hendrick & S. Hendrick, 1986.
Astrological Correlations: Unlicensed Consultant Edmond H. Wollmann
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> Measuring Six Basic Inches of Love
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> Listed below are sample items from Hendrick and Hendrick's
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Just how much "love" have you sampled?