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May 11, 2013, 7:41:56 AM5/11/13
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LOVE HURTS
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Z0pLKCxc8Rw
Love hurts, Love scars
Love wounds and mars
any heart not tough nor strong enough
To take a lot of pain, take a lot of pain
Love is like a cloud, holds a lot of rain
Love hurts......ooh, ooh love hurts
I'm young , I know, but even so
I know a thing or two I learned from you
I really learned a lot, really learned a lot
Love is like a stove, burns you when it's hot
Love hurts......Ooh, ooh love hurts
Some fools rave of happiness
Blissfulness, togetherness
Some fools fool themselves I guess
But they're not foolin' me
I know it isn't true, know it isn't true
Love is just a lie, made to make you blue
Love hurts......
Love hurts.
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COMMENT:
I remember that song well from my old 45 rpm collection. It was the B
side of ‘Running Scared’ in 1961. The label that issued it was
‘London’ in this part of the world.
At the time I didn’t know what Roy Orbison was talking about.
I understand him fully now, perhaps a lot better than he understood
himself.
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Think of the Oxana Malaya video.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-8iPV8coAFQ
Like Oxana, we all have a strong tendency, in fact a compulsion, to
repeat prominent early experiences. Sometimes it’s not so much the
physical events but the *emotional dynamics* of early life that we are
recreating and reliving, but in a different set of physical events.
Emotions are events. Prominent emotions of early life tend to repeat,
ESPECIALLY IF THEY ARE DENIED AND FORGOTTEN.
In this way, ‘love’ relationships among adults tend to follow the same
pattern as the forgotten mother-infant relationship. First there is a
blissful honeymoon period, corresponding to the heavenly joy of the
EARLY stage of the mother-infant relationship. Then, after perhaps six
months, or after the wife becomes pregnant, the love grows cold and
the wife withdraws physical intimacy, corresponding to the forgotten
horrors of the LATER stage of the mother-infant relationship when our
mothers abruptly withdrew physical intimacy from us, with no
explanation but only an avalanche of toxic shame to avoid explanation
of our mothers’ imbecility. Perhaps worst of all was the fact that the
older siblings and the other children in neighbouring houses always
join in that toxic shaming of the growing infant. The pain is
terrible, but you don’t remember the emotional bankruptcy of late
infancy.
The horrors of the LATER stage of the mother-infant relationship are
such that the only refuge is denial and amnesia for both mother and
child.
And when a prominent early experience is denied and forgotten, the
tendency to recreate / repeat / relive it in adulthood is magnified
to compulsive levels. Hence we say ‘repetition compulsion.’
There are different ways of expressing it, but it’s correct to say
that as long as we live, we all carry inside us the child we were long
ago, a raging inner child demanding that his/her story be heard.
Every mother in the world reduces her baby to nothing and nobody in
the later stage of the mother-infant relationship.
So we all carry on our shoulders this raging inner child clamouring to
make his/her story known, by constantly recreating the later stage of
the mother-infant relationship in adult life.
That is the simple explanation of why love usually grows cold after a
few months in adult relationships.
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ASK THE EXPERTS?
That would be a terrible mistake.
People who call themselves ‘relationship counsellors’ or ‘therapists’
etc. - they try to explain why it is so difficult to maintain a loving
relationship in adulthood. Invariably these ‘experts’ / ‘therapists’
are talking gobbledygook. Why? Because they don’t remember their
infancy and they don’t understand that we all are condemned to relive
the forgotten horrors of the later stage of the mother-infant
relationship in adulthood. And you go along with the gobbledygook
spouted at you by the ‘therapy’ brigade because you too don’t remember
your infancy. The bogus ‘therapy’ industry is a prominent case of THE
BLIND LEADING THE BLIND.
As Apollonius-Jesus said:
“Can the blind lead the blind? Will they not both fall into the
ditch?”
I talked to therapists only because I was lonely and because I wanted
to find out what makes them ‘tick.’
But if you go to a therapist regarding her as an ‘authority figure,’
as a dispenser of wisdom, then you’re finished. Its a case of THE
BLIND LEADING THE BLIND.
If you go to a therapist on that basis, you both will fall into the
ditch, THE BLIND THERAPIST LEADING THE BLIND CLIENT INTO THE DITCH.
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Regarding the tendency for love to come to an end after a few months -
maybe it’s not absolute in everyone’s life. All sorts of things can
happen in this world and many factors come into play. Only God knows
all things and the karmic factor always has something to say. Still,
the general tendency as stated above is undeniable.
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THIS IS A FARCE !
