Hi Rob,
There'll be a much more advanced clustering solution in the commercial Akka offering, if you are interested in hearing more about it, I can send you a product sheet.
The OSS clustering solution is based upon JGroups, so most of your questions would be answered by the JGroups documentation.
Cluster.relayMessage will be sent to all nodes, but a node will not process messages that itself sent. So the effect becomes that it's sent to all except the sender.
Does this help?
BRs
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