When you are in the process of healing you must take in to
consideration the losses that have resulted. These losses must be
grieved in order to be released. One example is in a parent child
relationship when there has been emotional, verbal, or physical abuse
there will be many things lost. Trust, respect, and good times
together, just to name a few. Some losses like trust can be restored
over time but the time lost can not be restored. So the loss of time
spent together will need to be grieved. You can not go back and relive
your life as a 10 year old again. The time you need to spend with your
father is now gone and so it must be grieved. You will always be
trying to find what you have lost until you grieve and release it.
The following are eight short steps that can be taken to grieve losses
so the heart can be healed. These steps will need to be repeated out
loud or written down several times during the healing process. You
will experience the peace of the Lord as you go through this grieving
and releasing process.
These eight steps are a process for grieving what you have lost. They
will need to be applied to every relationship where you have been
hurt. You can't accept the fact that someone or something is gone
until you face the loss and grieve it. In Ecclesiastes 7:2-4, the
writer says that we actually go to a house of morning and that the
sadness makes the heart better. Now is the time for healing!