Sometimes it’s particularly farcical. For example, the first live-in
relationship I had with a woman lasted six years, in the sense that we
lived in the same house for six years. However, the woman withdrew
physical intimacy almost completely after the first six months,
without explanation, just as mothers do to their babies. When I asked
her: “why do we not make love any more?” she just mumbled into the
darkness the words “I don’t know,” with the same empty-headed
bewilderment which our mothers displayed as our mothers withdrew from
the delightful intimacy with their babies.
At least she was telling the truth when she said “I don’t know,” just
as mothers don’t know why they commit such horrendous child abuse by
ending intimacy with their babies.
Then the next bit is interesting.
I stayed in the same house as that woman for six years, because it was
convenient.
And…. blink blink…….eyebrows raise….. jaw drops…… it soon became clear
that she didn’t know she was doing anything wrong… she never stopped
imagining that we were engaged to be married, never stopped imagining
that we were going to spend the rest of our lives together.
Even more amazingly, she never stopped saying to me those very strange
words: “I love you.”
Now and then I explained to her the effect her withdrawal of intimacy
was having on me, and there was just a blank stare and silence or
change of subject.
She just couldn’t take it in, even though she was caring in other
ways.
Why?
Because like all other women she was blindly locked into repetition
compulsion, recreating the imbecility of the later stage of the mother-
infant relationship.
She wanted me very much and she was heartbroken and bewildered when I
left after six years. I still remember the expression of heartbreak -
and yes, puzzlement and bewilderment - on her face as I finally walked
out.
This mindless idiocy and bewilderment mirrors and mimics and recreates
and relives the mindless idiocy and bewilderment of the mother-child
relationship in this inverted civilisation.
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More than anything else, it comes down to this:
UNLOVED MEN MAKE MORE EFFECTIVE SOLDIERS.
Permanent inter-tribal war is associated with physical survival in
your primitive brain circuits. Therefore a major impulse in everyone’s
life is to ration love between humans to the barest minimum to
generate soldiers. And THAT is the ONLY reason why your mother
withdrew physical intimacy from you in late infancy, filling you with
horror and heartbreak and bewilderment, which was so terrifying that
you and your mother took refuge in denial and amnesia.
And so we all tend to mimic the later stage of the mother-infant
relationship in our adult relationships, Oxana Malaya style.
And that is why ‘relationship counsellors’ say - without understanding
why - that to make your marriage succeed you will have to *work on
your relationship every day*.
Ehhhhh….do you understand that?
That sure seems a bit queer.
Love is love.
WE SHOULD NOT HAVE TO *WORK* AT LOVING ONE ANOTHER !
The ‘experts’ / ‘therapists’ don’t understand that when you ‘work on
your relationship every day’ you are striving TO CORRECT YOUR MOTHERS’
MISTAKES, to UNDO the damage caused to us all by our mothers in the
later stage of the mother-infant relationship, which you don’t
remember and are tending to repeat and relive.
In short, we spend our entire lives blindly trying to correct the
mistakes our mothers made in the later stage of the mother-infant
relationship.
If you don’t know it yet, look again at Oxana Malaya and make the
connections.
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TAKE A SHORT CUT?
Understandably, many cultural groups lost interest in trying to make a
marriage work by politely whispering to the wife: “why do we not make
love any more?” and hearing the wife mumble into the darkness: “I
don’t know” (which was the truthful answer).
In these cultures, the men long ago lost patience with their wives’
withdrawal of intimacy in repetition of the withdrawal of intimacy in
the later stage of the mother-infant relationship……… and so the men of
these cultures long ago bypassed their wives’ imbecility by
subjugating and enslaving their women for the sake of some degree of
sanity and stability.
Maybe Sharia Law is not such a bad thing?
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So yes, LOVE HURTS.
And ALL OUR SONGS ARE SAD (nearly), because our songs, art, literature
and drama tend to be lamenting the forgotten horrors of the later
stage of the mother-infant relationship and lamenting the overall
rationing of love in this mentally ill civilisation.
Our songs, art, literature and drama are nearly always THE VOICE OF
THE VOICELESS, the voice of The Universal Infant insisting on telling
his/her story, lamenting the forgotten horrors of the later stage of
the mother-infant relationship.
You don’t remember.
It was so horrific that mother and child took refuge in amnesia.
And then mother and child blindly sing about that lost love for the
rest of your lives.
It was only late in life that I could arrive at the correct analysis
and understanding of Roy Orbison’s words.
And why is Roy Orbison admired so much?
Why his enduring and timeless appeal?
In the TV documentaries / biographies about Roy Orbison, those who
tried to explain their admiration for him were talking gobbledygook,
just like the fake ‘therapy’ brigade talk gobbledygook …….. because
Roy Orbison’s fans don’t remember their infancy, and so they don’t
understand why Roy Orbison appeals to them so much.
