I don't really get this. Yes, once in a while I do a bad thing. Like when
I ODed on the Swedish Fish. And before you decide to make nasty comments
about that, and you know who you are, that was several years ago. I have
learned that there are just certain things I can not bring into the house
ever. And perhaps some things that if I do bring them into the house can
only be purchased in small quantities. Anyway...
Once again we have a family birthday celebration. For the last one, I was
told that there would be fruit purchased for Angela. I think perhaps some
people in the family thought that Angela wanted fruit because for her
birthday I got her one of those edible arrangements. It actually wasn't
really the fruit that she wanted but the special, pretty thing that most
people probably never get. She didn't even eat much of the fruit. Just a
few pieces. And I had tried to get one that didn't contain anything she
couldn't eat but sadly there was pineapple on it.
Anyway... For the last birthday, the family member told us that fruit had
been purchased for Angela. It was described as a fruit platter. This upset
Angela somewhat because almost always those fruit platters contain fruit
that she loves but isn't on her diet. She is not allowed to have raisins,
pineapple or watermelon. And she loves pineapple and watermelon which is
what this fruit platter mostly was. So she was pretty unhappy to have to
have that sitting right in front of her. She wasn't hungry and she didn't
want any fruit. But she was pushed and pushed and pushed and she finally
took two pieces of melon.
So now this same family member said she wasn't going to have anything to do
with the food for this birthday and that my brother and I would have to sort
it out. He contacted me and asked me what we wanted to eat? I did ask my
husband and Angela. Both said they wanted nothing. Fine. With us anyway.
But not with this other family member. Currently we are all having dietary
issues. So the way I see it, the rest of the family should be fine with it
if we say that we do not want dessert. But no. We are being pushed and
pushed and pushed. Well not me so much because I think by now they all know
that I say that I do not want to eat dessert. I don't think they believe me
in any way shape or form and they keep trying to tempt me with things but
all that does is make me angry.
So I was told to get something anyway. Seeing as how my husband's birthday
is among what we are celebrating. And past experience has taught me that
nobody in the family wants to take home any extra dessert, including us!
Because if it is here, my husband will eat it. And he is trying not to eat
that sort of stuff. So I told my brother that I would get something for
him. And what I bought is a piece of something called "Two Person Cake".
To me it looks like it would feed 4 or 6 but then I don't like cake. I also
picked up a small lemon cake and a small pan of frosted brownies because I
knew that the food pusher relative loves these things. She has since seen
them and is very pleased about it. But that just wasn't good enough.
Tonight she called and insisted that she was going to get some fruit for
Angela. I said, no. Please do not do that. Angela does not want any
fruit. We went shopping yesterday and again today and I asked her both
times about the fruit. She did not want it. I don't blame her. Like me,
she is just not hungry at about 2 hours after dinner and does not want to
eat. Anyway... This person snapped at me over the phone and demanded,
"Well then what DOES she want to eat?" And I said, "Nothing. I asked her.
We both want nothing." Then she snapped at me in a very angry tone of
voice, "Well! That's just no fun!" *sigh*
I just don't know how to put an end to this and it would seem that I
probably can not. One person who will be coming is thin. Really thin. As
in, getting medical attention for it. The other is a fairly normal weight
to perhaps slightly thin. Had to tell really because this person wears
baggy clothes. But this person doesn't really like sweets, like me. And
for some odd reason, people don't seem to get angry with him when he
declines the sweets. I just really don't get that. But the others? All
overweight to grossly obese. All either diabetic, pre-diabetic or at least
have some sort of issue to where they should not be eating sweets. But as
usual, they will not only eat them but eat a lot of them. And then they
will complain because they did so.
So I guess I just don't get where the fun part comes in. How is it fun to
eat something that you know you should not eat? Especially when you are
going to have pain or guilt or even in some cases, actual illness
afterwards? I could see it I guess if they felt the need to have some sort
of festive food and then everyone could take a fork and take a bite of it.
That would actually make sense to me because not much harm would have been
done. But that's not what they're going to do.
I also don't understand why we are being so bad or wrong or whatever they
think we are being by declining the food. It's not like the person who is
taking offense actually cooked or baked the food. It's all purchased stuff.