Do Birthmothers Really Think About The Child
thelma brzoska
decision they made.
Elaine M.Petersen
>From: nic...@netcom.com (thelma brzoska)
>Subject: Do Birthmothers Really Think About The Child
>Date: Sat, 6 Apr 1996 16:16:48 GMT
>You bet they do, every day of their lives and with much regret about the
>decision they made.
While I agree that the majority of birthmothers do think about the children
that they placed for adoption, I am not sure that they all regret the
decisions that they made. I would venture to guess that all birthmothers
regret the circumstances that led them to their decision, but some do indeed
feel that they made the best choice possible.
Lainie
KW
hav never been faced with the decision) that giving a child up for
adoption is an easy thing, a decision made lightly. That's so wrong and
very unfair.
Most birthmothers love their children very much, and a decision to place
that child for adoption is one made out of love.
And as a birthmother, I'll keep looking, and hoping that when I find him,
my son will understand these things. Even if he doesn't, I know....
s...@smartnet.co.za
Being a birth mother myself I know that the reason why I gave up my
baby is because I couldn't afford to look after him.
Including the fact that I had no money and my parents were already in
financial trouble, I was working as a waitress as well as studying and
I had absolutely no time to raise a child at all.
I see women who keep their babies and then get irritated when the
child wants attention.
I think that that is unfair to the child.
A baby needs the best start in life in order to survive, including
finances for the best education and all attention that he/she deserves
as well as a stable family life.
I researched every possibility to the last fact and adoption was the
best decision to make.
I think about my baby every day of my life and miss him terribly but
it is his decision whether he wants to contact me when he is the right
age to do so.
I send him presents on every occasion and write to him to tell him I
love him and send him family information that he might be curious
about.
Don't ever think that your bmom doesn't love you.
It is practically impossible not to love a person that has been part
of your own flesh and blood for 9 months.
Birth is also an emotional experience, something that you will never
ever forget.
It is incredibly difficult to give up someone you love so much.
The mother and child bond is always there whether you deny it or not
and it will be there for the rest of your life.
It is difficult for both mom and child to be seperated, it is
unnatural and was never meant to be.
So, yes the bmom does think about the child, always and she will never
stop thinking about the child even if it hurts too much to do so.
Sam
wl-diz...@society.com
IN>You bet they do, every day of their lives and with much regret about the
IN>decision they made.
Not all have regret... Heck I have known some who dont even think aout
their birth child... But I can say proudly not all regret... At least
not this birthmother... Mybson is happy smart and loves me...
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Kate Workman
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>IN>You bet they do, every day of their lives and with much regret about the
>IN>decision they made.
>Not all have regret... Heck I have known some who dont even think aout
>their birth child... But I can say proudly not all regret... At least
>not this birthmother... Mybson is happy smart and loves me...
Perhaps it's too early in the game for you to know for sure. If your son is
only 4, you'll have PLENTY of time to think about it. You may not always feel
as confident as you do now, sadly.
Kate Workman
And the Magic Words are: ADOPTEE BOB (aka Adoptee Bozo)