It is simply because Roy Orbison so expertly anchored his music in the
forgotten emotions of The Universal Infant, the infant we all once
were, bewildered and terrified by the mothers’ withdrawal of physical
intimacy under a cloud of deception and toxic shame, which is the most
prominent, the most dominant, the most powerfully formative experience
in everybody’s life.
But you don’t remember.
So you keep repeating it / reliving it.
And that is why LOVE HURTS.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-8iPV8coAFQ
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ADDENDUM:
If I write at length, some will stop reading.
Still, a small number of people are interested.
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THE CAT revisited
Many people, especially late in life, just give up on finding a loving
relationship with another human being and choose companionship with a
cat or a dog instead.
In my case, my relationship with The Cat who visits me is much more
precious to me than what happened with most of the women in my life,
including the woman who visits me now.
Why?
Because there is no emotional chaos and bewilderment in dealing with
The Cat. With a woman there will be chaos because of the compulsion to
relive the forgotten horrors of the later stage of infancy among
humans. With The Cat, there is no chaos.
The fact that The Cat chose me means something. It’s easy to buy a
kitten in a pet shop, and then the kitten hasn’t much choice. But this
Cat chose me. He walked in my door and has been visiting me every day
since. I gave him gentleness and respect and food. Now he rubs his
face against my face with great vigour and enthusiasm to show
gratitude and affection. None of the scatterbrained chaos that you get
with a woman.
I’ve not finished with women, but I understand them now, and I know
what to expect from a woman, and I value The Cat’s presence in my life
much more than the presence of the woman who comes here.
The Cat is as constant as the northern star. Give gentleness and
respect to The Cat, and you get back gratitude and affection
consistently in the long run. Give love to a woman and you can expect
chaos - you will come up against the universal compulsion to
‘unconsciously’ relive the chaos and hell of the later stage of the
mother-infant relationship among humans.
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If you want to try having a successful relationship with a cat, it is
important to make him feel safe in your arms. The way to lift a cat
into your arms is to place your left hand under his front paws, with
your right hand supporting his right thigh, then gently lift him up.
Always put him down gently, for example with a chair for him to jump
down onto. Then he will know he is safe in your arms. Your gentleness
will register with him. And his gratitude will be reflected in the
vigour with which he rubs his face against your face when he chooses
to show affection to you. Although the cat gives affection to you only
when he is in the mood, and he walks away when he wants to,
nevertheless there is an overall consistency there.
You know where you are with the cat.
With the human female there is only chaos because of the human
female’s compulsion to recreate the madness of the later stage of the
mother-infant relationship among humans.
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LOVE HURTS - is there a solution?
It lies far in the future, despite the simplicity of the analysis and
despite the fact that no formal education and no ‘experts’ are needed
to understand the simple analysis and to know it is the truth.
But then that’s the eternal impasse: reliance on mentally ill,
ignorant ‘leaders’ and imbecile ‘experts’ is associated with physical
survival in your primitive brain circuits, because blindly following
the most mentally ill ‘leader’ that your tribe could produce was the
only way to win those ancient survivalist wars. That is why you
repeatedly elect the most mentally ill members of your tribe as your
politicians and presidents. Mentally ill leaders are associated with
physical survival in your primitive brain circuits. That is why you
were so eager to re-elect Tony Blair and George Bush.
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COSA FARE? WHAT ARE WE TO DO?
At this stage, I would recommend that you spread the information I’ve
given you, the “Know Yourself, Heal Yourself” compilation, and some of
the recent usenet posts, for example “Halfway to Paradise,” “The Gates
of Eden,” etc., to people who might be receptive.
If I had been given this simple analysis when I was aged 18, I would
have exercised caution, recognising the signs of impending repetition
of the forgotten horrors of infancy, and my life would have been
better than it has been.
The bogus ‘therapy’ brigade will not touch the correct analysis. They
run like hell from it.
‘Therapists’ are anti-healers.
And even I have to keep issuing the health warning - do not attempt
PRE (Practical Reparenting Exercises) unless you have an emotional
safety net in the form of at least one lover who will never leave you.
PRE can release powerful emotions that some people wont be able to
cope with, unless there is that permanent love relationship.
So in the short term, we can only try to recreate *Garden of Eden
mode* in private. I would recommend co-healer groups of perhaps twelve
adults, male and female, who will love one another forever and so
provide the communal emotional safety net for those who experience
trauma as they recover the memories of the forgotten horrors of the
later stage of the mother-infant relationship. An isolated commune on
private land might work, if you’re all sane and have the right
intention. A non-residential coming together of sane beings within the
same region might work too.
