surrogacy:looks like we are going to have a baby together
Ron Good
I posted a few months back wanting information about being a surrogate mother.
A wonderfull Couple from California got in touch with me (thanks to whoever
it was that passed along my post- BTW Thankyou so much!!!) And we just spent
the weekend together.
It has been wonderfull getting to know this couple. Kind and beautifull
people. They left to go back home about 8 hours ago (after flying up to Canada
to meet me and my S/O) and it is about 3;00 am and I am so excited.
We met for dinner on friday night and ended up talking till midnight. We spent
today together and it has been a real privellage to meet them and be a part of
their lives. I am so honoured that they want me and Ron to carry their baby
for them. To keep their confindentialy I will refer to them as C and A . C,
the mother and my fiance were almost both crying as we talked about all the
feelings.. the pain and the longing of infertility. It touched a deep chord in
Ron as it did in me. But he is the more emotional of the two of us :)
It is funny. When I first brought up the idea of being a surrogate with Ron he
was supportive and behind me . Now he is thrilled to be a part of this. He
wants very much to "give these people the Baby they want so much".
WOW.. I dont know what to say. It is so wonderfull to be so much a part of
giving two great people what they want. This is so great! This is exactly what
I wanted to do. My pregnancy with my son was so lonely, scary and sad. Nobody
wanted this baby that I was carrying except me. Nobody rejoiced at his birth.
Nobody really gave a damn that this little life was coming into the world. And
how that hurt. I wept for my little man and I wept for myslef at not being
able to share the overwheling feelings I had for this little person.
This little baby is already loved and wanted and he isnt even here yet. He is
just a great idea! People are excited and overjoyed about just the prospect of
his existence.
I hope this is coming out right. I just wanted to say this.. Having read this
group .. and seen the feelings and the desires of so many of you... I know
that any baby that comes into your lives... after all the hard work and time
and energy spent is a very lucky baby!. I cant think of people that would be
beter parents.
I dont know what else to say. I am kind of on an emotional high right now. I
want to be able to talk to other surrogates... or be in contact with other
people that have expereinced this on either side of the equation. I welcome
any response. And I hope I have not been insensitive in sharing this
expereince. After talking with A and C... I know how deep the wounds are and I
dont want to cause any more hurt.
All the best to All of you
Meaghan Walker
and Ron Good
R Steele
C and A are very lucky to have you in their lives right now, too bad there
are not more people like you out there for the rest of us.