Obviously there is a danger of infiltration by *ruling group stooges*.
And don’t try any healing project such as this if you are living in
USA. ‘The Land of the Free’ is now one of the most unfree countries in
the world.
I’m not enthusiastic about getting involved in any such healing
project, not after experiencing your non-response to the correct
analysis during the past ten years. But try it yourselves if you wish.
If you are sane and have the right intention, everything will all fall
into place.
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The other possibility is that after the coming collapse of the present
cycle of civilisation, with the ruling group safely drowned and
suffocated in their stupid underground bunkers, a sane survivor group
may return to *Garden of Eden mode* and in that way “the devil will be
chained for a thousand years” - until the mad survivor groups on other
continents develop ocean-going ships and their colonisers come to
impose *rationing of love to the barest minimum* again on the sane
communities…… Something slightly akin to that happened when Europeans
arrived in the South Pacific a few hundred years ago…and now they’ve
all been trained ration their love to the barest minimum in the South
Pacific just as Europeans do…. But still, we might be able to achieve
a few hundred years of sanity in some parts of the globe after the
coming collapse, until the imbeciles on other continents develop ocean-
going ships……. A few hundred years of sanity……… that is worth striving
for if you are left alive after the collapse.
So spread this knowledge as stated in “Know Yourself, Heal Yourself,”
especially to emotionally healthy young people aged about twenty. I
wish someone had given me those documents when I was twenty! Be sure
to mention that if you take these documents to an ‘expert’ or
‘therapist,’ you will be met with only hysteria and terror from the
bogus therapy brigade. A therapist is an emotional cripple, fearful of
any employment situation where she would have to meet other people as
equals, so the emotionally crippled therapists choose a line of work
where they hope to be dealing only with people even MORE emotionally
crippled than the therapist. If a therapist encounters a client who is
NOT more emotionally crippled than the therapist, then the emotionally
crippled therapist turns around and RUNS LIKE HELL from her client.
It is important to mention that factor, so that any young person who
receives this information will know what to expect if s/he decides to
‘sound out’ an ‘expert’ with regard to the correct analysis.
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So yes, under present conditions, LOVE HURTS - because we are
unconsciously recreating and reliving the long forgotten emotional
states of the horrendous child abuse that every mother in the world
imposes on babies in the later stage of the mother-infant
relationship, because unloved men make more effective soldiers.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-8iPV8coAFQ
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THE FORGOTTEN HORRORS OF THE MOTHER-INFANT RELATIONSHIP /
THE FOUNTAIN OF SORROWS / ORIGINAL SIN:
Dale Glabach, Niles Newton et al on infantile sexuality:
http://www.womanthouartgod.com/breastfeedinglovemaking.php
Careless Hands (that can't hold on to love)
http://docs.google.com/View?id=dddp6bt4_187gpmt3sjh
Shaking the Baby
http://docs.google.com/Doc?id=dddp6bt4_21gvfsbjdd
The Universal Fear of Being Known
http://docs.google.com/View?id=dddp6bt4_188hggbt5f8
The Prominence of Anal Eroticism in Infancy
http://docs.google.com/View?id=dfqhsz6n_41ckwz5hfx
Practical Reparenting - One Step at a Time
http://docs.google.com/Doc?id=dddp6bt4_144hq6nhqgd
Silence of the Damned
http://docs.google.com/Doc?id=dddp6bt4_17fz9g4h7q
I Still Miss Someone (reissued / back up copy)
http://docs.google.com/Doc?id=dddp6bt4_167dqb3cgd3
The Shame
http://docs.google.com/Doc?docid=0ATLJ93aHtMlYZGRkcDZidDRfOTA0bnA1d3dmNw&hl=en
The Incest Taboo Revisited
http://docs.google.com/Doc?id=dddp6bt4_37hfqw24g3
The best of "Collective Mental Illness"
http://docs.google.com/View?id=dddp6bt4_191cz999ngm
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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Z0pLKCxc8Rw
Love hurts, Love scars
Love wounds and mars
any heart not tough nor strong enough
To take a lot of pain, take a lot of pain
Love is like a cloud, holds a lot of rain
Love hurts......ooh, ooh love hurts
I'm young , I know, but even so
I know a thing or two I learned from you
I really learned a lot, really learned a lot
Love is like a stove, burns you when it's hot
Love hurts......Ooh, ooh love hurts
Some fools rave of happiness
Blissfulness, togetherness
Some fools fool themselves I guess
But they're not foolin' me
I know it isn't true, know it isn't true
Love is just a lie, made to make you blue
Love hurts......
Love hurts.
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COMMENT:
I remember that song well from my old 45 rpm collection. It was the B
side of ‘Running Scared’ in 1961. The label that issued it was
‘London’ in this part of the world.
At the time I didn’t know what Roy Orbison was talking about.
I understand him fully now, perhaps a lot better than he understood
himself.
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Think of the Oxana Malaya video.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-8iPV8coAFQ
Like Oxana, we all have a strong tendency, in fact a compulsion, to
repeat prominent early experiences. Sometimes it’s not so much the
physical events but the *emotional dynamics* of early life that we are
recreating and reliving, but in a different set of physical events.
Emotions are events. Prominent emotions of early life tend to repeat,
ESPECIALLY IF THEY ARE DENIED AND FORGOTTEN.
In this way, ‘love’ relationships among adults tend to follow the same
pattern as the forgotten mother-infant relationship. First there is a
blissful honeymoon period, corresponding to the heavenly joy of the
EARLY stage of the mother-infant relationship. Then, after perhaps six
months, or after the wife becomes pregnant, the love grows cold and
the wife withdraws physical intimacy, corresponding to the forgotten
horrors of the LATER stage of the mother-infant relationship when our
mothers abruptly withdrew physical intimacy from us, with no
explanation but only an avalanche of toxic shame to avoid explanation
of our mothers’ imbecility. Perhaps worst of all was the fact that the
older siblings and the other children in neighbouring houses always
join in that toxic shaming of the growing infant. The pain is
terrible, but you don’t remember the emotional bankruptcy of late
infancy.
The horrors of the LATER stage of the mother-infant relationship are
such that the only refuge is denial and amnesia for both mother and
child.
And when a prominent early experience is denied and forgotten, the
tendency to recreate / repeat / relive it in adulthood is magnified
to compulsive levels. Hence we say ‘repetition compulsion.’
There are different ways of expressing it, but it’s correct to say
that as long as we live, we all carry inside us the child we were long
ago, a raging inner child demanding that his/her story be heard.
Every mother in the world reduces her baby to nothing and nobody in
the later stage of the mother-infant relationship.
So we all carry on our shoulders this raging inner child clamouring to
make his/her story known, by constantly recreating the later stage of
the mother-infant relationship in adult life.
That is the simple explanation of why love usually grows cold after a
few months in adult relationships.
-------------------------------------------------------------------
ASK THE EXPERTS?
That would be a terrible mistake.
People who call themselves ‘relationship counsellors’ or ‘therapists’
etc. - they try to explain why it is so difficult to maintain a loving
relationship in adulthood. Invariably these ‘experts’ / ‘therapists’
are talking gobbledygook. Why? Because they don’t remember their
infancy and they don’t understand that we all are condemned to relive
the forgotten horrors of the later stage of the mother-infant
relationship in adulthood. And you go along with the gobbledygook
spouted at you by the ‘therapy’ brigade because you too don’t remember
your infancy. The bogus ‘therapy’ industry is a prominent case of THE
BLIND LEADING THE BLIND.
As Apollonius-Jesus said:
“Can the blind lead the blind? Will they not both fall into the
ditch?”
I talked to therapists only because I was lonely and because I wanted
to find out what makes them ‘tick.’
But if you go to a therapist regarding her as an ‘authority figure,’
as a dispenser of wisdom, then you’re finished. Its a case of THE
BLIND LEADING THE BLIND.
If you go to a therapist on that basis, you both will fall into the
ditch, THE BLIND THERAPIST LEADING THE BLIND CLIENT INTO THE DITCH.
-------------------------------------------------------------------
Regarding the tendency for love to come to an end after a few months -
maybe it’s not absolute in everyone’s life. All sorts of things can
happen in this world and many factors come into play. Only God knows
all things and the karmic factor always has something to say. Still,
the general tendency as stated above is undeniable.
-------------------------------------------------------------------
THIS IS A FARCE !
Sometimes it’s particularly farcical. For example, the first live-in
relationship I had with a woman lasted six years, in the sense that we
lived in the same house for six years. However, the woman withdrew
physical intimacy almost completely after the first six months,
without explanation, just as mothers do to their babies. When I asked
her: “why do we not make love any more?” she just mumbled into the
darkness the words “I don’t know,” with the same empty-headed
bewilderment which our mothers displayed as our mothers withdrew from
the delightful intimacy with their babies.
At least she was telling the truth when she said “I don’t know,” just
as mothers don’t know why they commit such horrendous child abuse by
ending intimacy with their babies.
Then the next bit is interesting.
I stayed in the same house as that woman for six years, because it was
convenient.
And…. blink blink…….eyebrows raise….. jaw drops…… it soon became clear
that she didn’t know she was doing anything wrong… she never stopped
imagining that we were engaged to be married, never stopped imagining
that we were going to spend the rest of our lives together.
Even more amazingly, she never stopped saying to me those very strange
words: “I love you.”
Now and then I explained to her the effect her withdrawal of intimacy
was having on me, and there was just a blank stare and silence or
change of subject.
She just couldn’t take it in, even though she was caring in other
ways.
Why?
Because like all other women she was blindly locked into repetition
compulsion, recreating the imbecility of the later stage of the mother-
infant relationship.
She wanted me very much and she was heartbroken and bewildered when I
left after six years. I still remember the expression of heartbreak -
and yes, puzzlement and bewilderment - on her face as I finally walked
out.
This mindless idiocy and bewilderment mirrors and mimics and recreates
and relives the mindless idiocy and bewilderment of the mother-child
relationship in this inverted civilisation.
-------------------------------------------------------------------
More than anything else, it comes down to this:
UNLOVED MEN MAKE MORE EFFECTIVE SOLDIERS.
Permanent inter-tribal war is associated with physical survival in
your primitive brain circuits. Therefore a major impulse in everyone’s
life is to ration love between humans to the barest minimum to
generate soldiers. And THAT is the ONLY reason why your mother
withdrew physical intimacy from you in late infancy, filling you with
horror and heartbreak and bewilderment, which was so terrifying that
you and your mother took refuge in denial and amnesia.
And so we all tend to mimic the later stage of the mother-infant
relationship in our adult relationships, Oxana Malaya style.
And that is why ‘relationship counsellors’ say - without understanding
why - that to make your marriage succeed you will have to *work on
your relationship every day*.
Ehhhhh….do you understand that?
That sure seems a bit queer.
Love is love.
WE SHOULD NOT HAVE TO *WORK* AT LOVING ONE ANOTHER !
The ‘experts’ / ‘therapists’ don’t understand that when you ‘work on
your relationship every day’ you are striving TO CORRECT YOUR MOTHERS’
MISTAKES, to UNDO the damage caused to us all by our mothers in the
later stage of the mother-infant relationship, which you don’t
remember and are tending to repeat and relive.
In short, we spend our entire lives blindly trying to correct the
mistakes our mothers made in the later stage of the mother-infant
relationship.
If you don’t know it yet, look again at Oxana Malaya and make the
connections.
-------------------------------------------------------------------
TAKE A SHORT CUT?
Understandably, many cultural groups lost interest in trying to make a
marriage work by politely whispering to the wife: “why do we not make
love any more?” and hearing the wife mumble into the darkness: “I
don’t know” (which was the truthful answer).
In these cultures, the men long ago lost patience with their wives’
withdrawal of intimacy in repetition of the withdrawal of intimacy in
the later stage of the mother-infant relationship……… and so the men of
these cultures long ago bypassed their wives’ imbecility by
subjugating and enslaving their women for the sake of some degree of
sanity and stability.
Maybe Sharia Law is not such a bad thing?
-------------------------------------------------------------------
So yes, LOVE HURTS.
And ALL OUR SONGS ARE SAD (nearly), because our songs, art, literature
and drama tend to be lamenting the forgotten horrors of the later
stage of the mother-infant relationship and lamenting the overall
rationing of love in this mentally ill civilisation.
Our songs, art, literature and drama are nearly always THE VOICE OF
THE VOICELESS, the voice of The Universal Infant insisting on telling
his/her story, lamenting the forgotten horrors of the later stage of
the mother-infant relationship.
You don’t remember.
It was so horrific that mother and child took refuge in amnesia.
And then mother and child blindly sing about that lost love for the
rest of your lives.
It was only late in life that I could arrive at the correct analysis
and understanding of Roy Orbison’s words.
And why is Roy Orbison admired so much?
Why his enduring and timeless appeal?
In the TV documentaries / biographies about Roy Orbison, those who
tried to explain their admiration for him were talking gobbledygook,
just like the fake ‘therapy’ brigade talk gobbledygook …….. because
Roy Orbison’s fans don’t remember their infancy, and so they don’t
understand why Roy Orbison appeals to them so much.
It is simply because Roy Orbison so expertly anchored his music in the
forgotten emotions of The Universal Infant, the infant we all once
were, bewildered and terrified by the mothers’ withdrawal of physical
intimacy under a cloud of deception and toxic shame, which is the most
prominent, the most dominant, the most powerfully formative experience
in everybody’s life.
But you don’t remember.
So you keep repeating it / reliving it.
And that is why LOVE HURTS.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-8iPV8coAFQ
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ADDENDUM:
If I write at length, some will stop reading.
Still, a small number of people are interested.
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THE CAT revisited
Many people, especially late in life, just give up on finding a loving
relationship with another human being and choose companionship with a
cat or a dog instead.
In my case, my relationship with The Cat who visits me is much more
precious to me than what happened with most of the women in my life,
including the woman who visits me now.
Why?
Because there is no emotional chaos and bewilderment in dealing with
The Cat. With a woman there will be chaos because of the compulsion to
relive the forgotten horrors of the later stage of infancy among
humans. With The Cat, there is no chaos.
The fact that The Cat chose me means something. It’s easy to buy a
kitten in a pet shop, and then the kitten hasn’t much choice. But this
Cat chose me. He walked in my door and has been visiting me every day
since. I gave him gentleness and respect and food. Now he rubs his
face against my face with great vigour and enthusiasm to show
gratitude and affection. None of the scatterbrained chaos that you get
with a woman.
I’ve not finished with women, but I understand them now, and I know
what to expect from a woman, and I value The Cat’s presence in my life
much more than the presence of the woman who comes here.
The Cat is as constant as the northern star. Give gentleness and
respect to The Cat, and you get back gratitude and affection
consistently in the long run. Give love to a woman and you can expect
chaos - you will come up against the universal compulsion to
‘unconsciously’ relive the chaos and hell of the later stage of the
mother-infant relationship among humans.
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If you want to try having a successful relationship with a cat, it is
important to make him feel safe in your arms. The way to lift a cat
into your arms is to place your left hand under his front paws, with
your right hand supporting his right thigh, then gently lift him up.
Always put him down gently, for example with a chair for him to jump
down onto. Then he will know he is safe in your arms. Your gentleness
will register with him. And his gratitude will be reflected in the
vigour with which he rubs his face against your face when he chooses
to show affection to you. Although the cat gives affection to you only
when he is in the mood, and he walks away when he wants to,
nevertheless there is an overall consistency there.
You know where you are with the cat.
With the human female there is only chaos because of the human
female’s compulsion to recreate the madness of the later stage of the
mother-infant relationship among humans.
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LOVE HURTS - is there a solution?
It lies far in the future, despite the simplicity of the analysis and
despite the fact that no formal education and no ‘experts’ are needed
to understand the simple analysis and to know it is the truth.
But then that’s the eternal impasse: reliance on mentally ill,
ignorant ‘leaders’ and imbecile ‘experts’ is associated with physical
survival in your primitive brain circuits, because blindly following
the most mentally ill ‘leader’ that your tribe could produce was the
only way to win those ancient survivalist wars. That is why you
repeatedly elect the most mentally ill members of your tribe as your
politicians and presidents. Mentally ill leaders are associated with
physical survival in your primitive brain circuits. That is why you
were so eager to re-elect Tony Blair and George Bush.
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COSA FARE? WHAT ARE WE TO DO?
At this stage, I would recommend that you spread the information I’ve
given you, the “Know Yourself, Heal Yourself” compilation, and some of
the recent usenet posts, for example “Halfway to Paradise,” “The Gates
of Eden,” etc., to people who might be receptive.
If I had been given this simple analysis when I was aged 18, I would
have exercised caution, recognising the signs of impending repetition
of the forgotten horrors of infancy, and my life would have been
better than it has been.
The bogus ‘therapy’ brigade will not touch the correct analysis. They
run like hell from it.
‘Therapists’ are anti-healers.
And even I have to keep issuing the health warning - do not attempt
PRE (Practical Reparenting Exercises) unless you have an emotional
safety net in the form of at least one lover who will never leave you.
PRE can release powerful emotions that some people wont be able to
cope with, unless there is that permanent love relationship.
So in the short term, we can only try to recreate *Garden of Eden
mode* in private. I would recommend co-healer groups of perhaps twelve
adults, male and female, who will love one another forever and so
provide the communal emotional safety net for those who experience
trauma as they recover the memories of the forgotten horrors of the
later stage of the mother-infant relationship. An isolated commune on
private land might work, if you’re all sane and have the right
intention. A non-residential coming together of sane beings within the
same region might work too.
Obviously there is a danger of infiltration by *ruling group stooges*.
And don’t try any healing project such as this if you are living in
USA. ‘The Land of the Free’ is now one of the most unfree countries in
the world.
I’m not enthusiastic about getting involved in any such healing
project, not after experiencing your non-response to the correct
analysis during the past ten years. But try it yourselves if you wish.
If you are sane and have the right intention, everything will all fall
into place.
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The other possibility is that after the coming collapse of the present
cycle of civilisation, with the ruling group safely drowned and
suffocated in their stupid underground bunkers, a sane survivor group
may return to *Garden of Eden mode* and in that way “the devil will be
chained for a thousand years” - until the mad survivor groups on other
continents develop ocean-going ships and their colonisers come to
impose *rationing of love to the barest minimum* again on the sane
communities…… Something slightly akin to that happened when Europeans
arrived in the South Pacific a few hundred years ago…and now they’ve
all been trained ration their love to the barest minimum in the South
Pacific just as Europeans do…. But still, we might be able to achieve
a few hundred years of sanity in some parts of the globe after the
coming collapse, until the imbeciles on other continents develop ocean-
going ships……. A few hundred years of sanity……… that is worth striving
for if you are left alive after the collapse.
So spread this knowledge as stated in “Know Yourself, Heal Yourself,”
especially to emotionally healthy young people aged about twenty. I
wish someone had given me those documents when I was twenty! Be sure
to mention that if you take these documents to an ‘expert’ or
‘therapist,’ you will be met with only hysteria and terror from the
bogus therapy brigade. A therapist is an emotional cripple, fearful of
any employment situation where she would have to meet other people as
equals, so the emotionally crippled therapists choose a line of work
where they hope to be dealing only with people even MORE emotionally
crippled than the therapist. If a therapist encounters a client who is
NOT more emotionally crippled than the therapist, then the emotionally
crippled therapist turns around and RUNS LIKE HELL from her client.
It is important to mention that factor, so that any young person who
receives this information will know what to expect if s/he decides to
‘sound out’ an ‘expert’ with regard to the correct analysis.
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So yes, under present conditions, LOVE HURTS - because we are
unconsciously recreating and reliving the long forgotten emotional
states of the horrendous child abuse that every mother in the world
imposes on babies in the later stage of the mother-infant
relationship, because unloved men make more effective soldiers.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-8iPV8coAFQ
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THE FORGOTTEN HORRORS OF THE MOTHER-INFANT RELATIONSHIP /
THE FOUNTAIN OF SORROWS / ORIGINAL SIN:
Dale Glabach, Niles Newton et al on infantile sexuality:
http://www.womanthouartgod.com/breastfeedinglovemaking.php
Careless Hands (that can't hold on to love)
http://docs.google.com/View?id=dddp6bt4_187gpmt3sjh
Shaking the Baby
http://docs.google.com/Doc?id=dddp6bt4_21gvfsbjdd
The Universal Fear of Being Known
http://docs.google.com/View?id=dddp6bt4_188hggbt5f8
The Prominence of Anal Eroticism in Infancy
http://docs.google.com/View?id=dfqhsz6n_41ckwz5hfx
Practical Reparenting - One Step at a Time
http://docs.google.com/Doc?id=dddp6bt4_144hq6nhqgd
Silence of the Damned
http://docs.google.com/Doc?id=dddp6bt4_17fz9g4h7q
I Still Miss Someone (reissued / back up copy)
http://docs.google.com/Doc?id=dddp6bt4_167dqb3cgd3
The Shame
http://docs.google.com/Doc?docid=0ATLJ93aHtMlYZGRkcDZidDRfOTA0bnA1d3dmNw&hl=en
The Incest Taboo Revisited
http://docs.google.com/Doc?id=dddp6bt4_37hfqw24g3
The best of "Collective Mental Illness"
http://docs.google.com/View?id=dddp6bt4_191cz999ngm
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Special Care
May 13, 2013, 7:42:38 AM5/13/13
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It's a bit like Bernardo Bertolluci sneaking those words into the
public record, the words spoken by Marlon Brando while the audience's
attention was elsewhere during 'Last Tango in Paris.'
"CHILDREN ARE TORTURED UNTIL THEY TELL THEIR FIRST LIE!"
Similarly, Roy Orbison was so emabarrassed that he sneaked 'Love
Hurts' into the public record on the B side of 'Running Scared ' in
1961.
To call it embarrassing doesn't come anywhere near it.
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LOVE HURTS
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Z0pLKCxc8Rw
public record, the words spoken by Marlon Brando while the audience's
attention was elsewhere during 'Last Tango in Paris.'
"CHILDREN ARE TORTURED UNTIL THEY TELL THEIR FIRST LIE!"
Similarly, Roy Orbison was so emabarrassed that he sneaked 'Love
Hurts' into the public record on the B side of 'Running Scared ' in
1961.
To call it embarrassing doesn't come anywhere near it.
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LOVE HURTS
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Z0pLKCxc8Rw
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